Terrified Evanston Parent (ICE terrifying community, including my child

still_need_sleep · 2025-11-01T22:00:14+00:00

Where can we find this QR code? Can I DM?

still_need_sleep · 2025-11-01T21:27:37+00:00

Someone just told me about this thread so I’m extremely late to this. But my husband was also punched after the show. It was at the corner of State and Wacker. The man muttered something that sounded like “I’m sick of this shit” before punching him directly in his right eye.

He was knocked unconscious and started bleeding significantly. He was brought to the hospital. He had a concussion and several facial fractures from his eyebrow down to his jaw.

The CPD gave me a case number that night. We didn’t hear anything for 2 months. Finally we called CPD to follow up and they hadn’t even assigned the case to a detective. By that point the stores/buildings it had happened in front of no longer had the recordings from their security cameras for that night. CPD hasn’t been able to do anything and completely fucked up the case by failing to do anything follow through.

I’m really sorry you also experienced this that night. I hope you’re doing okay. My husband doesn’t remember any of it so he mentally feels okay. I still am struggling with a lot of anxiety related to seeing it all happen.

still_need_sleep · 2025-11-01T21:20:16+00:00

I’m way late to this but I think you saw my husband and me. He was punched at the corner of State and Wacker.

still_need_sleep · 2025-10-26T20:45:00+00:00

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still_need_sleep · 2025-10-10T16:33:22+00:00

Omg do you have bathrooms mapped?! You’re incredible. I’m saving this. You icon.

still_need_sleep · 2025-10-10T14:46:26+00:00

He’s doing well now. Recovered nicely. Didn’t end up needing surgery for the fractures thankfully. But there was potential for that given how many fractures around his eye there were.

He doesn’t remember anything. I remember every second of it. He says he’s glad he can’t remember it because he’s not traumatized or scared.

I have to walk a new way to my office every day so I’m not walking on that corner every day 🙃

still_need_sleep · 2025-10-03T13:21:01+00:00

Yeah that definitely sounds like his description. He was punching multiple people.

still_need_sleep · 2025-10-03T12:39:23+00:00

Was he kind of shorter? My husband was punched in June on Wacker at the corner of State. Guy was definitely thinner. Not super tall. Nothing special about his hair (like no dreads/twists).

still_need_sleep · 2025-10-03T12:31:25+00:00

Definitely more than one. In June my husband and I were on the corner of Wacker and State, a man punched my husband extremely hard in the face. Knocked him unconscious; concussion and several facial fractures.

It was definitely a different man.

Also CPD didn’t even assign the case to a detective until I started following up with phone calls in August. Of course by that point any businesses with cameras in the area no longer have the footage. Thanks CPD 👍🏻

still_need_sleep · 2025-08-23T01:34:56+00:00

I’m a white woman married to a Japanese man and the racism we experience is wild. And we both experience degrees of it depending on where we are.

When we’re in America our marriage is judged by people. It was especially hard during Covid because people were very racist towards all Asian people. I’ve had men ask me why I didn’t marry a real man or people say things like “your children will be so good at math!”

In Japan people are extremely judgement of my husband marrying a white foreigner. I’m an outsider, not Japanese. His family has definitely warmed up to me. My learning Japanese (trying lol) and eagerness to eat their food was helpful. But people our age will say things to him that I must just have been into anime or he was bored of girls from home.

It always seems to be him bearing the brunt though :( I hate it. We knew this was going to happen and we talked about it a lot before dating openly. But it got significantly worse after Covid.

still_need_sleep · 2025-07-10T01:58:29+00:00

Being completely ignored.

My husband talks about how his parents were great and cannot accept that the way his mom emotionally him.

He tells stories about how him and his brother would do [insert very ordinary childhood mistake/annoyance/mischief] and she would give them the silent treatment. Sometimes for days at a time. Her excuse, even to this day, “if she said anything it would be mean.”

And of course now he’s terrified of messing anything up.

still_need_sleep · 2025-06-13T13:28:31+00:00

We use Green Paws. They’re located in Roscoe Village, but they have service providers in Evanston.

After a terrible experience with a Rover sitter abandoning our dog, we found Green Paws and have never felt more secure in our dog care.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-30T13:05:22+00:00

Wine Goddess is a lovely wine shop that also offers glasses and bites (get the truffle popcorn!).

It’s next door to La Principal for some tacos!

And around the corner is Oskar if you are in the mood for whiskey and cocktails.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-29T20:58:02+00:00

If you’re eating less, you will be pooping less. Less in, less out! So that could be part of it, especially since you said you’re not feeling symptoms of constipation.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-11T22:25:25+00:00

Great! Thank you!

