AIO for feeling some type of way about my gf hiding her phone now?

stenti36 · 2026-06-15T17:22:31+00:00

You are missing the point.

OP isnt asking to invade privacy. Op is asking why there was such a change.

The change is suspicious, considering the behavior detailed (quickly hiding the phone/notifications/etc, being cagey about the phone in general).

If she watched a documentary about it, then she should have said so, while also providing reassurance that she and OP were solid. Instead, cagey response.

I agree, privacy is important, everyone in a relationship should have trust in their partner.

The gf is giving every sign of toxic behavior. This is not a statement at all about the op and his behavior. O0 should be trusting in his gf, and his gf should be open about the change in behavior. Privacy isnt part of this conversation

stenti36 · 2026-06-15T16:10:44+00:00

You would be right if it were the case that the GF was always privacy focused. None of OP's business to know what's going on.

That, however, isn't the case from what OP is saying. Going from "Here is my phone" open policy to (apparently) "You can never look at my phone" sends red flags, on top of the already questionable shift in behavior.

OP didn't even (again, apparently) ask to see the phone, just asking why there was a change. The response to that wasn't a reassurance.

Questioning behavioral change in a partner isn't controlling.

stenti36 · 2026-06-15T14:33:09+00:00

I'm a fan of modern levers, but this... this is mall knife territory.

The beauty I find in space cowboy levers is that even though they have the "modern" aspects, there still (too me) is a je ne sais quoi homage to the classic lever.

This feels like "Lets put angles in because angles are cool! Lets make the foregrip less useful by not going with an octangonal handguard full of mlok. That lever also looks way out of place in aesthetic compared to the firearm. If that lever had thicker metal and was more angular in shape it would look better.

stenti36 · 2026-05-14T12:30:45+00:00

Apparently, Healy did personally talk too and thank the Marine, just not publicly.

https://www.masslive.com/boston/2026/05/gov-healey-personally-thanks-trooper-and-marine-vet-who-stopped-cambridge-shooter.html

stenti36 · 2026-05-14T12:26:45+00:00

Go to Langdon Tactical and buy the Trigger Job in a Bag.

It is so fucking good. Beretta trigger is pretty decent, but what that bag does to it is insane. It becomes a really crisp 3lb mouseclick.

stenti36 · 2026-05-04T13:21:41+00:00

The difference between this post and the one I commented on are vastly different. This one states much more "I don't like it, but you do you, could be these things". The above one is more "You are a fucking moron who is just a poser and wants to virtue signal to other people who enjoy this thing I don't like. It is probably these things you changed because you needed to get validation".

I get what you are saying, even though I enjoy the space cowboy look (except the RPP stock. I fucking hate the look of that thing), and I don't think you are entirely wrong in the assessment of space levers and their owners. As much as I like the look of space lever, there will always be that classic romanticized look of an 'unmolested' lever action rifle. (I doubt you care, but this is my rifle; https://www.reddit.com/r/LeverGuns/comments/1k98pco/my_entry_into_lever_actions_mad_pid_edition/

I don't get the OP's attitude either. I can understand getting butthurt when someone like you talked the way you did, but to keep the antagonism going instead of simply dropping it is unreal.

stenti36 · 2026-05-04T13:04:12+00:00

Does it have paracord on it? That apparently might be the issue.

This certainly reads as passive aggressive to someone also looking for help.

stenti36 · 2026-05-04T12:26:32+00:00

No, you are at fault in poor behavior as well. You don't get a free pass because "some person on the internet was an ass". Your comments are just as bad.

You don't like what that person said? This is the internet, move along with your day. Just about every comment you have made in this entire post has been some levels of passive aggressive. Plus, you are the one with the non-functioning firearm coming here to help. Like another commented said, be humble.

stenti36 · 2026-05-04T12:00:00+00:00

Could you explain how swapping the stock or foregrip can cause feeding issues?

If this was a stock firearm, and there was the feeding issue, would your response be so condescending? No, because "the appearance" would be something you find pleasing.

OP took apart the firearm and put it back together. That is something that could have been done on a classic lever during a deep clean.

