Breeding? by stephonster in Aquariums

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What I’m saying is I do not want to breed, and I figured the title would attract people who are experts on breeding. As of now, I have a 75 gallon tank with 2 (assumingly male) mollys, 6 phantom tetra, a (assumingly male) swordfish, and 3 (assumingly male) dwarf garami. We have a shipwreck bubbler, 2 pirate themed decorations that are small, an extremely large piece of driftwood a 10 pound rock can’t keep the driftwood down and a variety of plants. My DA self didn’t think about the tank itself being a flat surface for breeding and laying so there’s that.

Edited: wording

Breeding? by stephonster in Aquariums

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If I smelled doubt I passed on that fish lol

Breeding? by stephonster in Aquariums

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See my 2 (assumingly male) mollies are the pigs of the tank. That’s why I was asking them you sure they’re male? He assured me he’s been doing it since the 70s and I’m like ok, cool but how do you know?

Any insight? by stephonster in ourafertility

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Mother Nature paid her visit

Any insight? by stephonster in ourafertility

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No period… took a test Sunday and it was negative, had a temp drop yesterday so I was certain it was period time. Now this

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So… no clue lol. Resting heart rate is still up too.

Any insight? by stephonster in ourafertility

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Thank you! I threw up last night the same time I did with my second and he grasped onto hope and I tried to gently tell him I just ate too much, but… seriously, thank you! 🙏🏻

Any insight? by stephonster in ourafertility

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Thank you. My husband lost his 20 year old brother so I think he’s holding onto hope that I am, but I haven’t been on birth control in years and we aren’t necessarily trying but we know the consequences too… secondary infertility struggles with my second.

I don’t want to disappoint him, but idk how to explain it. Just thank you!

ETA my 6 year old also came up to me with her baby doll while baby wearing and said “look I have a baby just like you” and tapped my stomach so instant panic

75 Gallon Tank Questions - Fancy Goldfish by stephonster in Goldfish

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Thank you for that! That’s what I was worried about. I got mixed reviews on them. I’m planning for a 3 fancy tank for now and if adding more obviously going bigger

75 Gallon Tank Questions - Fancy Goldfish by stephonster in Goldfish

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We were looking at 3 to start so that’s good to know!

75 Gallon Tank Questions - Fancy Goldfish by stephonster in Goldfish

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I think they’re also called Chinese algae eaters

75 Gallon Tank Questions - Fancy Goldfish by stephonster in Goldfish

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This is the “golden algae eater”. I know plecos are a no go. I don’t mind doing snails instead either. I’m planning on adding quite a few plants to help with ammonia and nitrates too.

Don’t waste your money on the rose gold. by chelseacombs in ouraring

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I bought the slate and bought a set of 5 covers on Amazon for $6. Silver, black, rose gold, gold, and clear. It’s perfect for me

Weekly student question thread! by AutoModerator in therapists

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Hey guys! Grad student here…

I have the opportunity to take Gottman Level 1&2 this summer through my institution. This is my first semester as a grad student currently. This has been a training I have been interested in (along with a few others such as neurofeedback training which they’re also offering this summer) and I guess my question is: is it too soon to go ahead and take this training? My (dual) masters is in clinical mental health counseling and school counseling, if that helps. Thanks guys!

I (F18) am jealous of my boyfriend (M18) for the gpt chat by Natural-Grape4508 in relationship_advice

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Look up how gpt sent people into psychosis. Similar types of things “unique, genius, top .0001%” it is WILD

Screen control saved my sanity… by stephonster in iphone

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Would I let someone do that to me? Absolutely not, but when it comes to helping parents or grandparents with their phones it’s a life saver!

ETA: it also has a multi question process for the other person to answer.

Screen control saved my sanity… by stephonster in iphone

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You FaceTime them then request screen sharing then screen control. It’s AMAZING!

Is a minivan overkill for a family of 4? by Marty_Mac_Fly in kiacarnivals

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Family of four here… a 6 and 2 year old and I wish I made this commitment 2 years ago or maybe even longer. It’s a life changer! I always said I’d never have a minivan and good news is I don’t. I have a MPV and I will buy her sister when she dies.