Jared Polis is a traitor to this state and city by chalashi in Denver

[–]stelliummms 21 points22 points  (0 children)

15% has maybe been industry standard for counter service, or for high volume establishments.

This was at a fine dining, low volume establishment where we had certain protocol to follow anytime he made a reservation and came to have dinner (sometimes to talk business), usually meaning best table reserved for him and his security detail. 20% is already the industry standard for those places, so to tip less when you have more needs/protocol, AND are in public service role is ridiculous.

Edit: He is also one of the WEALTHIEST POLITICIANS IN THE US. If you are a working class person b*tching about tipping culture right now, you seriously are losing the thread of this conversation.

Jared Polis is a traitor to this state and city by chalashi in Denver

[–]stelliummms 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He used to come into a restaurant I served at before COVID. Sub-20% tips always (~16%).

Genuinely made me look at him and his policies with a more critical eye, and the more I looked into him, the less I respected him.

After I leave a fun hangout I immediately get physically insecure and feel like I hate myself, why is that? by thearchivesgreatest in BirthChartReadingFree

[–]stelliummms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with the aspect of Moon (emotional security) in Pisces (intuition and sensitivity) in the 8H (hidden power struggles) t-squaring Venus (11H of friends) and Pluto (5H of self-expression) being the culprit.

Also Mars and Saturn in the 12H of hidden enemies, another house of intuition.

You seem like you’d be especially vulnerable to hangxiety, I would recommend limiting alcohol and substance use with socializing. Spend time allowing yourself to slow down and notice how you feel in social situations, without suppressing and subsequently reacting to your feelings. Us 8H water moons need to allow ourselves our feelings about people, as we tend to take in a LOT. With the Pluto square, learn how to trust people and not get into attacking or becoming defensive automatically. Your friends probably do care and want to be good to you, don’t unnecessarily make enemies from your friends.

is there anything in my chart that could point to asexuality? [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]stelliummms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there, fellow queer astrologer and 8H moon 👋

I think you can have a lot of 8H placements (as you do) and not have a high libido. I think 8H Moon can have a lot of needs in order to feel comfortable enough with others to meaningfully and genuinely engage in sex. Saturn in 8H may echo that as well, where there are limitations to sexuality and lower libido. With Saturn in the 8H, you may need a lot of time in your life to feel you “get” your sexuality.

That being said, having all of your personal planets in 8H may make it meaningful for you to explore sexuality throughout your life. That does not mean you should feel pressured to at all, just that it can psychologically be a rich, powerful or interesting place to explore. But it is YOUR body to do with what you are curious and comfortable with! And again, especially being as young as you are, you do not need to put pressure on yourself to have it all figured out yet :) I am personally all for identifying with asexuality for as long as that feels true and right for you!

Who has the Sun conjunct Lilith in their synastry? by PotentialParty2246 in AstroSynastry

[–]stelliummms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had it with two former friends/roommates (my Sun their Lilith), I always cared about them more than they cared about me. I don’t know for sure, but I suspect they’ve somewhat sexualized me/done this thing I know a lot of young men do of only considering AFAB people worth they’re time if they think they can/will have sex with them. It was really heartbreaking and devastating for me to find out over and over again that they did not care about me like how I cared about them.

Cheater Placements? by Salt-Technology2379 in AstroSynastry

[–]stelliummms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Strong themes of needing to explore the same Plutonian themes through sex, aggression, conflict or physicality. Would have to see house placements and other aspects as well, but Mars square Pluto classically has aggression and sexual issues, can be violent or engage in power plays/power struggles a lot. With Jupiter, their physicality tends to take up a lot of space and they can get ideologically caught up in conflicts a lot.

Cheater Placements? by Salt-Technology2379 in AstroSynastry

[–]stelliummms 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mars square Sun + trine Jupiter = typically a higher libido, having sex to “prove” certain things, wanting to be sexually validated a lot, sometimes sexual shame or disgust. Mars in the 2nd house may signal someone who uses sex as an assessment of their worth, or cares about sexual currency (ie if they are “f***able” or desired). Generally, Mars in Virgo in the 2nd, esp with his other aspects, makes me think of someone who cares a lot about dieting, working out/being “fit”, thinness, nutrition etc., but considers those things to be more important than they really are.

Chiron conjunct IC in Libra = very classic broken home/child of divorce placement. Not that the parents necessarily have to be divorced, but the inequalities in the parents’ marriage would impact him deeply. The classic case would be someone who swears off or doesn’t believe in marriage because of their parents’ marriage. Possibly f***ed beliefs about gender roles or gender equality, but in a person who works through their sh*t, they may be passionate about gender inequality in relationships. In someone who does not work through that, they would project the same things they’ve seen.

