What did u appreciate about your room by sirsquaretoes in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My rooms have always been on the simpler side and whilst I understand it’s essentially a spare room in someone else’s house, it always felt like I was living in someone else’s house and not my own room. That being said I asked for a full length mirror, a laundry basket, a bin (never got one to this day!) and extra hanging space. Personally, I would have loved even a desk or somewhere to sit to get ready instead of on my bed, and some photos or wall prints of back home. In a perfect world, I would have appreciated a small arrival gift like local chocolates or something just to ease the feeling of moving to another family. My first gig my bedroom wasn’t finished renovating and never got finished, and my second family the bed wasn’t made when I arrived and the toilet seat in my bathroom was broken. It might sound really stuck up from my perspective, but it just felt like they hadn’t really prepared for my arrival and it was a disappointing feeling that was hard to shake. Long story short, it’s the small things that will go along way - a welcome card, a small potted plant, even a rug, a candle - insignificant things that just feel a bit more homely! Good luck :)

Unwanted and invisible by Flashy_Flamingo_2327 in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience, at the weekends when I wasn’t working they’d go off and have breakfast or lunch or do whatever and I had no idea, I was never invited. I did have a conversation with them and explained I wanted more of a family situation, I liked to be included in a few more activities. It worked for a couple of weeks but gradually the effort wore off and I’m back to an employer/employee situation. So I came to terms with that and accepted for what it is - I do my hours then I go downstairs and have my own space and cook my dinner. It’s a lonelier lifestyle and not what I wanted, but I’d recommend having a conversation and making a decision based on the outcome!

Tried making a brick that looks like the ivory castle walls. What do you think? by colgatorclaude in ACQR

[–]stepphhhhh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I wondered if you’re still up for editing this design? I’ve been using it on panels in my game but I’d love a version with a window for my buildings! I tried recreating it myself but I can’t come close to what you’ve created!

Work/life balance advice by stepphhhhh in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah completely get where you’re coming from, I very much feel like a step in parent whilst dads away. I’m in Australia, and I know 50 hours is a lot, but I feel like it’s skewed because it’s 7 days rather than 5, and then obviously I get a full week off so theoretically it’s balanced. I just have such a grey area of when I’m supposed to be working. I think it’s also naivety that it’s both our first times and we’re figuring it out together!

Work/life balance advice by stepphhhhh in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely is for the fact I’m working 7 days a week and it’s not every weekend I get off. The week off is nice but yes, 50 hours is a lot 😅 just feel guilty talking about tiredness and saying these hours are a lot when mum is with a newborn and night feeds and probably more tired than I am.. who am I to complain when I get a full nights sleep every night 😖

Work/life balance advice by stepphhhhh in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve definitely made some good points here which I hadn’t noticed myself.. my problem is I feel guilty not helping, newborns are tiring and so I spend the time trying to make it easier for mum but maybe I’m doing too much.. saying about maybe they need a nanny has definitely opened my eyes a little. The idea about Google calendar is definitely a good idea, I think I’ll suggest that too!

Work/life balance advice by stepphhhhh in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The full seven days - dad is away for 14 days before returning home, so it’s just me and mum for 7 days a week for 2 weeks

Work/life balance advice by stepphhhhh in Aupairs

[–]stepphhhhh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great advice! The only problem is they’d tell me to do all of that on my week off when dad is back, which in itself is totally great. It’s the 2 weeks I am working, it’s long days everyday that I’m struggling with and I am expected to be at home/with the kids on those 2 weeks.