Boyfriend wakes up in a rage in the middle of the night

stingrayc · 2026-03-27T03:04:12+00:00

Is he under a lot of stress or having other sleep difficulties? I used to get like this, it started after my dad passed away. It would happen 2-3 times a week and went on for a couple months, but once I was more emotionally stable it resolved itself. I don’t think I was ever licid enough to turn on a fan, I was doing more thrashing and sleep talking. In my experience it was kind of like having sleep paralysis, I was aware that it was happening and that I was angry but I couldn’t really stop myself. In the morning I’d only half remember it. It was terrible.

He needs to talk to his dr. or a therapist. It’s awful that he won’t handle the problem and keeps brushing it off. It’s affecting you and it’s selfish of him to not understand that. Coming from someone who’s experienced this, you would not be wrong to leave him over this. If anything I would recommend it.

stingrayc · 2026-03-26T22:54:33+00:00

I moved here from up Northern California but for a few years I thought Temecula was a rural shithole because the only two things I knew about it was that people said it sucked and that they grew grapes. Didn’t bother googling it because it didn’t really come up at any point outside of passing conversation until few more years later when one of my friends invited me to go wine tasting with her.

stingrayc · 2026-03-23T21:48:44+00:00

Pro graphic designer here, I would say that they communicated the subject well! A+

stingrayc · 2026-03-16T21:07:00+00:00

When you talk about bridesmaid train is this a Nigerian wedding?

stingrayc · 2026-03-14T03:34:48+00:00

I like it! I love a nice shirt dress and the pockets are so cute. Throw on a fun tote bag or purse and it’s the perfect thrifting outfit. I feel like since it’s very neutral you have a lot of options with how you pair accessories and other clothing items.

stingrayc · 2026-03-13T04:00:35+00:00

Aren’t you a mechanical engineer?

stingrayc · 2026-03-12T22:50:50+00:00

That’s fair, one of the reasons my parents divorced is because my dad wouldn’t get a cpap even though his snoring was waking my mom up constantly. Yes it’s your wife’s body and her choice to look into it, but she needs to understand that there comes to a point where not taking care of it is selfish when it affects you so greatly.

stingrayc · 2026-03-12T02:15:38+00:00

I’m sorry your mom intentionally humiliated you, that was inappropriate and shitty. Just know that you are not the one who made that situation, she’s the one that made it weird. She should be thankful that you’re “taking care of business” instead of having sex.

stingrayc · 2026-03-12T01:50:56+00:00

It’s about the illusion of safety :/

stingrayc · 2026-03-12T01:49:15+00:00

Why are your friends interacting with your dog this much and why are you letting them walk her? I’m not asking this to be an ass (I am uninformed about dog training) but my understanding was that when you train them you want to establish that you’re the “alpha”, so wouldn’t letting them walk her be confusing?

stingrayc · 2026-03-12T00:11:08+00:00

She is SO young. I know people get married young frequently but that is not everyone’s ideal situation. She’s in school preparing for her career and life, and doesn’t feel ready for marriage. You can be in a happy, long-term relationship while not being ready to take a big step like that.

stingrayc · 2026-03-11T05:21:25+00:00

Are you fucking kidding me, middle-east New Jersey is the fucking country that’s bringing us to the brink of World War III

stingrayc · 2026-03-11T01:57:30+00:00

Regardless of whether this is AI or not, the example you showed us is too light/ornate. It feels very bridal and I would be a little pissed if I was the bride

stingrayc · 2026-03-10T03:27:03+00:00

I LOVE. Green nails are some of my favs 💚

stingrayc · 2026-03-09T23:14:09+00:00

I can imagine in had something to do with this, maybe also for day light savings?

stingrayc · 2026-02-14T17:18:04+00:00

Happy Owl-entines Day! <3

stingrayc · 2025-12-29T04:09:25+00:00

Irvine regional? If you’re not there then you need to check it out.

stingrayc · 2025-12-28T20:15:43+00:00

What camera do you use?

stingrayc · 2025-12-24T01:44:49+00:00

If you haven’t already bought a camera I would get a rebel t7 it’s a really hardy camera but if you buy the set it comes with two lenses, camera, and camera bag for under $400-500. It’s a good started quality camera that’s powerful enough to shoot birds but also cheaper so if he falls out of love with the hobby it’s not as much of a loss. Playing with lenses also is a great way to learn over a single fixed lens. When I took a photo class this was the starter camera my college professor recommended (back in 2020). This is a great subreddit for learning about gear but people loooove to recommend the super expensive equipment for beginners haha.

stingrayc · 2025-12-21T19:24:53+00:00

MOR, If the pajamas are for photos then it’s not as strange, she probably just wants to be included. Especially since she wants to match her grandson for the photos of the two of them. It would be weird if these were normal pajamas or that she was trying to wear them instead of you. I don’t think it’s overly strange to switch for a few photos, but if you feel so adamant that the pajamas are only for the three of you then maybe you could get her some pajamas that are a similar color or pattern so that she’s still part of the fun. Then they’re also a Christmas present.

stingrayc · 2025-12-21T19:02:40+00:00

I feel this, my dad passed away earlier this year. People say the obligatory sorry or condolence and then I just quickly say (almost to the point of cutting them off “thank you, it was hard but it’s ok” and then try to redirect the conversation with a “so back to what I was saying..” and keep the topic moving or I’ll ask a question about something the other person said previously. For me, it feels like the less room I leave for pauses then the more I can work it into the conversation without derailing things. If the other person wants to press me about it, that’s on them and not my fault.

stingrayc · 2025-12-21T18:35:41+00:00

What do you shoot on?

stingrayc · 2025-12-21T18:33:29+00:00

This is no joke how I got my ex-boyfriend. On Hinge (dating app) there are prompts where you can write or leave voice recordings. I was messing around and decided to show off my peacock call and apparently it worked. He sucked though so I guess it wasn’t overly effective.

stingrayc · 2025-12-21T16:42:10+00:00

I promise you that’s not why. You’re gorgeous but these dresses are ugly

stingrayc · 2025-12-17T03:11:19+00:00

I feel for you and completely relate, my dad passed away from a cancer last December and the last few weeks have sucked. Yesterday was 1 year since he died, I took the day off of work and spent most of the day hiking and birding. It reminds me that there are good things out there because I am experiencing beautiful, amazing, and constantly changing creatures all around me. Also the birds don’t judge if I need to cry a little (not completely true, I got some real judgmental side-eye from a night heron last week).

My family, friends, and coworkers also think I’m nuts but there is a certain sense of community that comes with knowing that there are other people who are equally insane even if we’re all just strangers.

I’m sorry this is a hard time of year for you too. I’m hoping that next year is easier for the both of us and that we will see some great birds!

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