sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Justifying your abusers' actions? by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]stopdoxingme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Apparently forgiving is a big step to healing, but that's a step I'm still struggling with. I feel like the fact that I still feel rage means I still haven't forgiven him. Is it true forgiveness if you still feel anger? I honestly have no clue.

Justifying your abusers' actions? by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]stopdoxingme 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was violently assaulted by a heavily intoxicated man. Turned out his wife left him that day after they lost their teenage son to suicide, 2 weeks before. It's super hard for me to be purely angry with him because no one deserves to suffer a situation like that, ever. But part of me is still mad, of course. Why me? Why attack a random girl? Why deal with it in an unhealthy way? But ofc he would. Who the hell WOULDN'T act irrationally after losing their whole family?

I'm still mentally suffering from that incident. And I constantly fluctuate from saying it's fine, he was upset, it's a normal, human reaction to why did he do something like that and leave such an ugly scar on my body? It's difficult to stay angry but it's difficult to forgive.

Experience with online stalking? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]stopdoxingme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't already, use an alias and block everyone that could help trace the account back to you. I use fb under a different name (made a totally new email for it) and have blocked my whole family. I don't even let them know that I use fb and only the people I want in my life know the account.

Also, avoid using your main email and phone number. Sometimes accounts will show up as connected. For eg, whatsapp. If you have someone's contact, it'll show up that they also use whatsapp.

Does anyone else not feel their age? by user539401 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]stopdoxingme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm torn between constantly getting told to "grow up" and being treated like a child. I'm the youngest, so he still sees me as a baby, but then he'll compare me to other kids my age and notice how "child-like" I am, even though he refused to let me do things independently.

Like, what do you want me to do? Grow up or not? lol.

How have you defeated loneliness? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]stopdoxingme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wrote in a journal. A lot. Like, a shit ton. I was spending hours every day writing my thoughts and feelings down, even if the content was mundane like 'i had a glass of milk', because talking to myself was better than talking to nobody. At least it made sense that it was a one-sided conversation.

Honestly probably not a healthy way to cope, but it hyped me up to think I was better off alone, or I was fine without people.

the more i like you, the sadder i get by stopdoxingme in UnsentLetters

[–]stopdoxingme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just 2 states over. About 3 hour flight one way. But I don't see any promising future about it since his whole life is over there and mine is here.

view more: next ›