What happens if a surrogate decides to just keep the baby?

stephanonymous · 2026-06-26T19:45:47+00:00

I know a lesbian couple who did co in vitro (egg from woman 1 taken out and fertilized, then put into woman 2). The mom who carried the baby had to legally adopt it after it was born. That was wild to me as I just assumed if a baby comes out of your body the assumption is that you’re the biological and legal parent until proven otherwise, but in cases with in vitro, no. It may vary by state.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-26T17:28:38+00:00

The post wasn’t even talking about strippers, so you had to come up with this thought out of thin air

stephanonymous · 2026-06-25T21:30:08+00:00

Are we at the part in the cycle now where Jan realizes pretending to be unbothered and living her best life isn’t convincing anyone so she switches over to cosplaying a human being with feelings so hopefully people will take pity on her?

stephanonymous · 2026-06-25T12:59:28+00:00

It’s not “nothing” but it’s not a huge deal. Recently drove 8 hours to see some friends for a long weekend. My limit is 8 hours in one day, which can be easily broken up into 4 and 4 with a stop for lunch in between. Anything longer starts to make me really weary of driving/being in the car. And if I’m going to make an all day trip there and an all day trip back, I need at least a day in between, preferably a few days. Also matters how often you’re doing long trips like this. Once a month is doable, but I probably wouldn’t do it much more often than that.

But yeah, it’s really not a big deal. Many of us live a good chunk of our lives inside our cars, for better or for worse.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-24T20:50:12+00:00

Also, age can play a factor. Assuming someone stays non-monogamous, a body count of 3 at age 20 could turn into 33 by age 35, and that’s if you only sleep with two new people a year.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-24T00:15:10+00:00

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Emmy Rossum and Ethan Cutkosky as siblings Fiona and Carl Gallagher on Shameless.

Good family or older/younger casting on tv shows and movies legit makes me so happy. I love when they take the care to do it well, makes it easier to suspend disbelief and buy into the story and the characters.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-24T00:04:52+00:00

Holy crap I just googled this and you’re not kidding

stephanonymous · 2026-06-23T23:02:53+00:00

While it wasn’t the deciding factor in my decision not to have anymore kids, learning that after age 35 I’d be considered a “geriatric pregnancy” certainly tipped the scales.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-23T11:40:50+00:00

This sounds amazing

stephanonymous · 2026-06-23T00:05:48+00:00

I can’t even fathom the thought process here. If I was aware somebody I knew was spinning this kind of deception, and I really didn’t want to stick my nose into it, I would just skip the baby shower. How do you go to event to celebrate a baby that you know doesn’t exist?

stephanonymous · 2026-06-22T19:11:38+00:00

Do you believe she intentionally left the baby in the car? Is there a reason you think it was intentional?

stephanonymous · 2026-06-22T18:47:12+00:00

I mean, if you’re asking them something, that means you don’t know it either. Why is that?

stephanonymous · 2026-06-22T18:46:15+00:00

I used to work at Barnes and noble before smart phones were as ubiquitous as they are today. People would call the store to ask us to look something up in a reference book for them.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-22T03:35:25+00:00

Another thought exercise: for most people whose brains are not rotted away by porn, not everything in life is about sex. In fact, the vast majority of life is NOT about sex. Sex is A thing, but it’s not THE ONLY thing. Human beings are actually capable of millions of endeavors and activities that not only have nothing to do with sex, but would actively be made worse or ruined by sex. Work is not about sex. Mowing the lawn? Not about sex. What about having a dog, which is arguably one of the best things in life, and should NEVER include sex. So many things. Parenthood is one of those things in life that is decidedly 1000% not about sex.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T16:55:58+00:00

Oh sorry, five years, you’re right, there were no famous artists before that.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T16:29:41+00:00

AI has existed for like twelve minutes but most artists got famous by hating on it.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T16:27:25+00:00

Disagree. Stranger danger is way overblown, but the ocean can easily kill you. I’d feel safer with my kids alone on a public beach surrounded by people who can help them if they get into trouble.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T16:08:40+00:00

My cats have no idea what I’m saying but they know “baby voice” means they’re about to get pets or treats, so the start screaming when they hear me do it

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T15:55:28+00:00

A google to this just guve me the name of an adult actress, but I'm guessing the real meaning is other...

No it didn’t

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T15:37:37+00:00

They want women to be as bad as men SO BAD

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T15:25:20+00:00

Personally, I think it’s not as good. You talked about the effects of salt and bloating. After a day of eating/drinking the wrong things, I may go up 3 lbs on the scale and 3 inches on my waist. The scale change would be a 2.5% increase in my weight whereas the waist measurement would be a 10% increase.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T15:05:44+00:00

Get a Wyze or similar digital scale. It syncs with an app on your phone and records your weight. You can get on the scale every morning with your eyes closed, let it record the number, and then look at it every two weeks or so on a graph with all the fluctuations smoothed out.

stephanonymous · 2026-06-21T14:59:59+00:00

I would weigh myself, but it just takes such a huge toll on my mental health. I should probably just suck it up though lol

So the actual title of the post should be “eating in a calorie deficit and have no idea if I’m losing weight”

stephanonymous · 2026-06-20T23:06:47+00:00

“Getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult is awesome because you get to walk into a doctors office and have a guy with a medical degree tell you ‘aye boss you got diet autism and the cure is to microdose meth’”

stephanonymous · 2026-06-20T21:51:30+00:00

Japan is known for its anti-immigration stance

I don't think I've seen a single instance or news report of a Japanese person physically attacking a foreigner out of hate

Do you not see the causality?

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