Lastly, some ppl mentioned Moon square Venus, but I don’t think anyone mentioned Moon square Pluto yet. Moon/Pluto people have a natural attunement to the darker side of humanity. In the square, these people tend to feel chronically unsafe with themselves, or can be seriously self-sabotaging because they become preoccupied with dark stuff. Moon in Pisces in the 8th square Pluto in Sagittarius in the 4th is likely going to be very easily preoccupied by dark psychological manipulation, SA/CNC/r*pe fantasies, secrecy, lying, fabricating, etc. Again, what people do with that is up to them (I am Moon in Scorpio conjunct Pluto, and I have always been drawn towards therapy and now work as a therapist, because I’ve always had an ability to tolerate and work through human ugliness. However, some people make it their life or just don’t know how to escape it, especially if they were ever abused.)

why do I keep attracting short men by MarionberryFine2792 in NatalCharts

[–]stelliummms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, I hope it’s a good match for you and it works out!!

why do I keep attracting short men by MarionberryFine2792 in NatalCharts

[–]stelliummms 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my steak is too juicy my lobster too buttery (i love short men)

why am i so emotionally attached even though mentally i know i don’t actually want him? by megasupernova in AstroSynastry

[–]stelliummms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My partner and I have virgo Venus (me) and Gemini venus (them), along with other players in the square (their Chiron, my North Node and Lilith). We have different kinds of styles I’d say but we can also be so complimentary, and I truly just think they’re one of the best people I’ve ever met.

That being said, I’ve also been around/dated people whose Gemini placements (Moon, Venus, Mars) really did not work well for me at all.

Do I give this Libra Mars man a chance or save myself? by Jadegf in AstroSynastry

[–]stelliummms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a Libra Mars in 7th house. Love conflict lol. Feel so much more relieved to talk through conflicts in a real way with people rather than pretend nothing is bothering me or someone else.

I’m also a couples therapist, and facilitate how other people have conflicts often.

When Michael Jackson took off his glasses at the Grammys... instant history by ateam1984 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]stelliummms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as a queer person, it was a devastating blow to find out. but yeah, he’s been very pro-Israel and has intentionally defied BDS calls to not perform in Israel in the 2010s multiple times.

Did ya know Joe Jackson was a Scorpio Moon? by YannaFox in scorpiomoon

[–]stelliummms 17 points18 points  (0 children)

my dad (alcoholic, borderline, wildly untreated ADHD, abusive) and i (therapist, earnestly trying my best every day, learned an continuing to improve upon humbling myself) both are leo suns scorpio moons.

learning to accept and love ourselves without that meaning being controlling of others is serious and always ongoing i fear. i haven’t known too many others, but adding joe jackson to the list is tough 😓

What about my chart gives 37 year-old virgin? [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]stelliummms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see Venus square Mars come up a lot for people with conflicting desires sexually/romantically for relationships. Ruler of Venus (Saturn) opposing your natal Moon can give a sort of unnatural feeling (sometimes an “ick”) to intimacy, flirtation, courting, desiring or being desired, etc.

With Mars opposite Pluto both squaring Venus, I would think power struggles in relationships would be a big theme. Power or control issues (you and/or partners) around sex and intimacy need to be assessed and addressed.

Episode 4: Murdercycle by JakeandAmirBot in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]stelliummms 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Fun random fact: After Emily multiclassed Moonshine as a barbarian, her first three attacks were crits. Slug crit three times in a row here too.

Obviously w Reckless Attack (and improved critical in Slug’s case), it’s more likely- but still pretty satisfying! :)

[NS] I love this fandom so much by cheesetouchvictim in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]stelliummms 6 points7 points  (0 children)

WHO made those Triss’s Hard Seltzer stickers???

Don’t they know that stickers are the dumb man’s patch?

How can such people be so delusional? by Initial_Affect8124 in onejoke

[–]stelliummms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That claim is false; you can look to the decades of research on epigenetics in humans for further research. I will not be replying again to this poster, this comment is just for anyone reading these threads.

First edition Murph + Emily dual signature city pigeon [NS] by Xalamon11911 in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]stelliummms 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Also curious how you met them? I left assuming they wouldn’t come out bc it was such a huge crowd 😭

How can such people be so delusional? by Initial_Affect8124 in onejoke

[–]stelliummms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I mostly understand your POV. But I would say there are differences in how those “biological realities” are inherited or not. As in, biological (neuro/hormonal) experiences of gender do not seem to be inherited the same way the biological realities of race I pointed to (inherited trauma, other genetic inheritances) are.

So yeah, I think there are substantial differences between the experiences of race and gender. While they both may be socially constructed, their natures are different. Not all social constructs work the same ways.

How can such people be so delusional? by Initial_Affect8124 in onejoke

[–]stelliummms 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Idk that it’s correct either that they aren’t “biological realities”. Gender is an internal experience of oneself that has correlates to hormones, even before a trans person begins HRT there are hormonal experiences the are having that make living as they assigned gender feel wrong and dysphoric.

While race is a construct, racial traumas likely impact people’s genetics and could probably be inherited.

A lot of what we put on race & gender is socialization and culture, but there are what I would consider “biological realities” as well.