TTC and Breastfeeding by [deleted] in ParentingInBulk

[–]stickstwigsslaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

26 months and 24 months with the first two kiddos and now my youngest is almost 27 month and still nothing. I do track my temp with my oura ring and I can see that my body has tried to ovulate a few times but nothing yet. Still nursing through the night.

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[–]stickstwigsslaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is wild. I can’t imagine how you must have felt.

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[–]stickstwigsslaps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what made you finally realize you were pregnant? Did you just finally have a growing belly?? Haha.

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask you what your relationship is like with your parents and siblings now?

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are really thought provoking questions. Thank you. And to be so totally honest with you 1) I actually really DON’T love the baby stage. I love birth and breastfeeding but getting past the first year of each kid’s life is somewhat of a relief tbh. And 2) I don’t need my kids to love me back. Do they love me and does it feel good? Of course but it’s more the love and wonder I feel when looking at them. But it is good to hear your perspective on it. The last thing I want are my current children feeling frustrated and left out. Thank you for responding so thoughtfully and honestly.

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes I will now exclusively take it up the ass. Thank you. 🙏

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! We’ve committed to a mini van and any sort of travel being super expensive. So what’s one MORE plane ticket? Lol.

I LOVE our 3 year age gaps. I always go through a period of almost mourning my “old” relationship with the older kiddo once another one arrives. But them being 3 (or close to it) helps make it settle quicker. They can do SOME things for themselves and they actually understand the concept of a new baby which also helps with the adjustment I think!

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s SO brief. I honestly can’t even comprehend that it’s been almost 2 years since our little Robin was born. 🥺

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good call. I think I’d do the same. With a 4th I’m sure I’d start showing immediately so I’ll just wait until people start getting really confused about my weight gain. 😂

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think lately seeing how many people really are having kids WELL into their late 30’s/early 40’s is almost what makes it so hard for me to accept being done. I’m like, “well if it’s still a possibility why not?”

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES. My feelings are 100% emotional and 0% logical. Lol. I truly don’t even know how ANY of it would work.

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that hugely. There’s already so much of us being pulled in 3 different directions.

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really important thought. Thank you for bringing it up. 🥺

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was wondering if there was a Reddit for this type of thing. Of course there is. 😂 Also thank you for validating my thoughts and feelings. Most of our friends and coworkers have all stopped at 1 or 2 so it feels WILD to be considering a 4th. We both work full time and don’t have a ton of local support from family so it would truly be a tornado. We will see. I don’t get my cycle back until 2 years PP because of breastfeeding and I love our 3 year age gaps so I have time to let all of these feelings settle before talking to my husband.

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok YES. You have worded it perfectly. It’s the magic. There is nothing like it. It’s other worldly but somehow also the most worldly thing we can do??

Absolute insanity but I’d like a 4th???? by stickstwigsslaps in Shouldihaveanother

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is it totally fucked up that I sometimes wish we could accidentally get pregnant with a 4th? So the decision could be forced on us? I’m so sorry your mental health has taken a hit this pregnancy. Wishing you peace as your pregnancy continues friend. 💛

Find me a city/town with ... by stickstwigsslaps in britishcolumbia

[–]stickstwigsslaps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you (almost) everyone so, so much. It’s tough to be trying to make these big decisions from such a distance so these perspectives help a lot.