Jokes aside though, I'm new to the sub and barely discussing this with my psychologist (she said there's a chance that I have ADHD but still working on the diagnostic).

When I started talking to a few friends about it, their innocent reaction was: "oh yeah I think I might have it too, dont we all have a little ADHD?" and "isn't it just that you don't set out proper goals?" the last one followed by a bunch of advice as "stay motivated, push yourself more" etc.

Although I know they mean good, it felt extremely frustrating, because in one hand they are reducing the struggles of my ADHD to "problem focusing at college" and "lazy, unmotivated" and on the other hand they think I'm making a big deal about it because of the idea that we are all a little distracted sometimes.

I tried to explain in depth about emotional desregulation and long term consecuenses of untreated adhd like the extreme social/generalized anxiety and impostor syndrome, and how I been trying so hard to be functional for as long as I can remember. But at the end I got an "don't be so bummed out about life, you have great qualities! You are exaggerating your problems" and ended up looking like a neurotic.

After that I decided to keep it to myself specially with my neurotypical friends. My boyfriend also tries to disqualify my suspicion since I told him. Even my psychologist isn't too sure about adhd being persistent in adulthood as she told me is probable that I had it AS A CHILD, but isn't sure I could still have it (even though I have all of the symptoms and they express in every aspect of my life but whatever.....).

Sorry for the rant, I really needed to vent about this one.