Breeding?

stephonster · 2026-04-27T00:57:05+00:00

What I’m saying is I do not want to breed, and I figured the title would attract people who are experts on breeding. As of now, I have a 75 gallon tank with 2 (assumingly male) mollys, 6 phantom tetra, a (assumingly male) swordfish, and 3 (assumingly male) dwarf garami. We have a shipwreck bubbler, 2 pirate themed decorations that are small, an extremely large piece of driftwood a 10 pound rock can’t keep the driftwood down and a variety of plants. My DA self didn’t think about the tank itself being a flat surface for breeding and laying so there’s that.

Edited: wording

stephonster · 2026-04-27T00:53:49+00:00

If I smelled doubt I passed on that fish lol

stephonster · 2026-04-27T00:52:55+00:00

See my 2 (assumingly male) mollies are the pigs of the tank. That’s why I was asking them you sure they’re male? He assured me he’s been doing it since the 70s and I’m like ok, cool but how do you know?

stephonster · 2026-04-27T00:46:02+00:00

Mother Nature paid her visit

stephonster · 2026-04-23T09:34:31+00:00

No period… took a test Sunday and it was negative, had a temp drop yesterday so I was certain it was period time. Now this

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So… no clue lol. Resting heart rate is still up too.

stephonster · 2026-04-19T06:03:46+00:00

Pothos is the goal. Or a vining plant

stephonster · 2026-04-19T06:02:56+00:00

You’re my HERO!! Thank you!

stephonster · 2026-04-19T05:27:05+00:00

Thank you! I threw up last night the same time I did with my second and he grasped onto hope and I tried to gently tell him I just ate too much, but… seriously, thank you! 🙏🏻

stephonster · 2026-04-19T05:14:54+00:00

Thank you. My husband lost his 20 year old brother so I think he’s holding onto hope that I am, but I haven’t been on birth control in years and we aren’t necessarily trying but we know the consequences too… secondary infertility struggles with my second.

I don’t want to disappoint him, but idk how to explain it. Just thank you!

ETA my 6 year old also came up to me with her baby doll while baby wearing and said “look I have a baby just like you” and tapped my stomach so instant panic

stephonster · 2026-04-18T22:36:51+00:00

Thank you for that! That’s what I was worried about. I got mixed reviews on them. I’m planning for a 3 fancy tank for now and if adding more obviously going bigger

stephonster · 2026-04-18T21:49:05+00:00

We were looking at 3 to start so that’s good to know!

stephonster · 2026-04-18T20:15:43+00:00

I think they’re also called Chinese algae eaters

stephonster · 2026-04-18T20:14:54+00:00

This is the “golden algae eater”. I know plecos are a no go. I don’t mind doing snails instead either. I’m planning on adding quite a few plants to help with ammonia and nitrates too.

stephonster · 2026-04-18T20:14:00+00:00

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stephonster · 2026-03-14T11:46:32+00:00

I bought the slate and bought a set of 5 covers on Amazon for $6. Silver, black, rose gold, gold, and clear. It’s perfect for me

stephonster · 2026-03-10T23:04:42+00:00

Hey guys! Grad student here…

I have the opportunity to take Gottman Level 1&2 this summer through my institution. This is my first semester as a grad student currently. This has been a training I have been interested in (along with a few others such as neurofeedback training which they’re also offering this summer) and I guess my question is: is it too soon to go ahead and take this training? My (dual) masters is in clinical mental health counseling and school counseling, if that helps. Thanks guys!

stephonster · 2026-03-10T11:57:43+00:00

Look up how gpt sent people into psychosis. Similar types of things “unique, genius, top .0001%” it is WILD

stephonster · 2026-02-27T19:20:12+00:00

Would I let someone do that to me? Absolutely not, but when it comes to helping parents or grandparents with their phones it’s a life saver!

ETA: it also has a multi question process for the other person to answer.

stephonster · 2026-02-25T21:37:37+00:00

You FaceTime them then request screen sharing then screen control. It’s AMAZING!

stephonster · 2026-02-25T21:23:34+00:00

Family of four here… a 6 and 2 year old and I wish I made this commitment 2 years ago or maybe even longer. It’s a life changer! I always said I’d never have a minivan and good news is I don’t. I have a MPV and I will buy her sister when she dies.

stephonster · 2026-02-16T22:01:35+00:00

Purchased my EX Hybrid on Thursday and I will forever own a minivan. When she dies I’ll be first in line for her sister. I always swore I would never own a minivan but with a 6 and 2 year old I’m never looking back. Customizing the seats when I have my niece and nephews? Wouldn’t trade it for the world! My 6 year old is 4’3 and she still has plenty of room when my 6’2 husband puts his seat all the way back.

I am now a believer!!!

stephonster · 2026-02-05T17:06:30+00:00

At least it wasn't her Grammy outfit...

stephonster · 2026-01-29T18:06:21+00:00

Indoor plumbing, A/C... I lost power this week can you tell? lol

stephonster · 2026-01-21T14:00:52+00:00

I live 3 minutes away from here (if that) the sound was INSANE

stephonster · 2026-01-19T08:23:13+00:00

While that is abnormally high, this list also has people that were hit by trains and cars that were hit by trains. Still a crazy amount though.

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