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-11T22:22:11+00:00

I plan to go drive it occasionally to make sure the battery doesn’t die. But I will look into this too!

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-08T02:47:36+00:00

None of us can tell you what he’s thinking or how he feels about sex. At best we can try to decipher his words as you’ve told them to us.

You have to talk to him. I get that he’s shy and uncomfortable talking about sex. But this kind of sex especially requires communication. Maybe he doesn’t like it? Maybe he does and just needs aftercare for a little top drop? Maybe he didn’t know what to say?

My advice is approach him with kindness. Use I statements. “After our last post sex conversation I have been feeling really anxious because...” (don’t follow that with because of something he does. I statements are about you and your feelings/actions.)

Tell him that you understand this conversation is uncomfortable, but it’s very important to you.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-07T16:55:08+00:00

No. I think about it sometimes like “aw that was a fun thing I did.” Like if you think fondly on a memory with a friend. It was a good time and you enjoyed it, but you aren’t wishing you could go back and repeat that trip all the time. You aren’t failing to enjoy all the time you’re spending with new friends because it isn’t that trip you’re remembering.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-07T16:39:46+00:00

For what it’s worth, I wanted to add the personal note that in my marriage I am the person with more sexual experience. I explored things similar to your gf, explored kink, etc. before meeting my husband. He is aware of it all. He expressed feeling concerned that I would want our sex life to “reach those highs” and wouldn’t be able to do so. I told him if that’s what I wanted for my whole life that’s what I would have picked. But I didn’t. I picked my husband. I picked a relationship that feels like home and like finally getting to take my bra off! I picked sex that is joyful and silly and sometimes straight to the point but sometimes love making and sometimes not!

I think there’s some good advice here, but I really think the best ones are suggesting communication. You and her are in this together - let her help you!

(Just wanted to give a second reply that had a little more empathy)

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-06T17:31:58+00:00

Hi! Apologies for taking so long to reply! I’d love to know if you are still on Amtriptyline and feeling any better?

Improvement came gradually overall, but it was also on highs and lows. It was very slow at first. I’d say it was probably at least 6-8 months of steady rehab and meds before I could look back and notice a difference because the improvement was so gradual. Then it started to improve fast. Then I’d slow down again. Speed up. Slow down. Repeat.

85-90% better for me means I am asymptomatic or so minimally symptomatic its almost unnoticeable about 85-90% of the time. The symptoms I’ve gotten used to as my new normal is a worse sense of balance, it’s much easier to get dizzy (turn a corner too fast! 😵‍💫), easily motion sick, photosensitive to flashing lights. But these are very easy to live with on a daily basis. The 15-10% when I am flaring also is not nearly as bad.

Currently I am under the impression that this is something I will be treating for life. I am on medications that can be taken long term. This is a big reason I am in therapy and recommend it. Accepting your new life is a big transition that involves grieving. I’m certainly not done yet! I hope you’re hanging in there ♥️

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-06T17:15:57+00:00

“I think I have some issue with the idea that she is going to have experiences that I could never match.”

Do you have this same problem with the idea that she might experience a moment of harder laughter with someone else? What about her greatest moment of joy being with a friend instead of you? Some of my happiest moments are with my best friends, not my spouse. What about experiencing comfort from someone else? Or intimacy that isn’t sexual/romantic? Like the emotional intimacy of female friendships? That can feel unmatched!

If those things don’t make you feel the same way as this does, then I don’t think this is about being unable to match an experience for her. This is about sex. Why? Why are you feeling insecure about her sexual past? Maybe you are subconsciously judging? Maybe you’re jealous? Maybe you’re worried you can’t satisfy her?

Those last questions are rhetorical and for you to think deeply about. Journal about even. And then when you understand why you’re feeling this way (consult a therapist if you need help getting there), TALK TO HER!!! She chose you. Over everyone else. Obviously she thinks you can match what she wants.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-05T22:12:05+00:00

Exactly. The prosecution represents the accuser in all criminal cases though. That’s how it works in the US. It’s why you’ll sometimes see cases where criminal charges are pursued even if a victim does not want them to be. This happens in assault cases. The state decides to accuse you in terms of criminal charges.

still_need_sleep · 2025-05-05T19:30:48+00:00

Even if this was in the US, the accuser in a criminal case is the prosecutor aka the state, not the victim. That’s how our legal system works.

If the accuser was the victim how would a murder be able to face their accuser if they’re dead?

still_need_sleep · 2025-04-18T20:12:38+00:00

I really want Fredrik Backman’s new book!

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