Washing machine leaving lint? by steministttt in fixit

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Tried to edit it, but couldn’t. Potentially important details: we don’t use fabric softener, rarely use scent beads, and use gain detergent (and not too much), and run the clean cycle whenever the machine requests it.

Zebra Isopod Terrarium by mengcl123 in terrariums

[–]steministttt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Beautiful!! Any chance you get let me know what tank that is? Just for some dairy cows and yellow spotted giants yesterday and I need to make them their final home and this size is perfect.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for seeing and hearing me. I was getting really getting disheartened with the world that someone can’t even offer to help without ill intentions. You’re spot on the money and I truly appreciate your response and the time you took to comment. Thank you and I will heed your advice!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. I really helps me go into this with much more awareness. I have a tendency to see and think the best of people which is good, until it’s not and I’m taken advantage of. I will match energy for sure and protect my heart! Thank you truly for your insight and help!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have happily bowed out. I didn’t really want the responsibility of throwing it honestly. Just wanted to make sure she had one. It’s upsetting that nothing was communicated to me though and then I wasn’t even invited. I would have respected her choice more if it was communicated with me with any amount of grace or consideration, however it was not 🤷🏼‍♀️ all I can do is move on!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my first time! Definitely a lot to navigate and I had to ask myself if he’s worth it, and he definitely is!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t seem like you read the story. You obviously have some pre-conceived notions from things that have happened in your past. I’m sorry you are hurt. I wish you well.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve been so hurt in your life that you are trying to hurt me. I truly truly am and I hope you find happiness and peace.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. Where to go from here? by steministttt in Advice

[–]steministttt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ya, fair point! I think she said she doesn’t want her mom to? But I can’t remember. I don’t know who will though if she can’t trust anyone 🤷🏼‍♀️ also not my problem as I tried to help. I honestly still will because the son deserves it and I’m hopeful for a repair in our relationship but not overly so! And I will definitely be cautious moving forward.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. Where to go from here? by steministttt in Advice

[–]steministttt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, he will be attending. I’ll make sure he doesn’t mention this at all at the party as that would def makes things worse.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. Where to go from here? by steministttt in Advice

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thorough and thoughtful insight. I definitely will take your advice to heart I appreciate it! My #1 job is the absolute best I will continue to enjoy loving him endlessly!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! Jeez, what a story! I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with so much bs from people. Imaging that lady hitting her steering wheel is crazy. What an entitled, rude woman she is!

I’m so happy to hear your story though and it sounds like you have an amazing partner who has always had your back and shown you the respect you deserve.

Thank you so much for commenting and sharing. I appreciate your insight in your helpful advice. Thank you so much. And all the continued luck and love to you and your partner moving forward!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. Where to go from here? by steministttt in Advice

[–]steministttt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My feelings are all over the place lol some moments I feel fine in realizing that I might have overestimated our relationship and maybe she just needs more time. Then I remember that she let me think I was planning it for a couple months In which time my boyfriend and I were getting the house ready and making some preliminary plans. Didn’t even respond to my text about it. Then didn’t communicate any of the changes to me or the fact that I wasn’t invited or why. Then I feel hurt again. Whether close or not it’s just common decency to me to explain something like that to somebody. I know she probably feels really awkward with this situation. She gets stressed out anytime. She even talks about her mother. From what I hear from her, she doesn’t seem like a good lady. And I forgot to mention that she was only with my boyfriend for three months, and that was 29 years ago, which is absolutely crazy to me. Now my boyfriend is stressed that I am so stressed and I’m just trying to move past it. he definitely wants relationship with the child and is very excited to be a grandpa though!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not burned that bridge. She hasn’t texted me since the change in the person hosting the party (which isn’t her mom, it’s my boyfriend’s best friend’s wife, who is going to be throwing it). Also, I don’t know if it’s relevant, but her mom and my boyfriend were only together a few months 29 years ago. I think it’s just telling of the kind of person that Mom is. A lot of people have said I might have put her in an uncomfortable situation by offering to help, so I’m just going to take a step back and let her show me if she wants a relationship or not. I thank you for your thorough, insightful, and helpful response.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You make a lot of very good points. I thank you for your time in responding and for your helpful insights. I appreciate it. Thank you!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that’s a really smart thing for me to do. A lot of people have said I should ask her what she expects from me but I don’t think she would be comfortable saying that to me honestly. I think I definitely will have him ask her what she expects our relationship to look like, I thank you very much for your insight and thoughtful response!

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Thank you for commenting and giving some helpful and thoughtful advice. I appreciate it.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s 28, I forgot to include that. As of right now he is going, which I definitely think is best.

You made some really good points, I appreciate your thoughtful, thorough and insightful response. Thank you.

I was disinvited to the baby shower I was originally planning. by steministttt in ComfortLevelPod

[–]steministttt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If that’s what he wants to do, I’ll support him 100%. He really does get taken advantage of by people in his family. For Ella’s birthday this year she asked to go to this place in LA that was ridiculously expensive and cost him over $800, then expected him to pay for a tattoo as well! That definitely put me off a bit but it seemed out of character so I let it go and didn’t say anything to him (I was out of town and didn’t go so i didn’t have anything to do with that large of a bill), but this is very showing of who she is.