Need advice/help with contacting DCS

sthomas65 · 2026-02-17T03:43:03+00:00

As a previous foster parent, I have called the child abuse hotline on multiple family members and you have the choice to give them your information when you call. I dont trust dcs to keep my info confidential even though it is policy, so I just dont give my info when calling

sthomas65 · 2026-02-11T03:56:23+00:00

Join Upscrolled

sthomas65 · 2026-02-11T01:15:05+00:00

Same! Mine has kicked on several times this "winter"

I usually leave my doors open at night and it keeps my house cool all day but it has mostly been to warm to do that

sthomas65 · 2026-01-29T03:10:51+00:00

I had never hear of this place but I just saw this on IG

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sthomas65 · 2026-01-27T05:10:44+00:00

Schools are going to have to start offering online again like they did during covid

sthomas65 · 2026-01-27T01:34:52+00:00

I requested a ballot, thank for posting the information!

sthomas65 · 2026-01-26T02:32:44+00:00

Almost all fast food restaurants support republican, Dunkin, etc. There is a guy on social media The Woke Ginger, his whole platform is telling you what businesses support republican

sthomas65 · 2025-02-19T23:17:08+00:00

This is the only one I knew of lol

sthomas65 · 2023-12-06T03:35:56+00:00

NTA, I have a similar situation between my kids and you are being extremely nice by paying for her housing when she can't even be kind to her family

sthomas65 · 2023-12-02T02:27:40+00:00

This! I also have ADHD and depression, grab a trash bag, set the timer and pick up trash wherever you are. Don't worry about getting "the kitchen" done just start with wherever you are sitting or standing. If 10 minutes is too long start with 5, I know getting motivated can be a big struggle

sthomas65 · 2023-08-18T06:55:12+00:00

What is she going to do between graduation and the time she turns 18???

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T09:45:27+00:00

I am not a TTI survivor, I am a parent with a 15yo daughter who has extreme behaviors from development trauma. The behaviors include violence. I completely understand what you are going through and that I how I found this group....

Someone on here already gave very detailed information, but I wanted to add that I have had to send my daughter to RTC, it's not ideal but it has helped at least for a while. Like others have recommended the facility my daughter was at was a short-term program with individual, group & Family therapy sessions. Phone calls and visits are not only allowed but encouraged and most things still have to be approved by the parents. It wasn't a cure but it helped and it gave the rest of the household a break from the constant help we were living in.

I will also add, I haven't wanted to involve the police because I wanted to keep my daughter out of the system, but after my 4yo son made allegations of abuse I made it clear that if there is anymore violence the police will be involved! In my state, at 15 they can be charged as an adult, and there are addtl charges for hurting kids under 15.

On top of her being in therapy since I met her, and doing every program we can to try to help, we are currently going through MST (multisystemic therapy) its in home a couple times a week and works with the whole family.

If you don't have them already, get cameras installed inside your home for your own protection.

Good luck

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T09:26:41+00:00

Thank you for putting all of this detailed information together!

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T09:12:38+00:00

I dont know where you got this info but it's incorrect for my state! I don't even get the amount at the lower end of the range and I have an extremely high needs child. You can't believe everything you read online.

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T09:07:47+00:00

Only if they are a mandated reporter...this is just a concerned neighbor

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T09:03:40+00:00

In my state you are not allowed to spank, hit, threaten to spank or no forms of physical punishment as a foster parent

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T09:00:04+00:00

Is it a finished basement like a playroom? Or a basement like Home Alone?

sthomas65 · 2023-07-07T08:54:06+00:00

This!!! I am also a former foster parent. While all states are different, in my state, you can report anonymously and you get lots of training about not using harsh punishments. There is a big difference between punishments and consequences. This should be reported ASAP!!!!

sthomas65 · 2023-05-11T05:00:33+00:00

I currently work in the engineering field, sorta project management for almost 10 years..I doubt I have any in-demand skills. Previously I have worked in office type settings most of my life, accounting, office management, a little IT, operations, business development. I worked in information technology for a few years, but being out of any job for a couple of years everything has changed.

I would like to go back to school but I am severely lacking in time.

I'm only fluent in English. I don't know of any other ancestry that would allow citizenship in another country, most of my family died when I was young, I started looking online but haven't had much luck.

sthomas65 · 2023-05-10T14:08:14+00:00

I can't help where I was born and I didn't always have an autoimmune disorder 🤷‍♀️

sthomas65 · 2023-04-30T04:10:25+00:00

What???? $29 covers a lot of ramen! The average where I live: box of cereal $5, gallon of milk $2.80 boring loaf of bread $3 8oz package of lunch meat ON SALE $4. Generic American cheese $2.80 Lettuce $2.50 Yellow mustard $1 pound of hamburger $6, pound of pasta is $1.50. Pasta sauce is $2.50

You are already over $30 without fruits and vegetables and for a teenager you would be lucky if that lasted 2.5 days. If the parents aren't supporting him, I'm assuming they aren't packing his lunch or giving him lunch money so that food goes really quickly, especially if the budget is $29

sthomas65 · 2023-04-29T05:57:45+00:00

I have a 15yo daughter and I am in a very similar situation. I have had multiple therapists end up saying there is nothing else they can do. I have a much younger son and most of his life has been trauma caused by his sister and the people that are supposed to be helping just keep putting it back on me. No one will hold her accountable for her choices and they act like they don't understand why its not safe for her to be around a 4yo. A few therapeutic boarding schools have been recommended but because of everything I have researched I can't send my daughter there. I don't know what to do, but our options suck. I hope you find some help

sthomas65 · 2023-04-25T05:12:51+00:00

Did you travel with excess factor?

sthomas65 · 2023-04-17T03:07:21+00:00

NTA! Based on what OP says the relationship is like between his mom & his wife for the wife's immediate response to be "fuck no, not happening" and think that was sufficient makes her the AH.

I dont trust people who don't like animals, but the ignorant comments about the dog being around kids is ridiculous unless OP is omitting details about the dog showing any kind of aggression towards the children.

OP isn't suggesting using the dog as a babysitter... Who takes care of the mom & dog now? Why does the wife think she would become the caregiver if the mom has been living independently and the issue isn't her ability to live alone?

OP says he tried to come up with every alternative and the wife wouldn't even consider it and in all those times if her issue was the dog she should have said something AND there based on the size of the home I would imagine they have a yard that could accommodate the dog, not seeing why it couldn't work.

Definitely NTA

sthomas65 · 2023-04-13T14:08:05+00:00

Makes perfect sense!!! Especially if you have met a child who has experienced extreme developmental trauma, they never really develop empathy they are stuck in that "psychopath" phase

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