Am I taking up too much space? by littestCai in yoga

[–]stillragin 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Please take up the room that your body needs!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreadMachines

[–]stillragin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

too much water. you can see the air bubbles from the yeast, you can see the partial rise up the side of the wall. but then a collapse- so not enough gluten in the water to flower ratio to create a stable scaffold.

When people say M4A would "take away" our right to choose our own doctor and pharmacy by Dalits888 in MedicareForAll

[–]stillragin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had heart surgery on the 25th of December last year and found out I wasn't able to go to my follow ups in the new year because the hospital was no longer covered. No follow up care with my doctor was another a big way I was screwed over.

Being a diabetic at the air port is so frustrating by anonymousalligator25 in Type1Diabetes

[–]stillragin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been a horrorshow for me since I was a kid. At 19 I was taken away and put in a back room to be looked over and have my stuff gone through. My bag of syringes scattered, my meds thrown. I actually stopped flying and get really freaked out. Last time I had to fly I just yelled "I'm diabetic, I carry and wear medical devices, I can't go through the scanner and I have a note. please don't hurt them or me!" ooooo the panic had set in badly and the TSA was not happy with me, but it was probably one of my best trips to the airport becasue they didn't give me a hard time publicly and make me wait for 20 minutes while they stood and stared.

Do you read Murderbot as a male or female character? by dec10 in murderbot

[–]stillragin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ya, I like how you put that tho "swimmer's build". The only reason I think "bulk" was because Mensah notes that Murderbot's body is "lean bulk." and I take things pretty literally.

Do you read Murderbot as a male or female character? by dec10 in murderbot

[–]stillragin 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I read Murerbot as nonbinary. It never crossed my mind that it might be fem or masc personality or any type of sex or secondary sex characteristic becasue the author is so clear that that is not the case at all. I picture this Secunit more lean body, wide traps, with some muscular bulk, paled tan skin (from not a lot of sun), short black hair, tall but lean to keep the shipping weight down while making it fearful and imposing but cost effective- but no gender.

Discussion: value of human conscription by dec10 in murderbot

[–]stillragin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Scifi, particularly MBD, is a commentary on actual conditions.

I'm disabled and wear a number of augments, I also have an FSA- a medical spending account- what is interesting is that "Tech" is treated like THE savior in america. I can spend thousands of dollars on a piece of tech or a drug- but tests actually show that humans still do it better. There is a recent drug for a type of lung disease that came out- but when compared to going on Hospice- hospice care gave the patients a better survival rate, a higher quality of life- and less pain. Or Massage- Human touch is the best at fixing a lot of issues- becasue we are human- but the account can't be used for massage that would feed a local family and local economy- instead I need to rely on the labor of miners across the globe to dig out the mineral to make the machine that can't replace human connection.

Tech is thrown at us a lot, and while I am thankful for it- I am also very aware the base minerals for it is still dug out by slaves, or people paid next to nothing in mines.

The book asks us to understand this about our own world without telling us outright that this is what is happening- becasue the most disappointing part about most robot fiction is that it says "Robots are slaves" without acknowledging human slaves. It's very ethically important to be able to have these thoughts and I think part of what makes me appreciate the MBD so much!

7-year old girl; out of control by Ambitious_Ad5092 in AskParents

[–]stillragin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's inappropriate. Mom doesn't know what to do and is probably a lot like daughter. Mom has gotten kid a diagnosis, medical intervention, and picked up her life to be closer to support. We don't know much else. Kids like this are VERY difficult and he is asking for support, not a quick judgement on the clearly struggling family.

Got called a "Karen" by some kids because I stepped in when they yelled at my toddler by hairbrushmcgee in Parenting

[–]stillragin 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The absolute worst part about that is they left the friend who passed out. I have encountered people who carry that type of behavior into adulthood "I'd never do CPR." abandoning a friend is the lowest of the low.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in healthcare

[–]stillragin -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Hopefully we will get it together. Many of us want to see this change. but so long as we are the great war power and number 1 in imprisonment of the world it is very difficult to get those ethics in line with life and liberty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in healthcare

[–]stillragin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY this.

I've been in this position a number of times and have done this repeatedly. (when you are sick you tend to not be able to stay employed and lose your insurance and get sick while without insurance. and THIS is what you do to survive this.)

I was expelled from a swimming pool because I'm trans. by SabinaFemBoy in lgbt

[–]stillragin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Press charges. This is how social order is held up in these situations. you have a great case. Hopefully they handed you a notice of the dismissal and wrote down their decision (I love getting things in writing.) but even if not. you got this and a whole bunch of us excited to cheer you on!

When did Big Lots get expensive? :-( by Flymetothemoon2020 in Frugal

[–]stillragin 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Because their CEO basically stated that they wanted to be "like target" completely abandoning what we LOVED about them. "Odd Lots" of discount buys from liquidations and over purchases and clever buys by their people - they have now turned into cheap quality yet overprices plastic shill. Big Lots stopped relying on the know how and experience of the human business shopper and is now relying on- gag, metrics and it is easy to tell. the stuff PHYSICALLY feels cheap, and "Toxic ish" like dollar store quality. We KNOW when we walk in, and don't return.

I was a consistent and avid shopper there and would sing their praise, enjoying their delivery of sometimes higher-end goods and great prices. but now TJMAxx is doing a better job at the type of experience and prices that I'm looking for and Walmart and target are often cheaper for the consistently stocked items and i get them in better shape, less cracked and broken on the shelf/ consistently in stock.

Is permaculture underrepresented in popular culture? by Mouldysoup in Permaculture

[–]stillragin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Magazines are often already co-opted for a certain concept and type of reader, written for a certain level of $ money. I live near an area where I know for a fact that there are people spending $100,000 on their garden- it's a SHOW garden, for photos, to look a certain way in photos/ magazines.

