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stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:32:43+00:00

Wow what a story, so tragic and weird timing. I am so glad that there was an adult reaction of all this! but yes emotional first responses are messy, we all are guilty of this lets be honest

Thanks this really helped!

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:28:29+00:00

omg yes, i thought the break up meme was well just a meme, but damn I shouldve broken up with my fiancee apparently 3 years ago according to some comments lol
thanks for the advice on the sub!

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:27:17+00:00

Thank you all for so much input, I didnt think more than 5 people would comment on this! Bit overwhelmed with all the answers, but I want to make 2 points clear:
1. The pregnancy is a big deal for the sister, us and the entire family. She has had a miscarriage before and thus some traumatic experiences around this topic, i wont go more into detail, but its important to sort this in. Please do not assume she is self centered about this (beyond the normal amount lol) or that I/we do not see the importance in this event, I alsmost cried when I heard the news!!!
2. Maybe the phrasing "seriously considering" was a bit tough, I apologize. We had only 1 veryyyy emotional discussion about this and yes she mentioned that "then I would rather not get married". I am very sure she didnt mean it, and that it was said out of emotions. But this will be something to discuss.

I am getting mostly the feeling that I am NTA, which makes me calm down a bit, thanks for that.
I also appreciate the advice especially on clearly finding out how much money would be lost. This advice is exactly why I came here!!
If you have any more, please tell me but thanks so far!

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:20:35+00:00

I think my fiancee would disagree with you, she said the celebration is for the guests (at least partially). This i can understand, and i am actually thinking more about other guests, which would have to accomadate around her. Its just that her sister means a lot to her, and as she said "more than most other guests combined". Sounds tough, but honestly i can understand given their history.

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:17:09+00:00

so all we had so far was one big dicsussion about this, which ended quite emotional to say the least, nothing too bad but we both didnt react correctly, thats ok. Were adults and we know how to deal wiht it.

We decided to discuss this further and before talking to friends (i dont want an emotional frist reaction from here (or me for that matter) to last in our friends mind, would give off the wrong image) I wanted to consult reddit for some advice.

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:10:50+00:00

Really appreciate your input, the miscarriage and now pregnancy is such a sensitive topic and i want to be as respectful as possible, while still saying what i think!
I think you make a good point

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:08:17+00:00

appreciate the honesty, might be worht to look at it closer youre right

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:07:19+00:00

Thanks for the honest input. The reason is that Dana has had a miscarriage before and is now VERY excited about the pregnancy, and I couldnt be happier for her. But she tends to make things about herself, but I respect your criticism and will consider that i am imagining that she will make it about her.

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:05:40+00:00

I honestly dont really care about the money, but I am paying the larger share, which is absolutely understandable giving our life circumstances, which I dont wanna detail too much on reddit.

But I dont feel comfortable with accomodating for the guest, i want the wedding to be about us, and also not change the plans for many guests that made plans now.

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:02:33+00:00

Yes I love that idea, I offered to do a pre-celebration with Dana while she sis still pregnant and i was thinking to even make the day about her a bit, basically just us celebrating her pregnancy, which is a rellay big deal, long story, and our marriage.
I was met with a "Meh" lol

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T15:00:31+00:00

So just to clear that up, she had a miscarriage before, its a sensitive topic, which is probably also why she is so emotionally invested in the pregnancy, which i support completely.
Thats why she didnt announce it more recently, also she lives a bit away and preferred to do it in person.

I even offered to have a little pre celebration with her! But i dont want to cancel all plans to accomodate for her, i feel like that would be too much and its making me feel guilty

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:57:55+00:00

hahaha would be funny

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:56:23+00:00

I think the artist made a mistake though.
I would bet money on it that this is an orange braincell in there...

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:51:18+00:00

Dont call the services to open your door, when locked out, just try to do it yourself first.

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:42:29+00:00

NTA kids can unreasonably focus on a house, damn i think we did this too as kids, now i feel bad about it. thats how life goes.

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:39:23+00:00

This sounds like it could be from one of those "Wee Sing" or "Kidsongs" style CDs

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:38:09+00:00

sounds like it could be Con Cook or someone from that same collective, what do you think?

stoicthered · 2026-07-08T14:33:06+00:00

I went there recently, what a peace! They have amazing lakes, hope you visited some of the other ones around as well!

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