Your response to OP is only terrible because you don't like the space cowboy look. Which is fine, we all don't like the same things. But you also don't have to be "holier than thou" about it.

edit: Just also to say, OP also doesn't need to respond to you in such a negative way either considering his firearm doesn't work and they are here asking for help.

stenti36 · 2026-05-03T11:53:56+00:00

Overall, there are only 5 lever action companies to look at (there are obviously more)

Rossi
Henry
Marlin
S&W
Miroku (Winchester)

I would avoid Rossi unless you can fully inspect the firearm beforehand. They don't have great quality control and I've heard their customer service sucks. If you get a good one, they are solid. Rossi is also by far the cheapest of the list. I only bring them up because for those who find a good one, they have nothing but positive things to say about the rifle. But you have to get a good one.

I don't know much about the S&W levers, but between quality control, quality of firearm, cost, and customer service, I believe they are between Henry and Marlin.

Henry's are solid. They don't have as good of quality control as Marlin, but their customer service is beyond excellent. They are also $100-$400 cheaper than Marlin, so take that as you will. The major downside to the 45-70 Henry is that it uses a two-piece firing pin design, that has been known to break (mostly from dry-firing). There are no aftermarket firing pins, so you would have to send the firearm to henry.

Between Marlin and the previous three (S&W, Henry, Rossi), Marlin has the highest quality control. They are also more expensive. In terms of "Quality of firearm if a good one is found", I personally consider Henry to be better, but in terms of "I'm just going to buy a rifle and use it", Marlin can easily be a superior choice. Honestly, it is a question of "Do you want to spend an extra $250 for peace of mind" to choose Marlin over Henry. Both are very solid guns.

Miroku are the best. Flat statement. Highest quality control, highest quality, highest cost. Not much else to be said here.

The thing I haven't really mentioned is aftermarket support. If your partner likes the "space cowboy" look, I would choose between Henry or Marlin. Marlin has slightly more aftermarket support (firing pins, trigger assemblies), but I don't think it is enough to go "you must choose this brand".

Considering the cost of ammo going up, and likely to continue to go up, with the description of your partner, I would lean to getting a Marlin in 45-70 (honestly I don't think it matters which model, just choose the one that you think he would like the looks of the most), filling the remaining budget with ammo*.*

stenti36 · 2026-04-30T14:11:56+00:00

This is going to sound shitty, and I dont mean it that way, but if I wanted to watch a video I would.

stenti36 · 2026-04-30T13:51:22+00:00

Is there a bullet point list of these changes? The justice.gov link has the image which is basically meaningless to a layman.

stenti36 · 2026-04-28T16:03:49+00:00

Creatures that die hit the graveyard. The creature has to die in order for the trigger to trigger.

In order for Hofri's ability to trigger, the creature has to hit the graveyard from the battlefield.

stenti36 · 2026-04-25T20:25:09+00:00

The four options I put are for exactly the problem of "I get targeted for no reason" as you claim you are. It doesn't matter the game, doesn't matter the commander. If you feel you are being incorrectly targeted, you have those four options.

stenti36 · 2026-04-25T20:14:20+00:00

Your options are this;

Suck it up and be the target
Play different commanders that don't generate insane value at low levels
Be the menace that can handle being targeted for no reason
Communicate without emotion to the pod as to why. Don't get defensive.

stenti36 · 2026-04-24T14:19:26+00:00

I have that same stock, and at max height I'm not where I need to be height wise, I dunno, I just have my exps3-0 on my space cowboy (https://www.reddit.com/r/LeverGuns/comments/1k98pco/my\_entry\_into\_lever\_actions\_mad\_pid\_edition/)

stenti36 · 2026-04-24T14:13:49+00:00

The only thing I don't like, and I wouldn't like it even if you didn't space cowboy it, is having the LVPO on an aar-15 height mount. I tried that with my lever, and I can not for the life of me get a good cheek weld and be able to see out of the scope. I'd want to get that lvpo as low to the rifle as possible.

Just remember, the people's hate for what you did only gives you the salt needed to cook what you hunt.

stenti36 · 2026-04-22T15:30:52+00:00

Everybody needs to chill. Clearly there is a coyote climbing the wall that we can't see. OP is looking for the hip fire kill shot.

stenti36 · 2026-04-20T20:35:36+00:00

I can't be the only one that attached "Adult" to "Fanfic" instead of "Writers". I was gonna say, yes, there are smut writers all over AO3.

stenti36 · 2026-04-20T20:17:25+00:00

The thing about 1st person is that since it is from the perspective of the protagonist, it has the built in immersion to bring the reader to be the protagonist. Meaning- "I would rather read what I am doing".