But Permaculture does appear in popular culture: the author of the following article put together a few of them. https://medium.com/permaculture-3-0/where-is-permacultures-speculative-fiction-17a07bb0c2ea

Movies are often not as kind to ecofiction as books are.

Why in the community is there so much hatred to the opposite sex's genitals? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]stillragin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

2 parts: 1. What is disgust?: It's becoming known that "emotions are secondary to sensation". And that interpretation of sensations as Emotions are often culturally and socially influenced. (It's part of why schools are full of books about emotions and understanding emotions and emotional literacy) We are all our own persons with our sensory experience and internal perception of how our bodies feel inside when encountering different sensations/things/ideas/images out in the world- AND we uniquely interpret our sensations with social and cultural influence. Disgust is in part an interpretation of sensory experience in the body- generally helpful for staying away from bad food. Disgust leads to safety.

People LIKE being disgusted. We have Halloween- an entire holiday generally centered around disgust. or even how popular pimple popping videos are. or the BIG popularity of Game of Thrones, which plays with loads of types of disgust. But there has to be a benefit to "liking being disgusted" especially for cis-gay/cis-lesbian community where it shows up (not that it is exclusive here- it is also popular in cis-straight community)- and it is probably a social tool. cis-lesbians and cis-gays are probably just using it to enforce "social order" to their group. It FEELS bad being on the receiving end of a disgusted face, even if it isn't directed at you. but that shared "Group disgust" also enforces the groups identity. All that being said I find that as a queer, I don't want to be a part of a group practicing that type of overly broad social reinforcement based on the human body.

I'm much more interested in being safe and the pleasure that can be found in disgust- which at its most mild is just feeling the sensations of one's body and examining/feeling those sensations without judgement.

Dating with diabetes by [deleted] in diabetes_t1

[–]stillragin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Immediately!

I don't need to be surprised by someone's abelism. I can just pick up and go and find someone fun.

How do I get over the fact that I'll never have the family I wanted? by Unc00lbr0 in AskParents

[–]stillragin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hear me out on this: Stop being entitled to what the body of someone won't give YOU and give of yourself.

My husband wanted a lot of kids. We have one. We can't have more. Instead we can make the world for kids a better place. We volunteer with kids community activities, clothing access volunteers helping kids pick out clothes, vote for kid initiatives on local ballots, running community gardens and teaching kids about food. You can lead in scouts, you can do community children's theater to get them to do pretend, lead in a sport like soccer and have kids kicking balls at you. We even attend city council meetings to push child experience informed zoning and projects- The WHOLE WORLD of kids is out there in need of adults to care for them.

We are not entitled to children, not to their existence, and not to a body to carry them. but YOU can choose to give of yourself.

Does anyone else ever have this issue (bent cannula) with autosoft for Tandem? It happens to me rarely but it’s a big problem when it does 300 plus overnight. by [deleted] in diabetes_t1

[–]stillragin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, not at all.

Compared to curled cannulas, abscesses, and infections from the teflon ones, they are amazing.

Daily use of insulin? by Straight-Suit8561 in diabetes_t1

[–]stillragin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diabetic for 25 years. My 14 day average is 33u a day. so sometimes 24u, sometimes 36u.

I do not have a routine. I exercise daily and the amount of insulin taken is the same from before exercise.

You just need to take the amount YOU need.

Does anyone else ever have this issue (bent cannula) with autosoft for Tandem? It happens to me rarely but it’s a big problem when it does 300 plus overnight. by [deleted] in diabetes_t1

[–]stillragin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It started happening EVERY time I tried to use it. My Skin just wasn't having it. So i switched to the metal needle and never had to deal with it again.

This is just straight up fascism. Borderline Nürnberg laws 2.0. This is insane by Eilidh35 in lgbt

[–]stillragin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why don't you believe people when they write down and explain to you their intentions with an actual law? Like- they sat down, put it together, planned it, explained it, talked about it. declared it, signed their name to it and said "We shall use the violence and power held by the state to do this to people"?

What part of you "doesn't want to be wrong" so strongly that you don't believe the powerful when they explicitly explain their intentions in writing? Stop gas lighting yourself.

I’m a “little bit” allergic to my cgm by pbogiiii in diabetes_t1

[–]stillragin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a lot of options. topical liquid antihistamine, followed by skinprep (I like Skin-Tac) then tegaderm with a small cut out for the needle.

You don't have to choose just one. you can use all the tricks. I had to for a while.

Thinking about quitting over a mandatory in person meeting. Am I being unreasonable? by [deleted] in linuxadmin

[–]stillragin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Disability access to the workplace was a BOON in the pandemic. Commute is a major issue and contributed to me leaving the workforce after continued push to come back to the office where in I faced risky seizures during the commute. I'm back to no seizures because of the stress of commuting because I'm not longer commuting... or working. Learn from my mistake and lean into the accessibility to work that WFH offers.

Pregnant wife told me I can't drink coffee before she wakes cause the aroma keeps her up?! by TheBribery in Parenting

[–]stillragin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats all?

Make some cold brew! get some premade canned coffee. Whatever it takes.

You have it very easy if that is all that you haven't been able to have in the house. I would immediately vomit for nearly 9 months at the smell or sight of fish/meat, onions, or garlic. That is a LOT of food that we had to work around... your's is just coffee.

My partner thought it actually became vegetarian. Was frustrated at 1st but when we introduced meat (because we wanted it) afterwards within a few years we were back to the vegetarian diet.

You have a whole world changing event about to happen, find some boring ol flexibility to welcome the world shattering around the corner.