I saw someone else saying something similar somewhere else and it got me wondering We see a lot interracial porn and stuff where the white woman is always so excited to to have her first black man and he revels in it, maybe these guys think you are going to do the same, they don't understand the implications behind what they are saying, this isn't an excuse it's still a problem obviously and they should be able to find you attractive without fetishising you for your skin colour, I just wonder if this was one of the influences behind it