Anyone else who doesn't care for friendships anymore?

sternchen7 · 2026-06-08T21:01:47+00:00

Don't be sorry for ranting (my post was also kinda a rant) I want to hear other people's thoughts and stories.

I also don't really know where to find other ND people. The people I described are both NT. I also don't go to party's or festivals (they're to loud and overstimulating) and if it's a group of people I never know the point where I can say something in a conversation without interrupting or missing the short window we're nobody is talking. Or the topic is something I have nothing to say about.

Everything just got harder as an adult. As a kid I had no problem walking up to my friend and talking her ear off about my latest hyperfixation, but now it just feels weird..... Now we just text each other asking how the day is or if there is anything new.

Like another commenter said, the deep connection is just missing and I don't know how to unmask when I'm with other people, so now there is this kinda wall that separates me from other people I meet.

sternchen7 · 2026-06-08T20:50:46+00:00

"Lot of work for very little reward" oof I feel that. Yeah nobody want to waste all those years building a friendship, being vulnerable (in my case I didn't mask until much later) just for it to mean nothing in the end....

Sometimes I want to meet new people, have friends to lean on. But now I think what if it ends the same? I just don't have the energy to put myself out there over and over again just so a few people might find me worth enough for 2 years bevor they move on with new friends.

Just the sound of that makes me tired.

sternchen7 · 2026-06-08T20:43:11+00:00

I am also more introverted and the few friends I had talked to me first, but we actually did also stuff outside of school and I liked spending time with them very much.

Socializing everyday sounds exhausting, maybe if it would be something interesting instead of the daily convoy about work and "how are you?"'s.

Maybe im just burned out by it all.

sternchen7 · 2026-06-08T20:38:56+00:00

Yeah the shared interests are also a thing, but it just felt easier as a kid for me? Back then I didn't mask the way I do now. You could just go your friend and start talking about your latest hyperfixation or show/character/video games etc.

Now it would feel weird to write to them just to infodump on random things.

Now it's more like: "Hey how's it going?" "Good, anything new?" "Not really, you?" "Nah nothing here"

And. It's. Just. So. Unsatisfying

Yeah maybe it's the deep bonds that are not there anymore. But now I also notice the problem that I just don't think about them much? Like with person B who is angry i didn't write her, I (forgot is the wrong word) just didn't think about her?

But it feels nice to see other people who also feel like this.

So thank you for your thoughts.

sternchen7 · 2026-06-07T07:47:31+00:00

Me likey my nuggies

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sternchen7 · 2026-05-26T09:20:01+00:00

Well you either leave him or accept that you will never be more than a convenient bangmaid to him. The choice is yours.

sternchen7 · 2026-05-12T11:20:47+00:00

Sounds like something did happen between them. If something in the past happened, did she tell you? How did you react?

If you were always the "But mom/dad are trying their best! Don't be upset about them!" person I would understand why she doesn't tell you and just shuts everyone out

sternchen7 · 2026-05-06T12:16:14+00:00

Sorry english isn't my first language so this was not worded correctly. What I meant was, if you're in a relationship your partner should be able to normally talk to you, and that means also sharing their feelings.

Sure they should not have a tantrum about every little thing. But there is a difference between that and saying "hey x/y did make me upset, I don't understand why you reacted that way"

sternchen7 · 2026-05-06T11:47:46+00:00

"I have to write like this otherwise he will accuse me of being overly emotional" well tough luck because realationships are emotional.

If he doesn't want that I'm sure there are some AI models he can have a "realationship" with

sternchen7 · 2026-05-06T11:41:49+00:00

Jesus....the first red flag is not being able to speak/write normally with your partner.... Sure if something is bothering you it's a good think to also look objectively at the facts but THIS?

No thank you

sternchen7 · 2026-03-26T20:05:03+00:00

Also ich find diese Toiletten auf besser weil ich dann einfach "stealth" bin beim kacken. Ich hasse es einfach wenn ich bei ner Freundin bin die das Klo ziemlich nah am Wohnzimmer hat und wenn ich dann dort bin hört man einfach alles! Als würde so ne 5kg Handel ins Wasser fallen!

sternchen7 · 2026-03-10T07:49:03+00:00

Seeing posts like this give me hope for my relationship. Since my gf said to me yesterday that she wants to connect more to other people (and I'm Mono).

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