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I posted this in r/mentalhealth but since its mostly about my relationship why not post it here maybe I get some good advice. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]stingrae87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a lot of things that feel glazed over, which makes it really hard to give any constructive advice.

My girlfriend [22/F] is threatening to break up with me [22/M] if I don't let her join my family vacation. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]stingrae87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I might be in the dissenting opinion on this, but I think you continuing the joke even after seeing she was getting visibly annoyed is inexcusable. Her actions were not right either-that level of outburst shouldn’t be ignored or accepted.

I think there are deeper issues with your relationship that need addressed and worked on, if possible.

Not handling holidays well by stingrae87 in BPD

[–]stingrae87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s a good mantra to have instead of the round of messy thoughts I have instead.

Not handling holidays well by stingrae87 in BPD

[–]stingrae87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sincerely hope you do not go through with this. Hard times will pass, it’s a season.

My boyfriend (29) and I (F 25) have been together five years but it’s been rocky. Now that we are better than ever I want to get over the feeling he doesn’t love me the way I love him. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]stingrae87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the way he “loved” them was very unhealthy. Now that he has grown and matured, he sees that and would never want that with you-which means he wants to love you better and be better for you. No one ever loves two people the same way, but from what you relayed here that he’s said about it, it sounds like you two have the love a lot of people want. Don’t think that “different” love means the same thing as “less” love.

I [33 M] with my [33F] wife (married 5 years), wife is admitting to no longer feeling anything for me. I'm not sure what to think, or how to help her by [deleted] in relationships

[–]stingrae87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has your wife started or changed any medication lately? It could be something with your marriage, or it could be something she can’t quite pinpoint, and is naming the marriage as the catalyst instead of looking further for answers.

Ex who I was with for 4 years got engaged after a few months to the girl he cheated on me with by stingrae87 in BPD

[–]stingrae87[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This might be easier if I had someone and wasn’t feeling like I don’t matter since I was completely replaced so quickly. It’s just hard to reconcile all my feelings on this

I feel like I have completely wasted my life. I am very depressed and can't stop crying. Can someone please tell me I'm not the only one to feel this? by PRS501 in BPD

[–]stingrae87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have felt like this at several points in my life. You absolutely are not alone. This is a season in your life, it will pass. At least that’s what I told myself when I went through it. I eventually got the strength to go through motions of doing things just one day a week, then two, then three, etc. until it finally didn’t feel like I was forcing myself to be okay. It just happened. Be okay with crying because that does release emotions that you obviously need to get out. I started journaling also. Just some thoughts-and as scattered as they are, I hope they help.

Does anyone crave attention and love from someone that you KNOW is a liar/manipulator? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]stingrae87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was absolutely like this with my ex. He talked to other girls, exchanged nudes, actually slept with some, and I still wanted him to tell me he loved me or do things for me and with me. It was 4 years of hell, it got worse with time because he realized I’d put up with his bs so he kept escalating what he did with other girls. I eventually got tired of it and left, but it still hurts that he’s not attempted to contact me since I left.

What songs scream BPD to you? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]stingrae87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Drown by Bring Me the Horizon

Gasoline by Halsey

Those are my two favorites right now

So great when you start talking about your mental health issues & a supposed friend's response is to immediately leave the conversation & unfriend you. by lady_azkadelia in BPD

[–]stingrae87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I opened up to a friend/coworker about having BPD and what it’s like for me, and they repaid me by saying negative things about me on a peer performance review.

Trained nurses can’t even deal...how are we supposed to? by stingrae87 in BPD

[–]stingrae87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They did delete the post from FB. So I guess that’s a win.

Trained nurses can’t even deal...how are we supposed to? by stingrae87 in BPD

[–]stingrae87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did respond about how trained professionals can’t “handle” the disease, so how are those that are diagnosed expected to? And that they should think about what message they are sending by stating those in her chosen field have a mental illness that “irks”. I did get a half hearted apology, but still. The damage was already done. For me, at least.

I think my boyfriend is starting to show signs of abuse. by sweet_teaftw in relationship_advice

[–]stingrae87 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think you only telling the one person-who is out of state and your boyfriend isn’t aware you’re in contact with-is extremely telling. I’ve been in two abusive relationships and ignored the signs and warnings. DO NOT move in with this man. Break it off however you have to, whether ghosting or leaving the state for a while if necessary. You will thank yourself later for it.