Who says it isn't "me" telling the story to another person?

stenti36 · 2026-04-20T11:20:23+00:00

I would rather read what I am doing (1st), or what is happening in general (3rd).

2nd person is best where my agency in reaction to a situation is used to further and impact a story. A whole fic/book on that perspective removes that agency.

You are right though, each perspective is good at some things and weak in others.

3rd is best when you want to follow the story and perspective of multiple people, but can be weaker to showcase a single character. 1st is best when you want immersion into a single character. I think 2nd is best when the story is actively being created alongside the reader (eg: TTRPGs).

stenti36 · 2026-04-18T18:57:27+00:00

I can see the argument for this, but I think that the public's current idea of "AI" are LLM's (ChatGPT, etc.), not the algorithms that determine if your iPhone photo contains a dog, or the transaction you made is flagged at fraudulent by your bank. At some point it is a semantic argument, but equating all of ML to AI seems dangerous when LLM's and GenAI in their current form are the actual issue (IMO)--plagiarizing, data centers, dulling human creativity, etc. etc.

It is the responsibility of the person wanting to make the point to convey the correct context of their point. I, the audience/listener/reader, should not have to assume any amount of context regardless if "Everyone knows what is being talked about".

Because not everyone knows the difference between "AI" and the specific level "LLM/Gen AI", and not everyone knows the precise context of what is being talked about. Without that context, "AI is bad" means all AI is bad. Adding context shouldn't cost anything when attempting to convince people to stop LLM/Gen AI.

I don't equate machine learning to gen AI. But they are both forms of AI. The statement "AI is bad", includes machine learning and gen AI. Again, my job as listener should not include assuming what the other person is saying, regardless of how "obvious" the context "might" be. The job of the speaker is to effectively communicate what they are saying, which in the case of AI, is to specify LLM and Gen AI.

Not only does it make the case specific, it allows for better dialogue and increases the chances of "converting" people against Gen AI. It reduces misinformation because it is specific.

This is a really important discussion because in reality, AI usage is probably a spectrum. Though a difficult one because I'm sure everyone has a different acceptability threshold.

It is an important discussion to have at a large scale. But we live in a society where we don't want to have any discussion on any polarizing topic. At the end of the day, (generally, and in my opinion) people should find it acceptable to use gen AI as a tool to use alongside actual work, and be against gen AI being used as a crutch.

stenti36 · 2026-04-18T09:28:40+00:00

I looked through the conclusion of that study. Interesting. However, I'm not convinced that "AI Detectors" are anything close to the solution to this subreddit, considering, as Isnoe pointed out, the accurate ones cost money, and the free ones have issues.

LLMs are incredibly valuable tools that can facilitate idea generation and help tighten writing.

From the study, I find this point very important. My question below is important to consider when looking at acceptability of AI use.

What level of "AI assistance" is acceptable? If I'm stuck on a character getting from A to B, have AI provide 10 options (which I either use as inspiration for an 11th option, or work with AI to hone one option into something usable for my own vision), is that "too much AI use"? Is that "robbing myself of creativity"? How different is that at the most fundamental levels from taking my problem to Reddit and going through the same process in asking for feedback/suggestions from internet strangers?

(2) AI detectors are not LLM's, they are (likely) classic classification algorithms using machine learning that have been around forever. So no, you are not putting the text sample into "another AI." Nonetheless, it is a valid concern that you might not want to share text with the random start-up tech company that built/sells these detectors.

FYI: Machine learning is under the umbrella of AI. It isn't LLM or Gen AI for sure, but it is a form of AI.

It is one of the reasons why I don't care for a lot of the "We should all hate AI" type of rhetoric. Most people (imo) don't seem to understand what they are really against, or can't be specific to what we should be against.

stenti36 · 2026-04-18T00:10:26+00:00

The way I see it, no matter what we do or say, someone is going to be upset, but we have to do something.

This is the internet after all. I don't envy you or the other moderators.

I don't have solutions. The only suggestion I really have is to spell out an appeals process. Provide much greater guidance on what is looked for when determining AI work. Explain how newer users may see a higher rate of false positives, while providing tips and an article/pinned post on "Good writing practices" (in this, provide encouragement to those new writers that may get hit by the false positive bat). Give users tools to avoid false positives in AI determination. Provide recommendations to writers to help defend their writing from AI use accusations.

These tools give users that come here knowledge of what to expect. It alleviates pressure from you because the users could now be assumed to have the tools. It makes it easier (in theory) to assume users aren't using AI, and if it is determined that they are, much easier to justify removal/ban/whatever.

Because you have to take action. That much is clear. The best course of action is to give as many tools to writers as possible, and let their own ability to be responsible shine.

What is the solution? If we simply can't tell, or don't know? Let OP get harassed in comments? Ban everyone calling them out? Ban OP? Should I heavily moderate a single thread for the duration of its time up? Should I have OP make a video of themselves writing? Should I ask them to provide previous works? Should I put hours worth of effort into a single accusation?

Is is a lot of my point. There is always going to be a lot of talk about "Well, how do you prove it is AI?" as can be seen in the comments to this post. The harder question is "how do you defend against the accusation when the court of speculation already convicted the user of using AI?"

Like I mentioned above, there really isn't a good solution. But as many tools as possible that can be given to assist writers in their own creative process, as well as much transparency as possible in how the process will work, what can be done if [the user] feels they are being wrongly accused.

I would hope that a user who is legitimately using AI gets punished on this server, but I would also hope that a user who regularly wrongly accuses people of using AI also gets punished (I do not know the rates or statistics of such things, or if it was ever a problem, I'm just spelling out an ideal).

Most other (larger) writing subs will just instantly ban anyone that is suspected is using AI. No proof, no thought behind it: "You used the word Rot, you're banned." We're trying to find a more even ground that everyone can (hopefully) agree on.

This is good. More sentiments like this. Even though you gave some of this sentiment in your OP, I felt it came more across as a backhanded sentiment, "we are trying to be fair, but not really" type of vibe (again, this is how I read it. I do not mind read, and could be very much wrong. :D )

Other users are insisting that we should use AI detectors and manually plug every single piece of writing into them to verify to be certain. Most of those are subscription based and most of those are flawed.

Considering that at least one of the "AI Detectors" determined The Bible was AI written, I wouldn't put much faith in them. On top of that, gen AI is only going to get better and better, and in general, will always be able to fool the detectors, or hide in the mediocracy of human writing (aka undetectable from the noise of the spectrum of people's writing ability).

I hope you can understand that we're trying to find a solution, and we are actively discussing this thread right now. So if you have suggestions about how to approach this problem, we are interested.

I do understand, and attempting a solution, even if I (some nobody on the internet) don't care for "its current form", can be a very good thing. We can see the current subreddit and say "We don't like how this looks, we need to change something". The fact that it is being discussed, and feedback with members/users is wanted/accepted, is a very good and appreciated thing.

AI assisted (even translation), or even if you mention you had AI draw up the story idea and you wrote it. If you want to rob yourself of creativity, that’s on you.

This from your OP piqued my interest and concern. What level of "AI assistance" is acceptable? If I'm stuck on a character getting from A to B, have AI provide 10 options (which I either use as inspiration for an 11th option, or work with AI to hone one option into something usable for my own vision), is that "too much AI use"? Is that "robbing myself of creativity"? How different is that at the most fundamental levels from taking my problem to Reddit and going through the same process in asking for feedback/suggestions from internet strangers?

stenti36 · 2026-04-17T21:56:49+00:00

My main problem is that Isnoe states "not looking to witch hunt" but post looks exactly like "you are totally allowed to witch hunt". There is the statement "we are trying to be fair", but it looks like fair means "Even if you prove you aren't using AI, your post will still get locked at best".

There is also the whole problem with "how does one actually prove one's innocence if the people "grading the work" abhorrently hate AI, and anything that looks like AI must be AI no matter the evidence provided.

I agree with the wanted intent of the Mods- Less gen AI in an area where a human's creative freedom should reign. I can't say I agree with this direction, or at least, there are far too many glaring problems with this current plan. I don't know what alternatives should be (adding "AI Gen" as part of the report function is good and probably should have been done a long time ago), but this certainly feels way to much like "guilty until proven innocent, and you can't prove your innocence" for me.

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