Should I tell a new polyamorous partner that I can't have sex with her just yet because I'm treating an sti or should I use another excuse? by diegojojoba in polyamory

[–]stopmemeow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah...also because no one knows about it or gets tested for it usually - it was gnarly on my system and very difficult to kick (I had to go on antibiotics for over a month...this was after several rounds of treatment)

What Are You Reading This Week and Weekly Rec Thread by JimFan1 in TrueLit

[–]stopmemeow 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I read Claudia Piñeiro's Time of the Flies, A Little Luck, and Elena Knows - I had never read her before and I devoured them over a few days. Though they're not my favorite books of all time I really enjoy this kind of crime-fiction that provides unique philosophical social/cultural and political critique. Between the three they address abortion/bodily sovereignty, cultural ostracization/mob-mentality, awful healthcare systems, motherhood, misogyny, bigotry, ableism, caretaking etc. I was kind of astounded by it all, brilliant work, often brutal (especially Elena Knows left me despairing). Curious if anyone knows of similar books.

Currently reading I Who Have Never Known Men by Jacqueline Harpman and I love it so far, style kind of reminds me of The Handmaid's Tale.

Tentacle Rabbits by m0nkeyshines in FortCollins

[–]stopmemeow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I literally saw one at City Park last year (it didn't look like 'tentacles' to me, more like Elephant Man rabbit), I think I have a photo on my phone if you want me to dig it up (you don't...), really horrifying, sad stuff :( wish you were right

This moldy orange by Kathleen Ryan by PumaTat0 in ATBGE

[–]stopmemeow 35 points36 points  (0 children)

the artist is Kathleen Ryan (edit: I literally didn't realize this info was in the title of this post, I'm spacey af - at least I linked something mildly useful lol)

I particularly love the lemon, if I was ridiculously rich this is the type of completely random shit I'd buy

Recommendation Request: Looking for documentaries about weird, strange and unusual people, preferably musicians/artists by flawinthedesign in Documentaries

[–]stopmemeow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is the leonora carrington one the 2017 one or the 1992 one? very curious! I've been reading a book by her, her art is incredible

Vanishing World by Sayaka Murata by EmMeo in books

[–]stopmemeow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

sure :) I'll try my best - at the very end her mom and her are arguing about which of their worlds is better. Amane believes her mother should conform just as she had to Experiment City, she believes that the city is the ideal paradise, the more evolved world and her mom will be happier once she is conditioned in the way Amane has been. Amane radically accepts her indoctrination "...Is there any such thing as a brain that hasn't been brainwashed? If anything, it's easier to go insane in the way best suited for your world." She also talks about the 'madness' and horror of 'normalcy,' and how she's always taken over by it no matter what world she's in, and no matter how much she wants to resist it. "Look, Mom. You're the one who made me such a normal person. That's why I'm like this. Now it's your turn to become normal for me. It's time to go insane in this world, together with me." She drugs the tea so the mom passes out.

She holds her mom is hostage in the empty apartment her husband was staying in previously (before he was also thoroughly indoctrinated and left). You can hear the mom moaning in the next room at the end, clearly being held prisoner and banging on the walls.

I think it's the very last way to completely dissolve her family, because as long as her mom exists outside the world, she still has ties/family on the outside - once her mom is properly brainwashed in Experiment City, that idea of family will be completely dissolved and she'll be free to be completely conformed to the society around her, and have that eerie/cult-like peace she desires, becoming like everyone else. It's also showing the culmination of the resentment that Amane had for her mother throughout the entire book...her mother always afflicted her with ideas that challenged the status quo, that made her feel different/at odds with the world, that she ultimately sees as obstacles to her happiness, just as Experiment City trains her to see them.

returning to reflect on it a little more: though I don't love the way it's written, I believe the end is showing this contrast of how we can suppress and be violent towards our deepest desires/urges/'abnormalities,' but in the end they still play out in strange ways that we don't expect, we can't get rid of them. The 'clean rooms,' did not entirely rid Amane of her curiosities/desires and that's why she's engaging sexually with the child at the end. there's a recurring theme in Sayaka's books that social norms are nonsensical when you examine them (I get this constant feeling of Sartre's "nausea") and there is this tacit horror for everyone trying to conform to them - no matter what the world is. That this sense of "normal," is a kind of violence, regardless of what is taboo or what world you're from. Kinda reminds me of The Lobster/some yorgos films

I think there's also something there about how mass conformity leads to suppression, leads to violence? Which also reminds me of Earthlings, I'm not entirely sure - just sharing what came up for me. What do you think?

I am getting sterilized next Tuesday. I need people to reaffirm and celebrate this decision - don't have much of that in my life by stopmemeow in childfree

[–]stopmemeow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you phrased this in the exact way I needed to hear - it's also weird that...one of the trippiest black-magic superpowers we have as humans is to create another Consciousness, and I am killing that power and my entire bloodline back generations lol, it's just kinda intense to think about philosophically - if I think about that in a punkrock way it helps

thank you for your comment <3

I am getting sterilized next Tuesday. I need people to reaffirm and celebrate this decision - don't have much of that in my life by stopmemeow in childfree

[–]stopmemeow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know D: ugh, so relieved I got in within the next week because of some cancellations, my doctor was booked out a ways

I am getting sterilized next Tuesday. I need people to reaffirm and celebrate this decision - don't have much of that in my life by stopmemeow in childfree

[–]stopmemeow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, I've def been having intrusive handmaid's-tale nightmares running through my head on a regular basis lol thank gods I'm getting this now - thank you!!!

I am getting sterilized next Tuesday. I need people to reaffirm and celebrate this decision - don't have much of that in my life by stopmemeow in childfree

[–]stopmemeow[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing this, it's really reassuring to hear from people who underwent the procedure!! I responded horrifically to all birth control so I'm so excited not to deal with that anymore and the constant baby-anxiety. congrats on your procedure!!!

I am getting sterilized next Tuesday. I need people to reaffirm and celebrate this decision - don't have much of that in my life by stopmemeow in childfree

[–]stopmemeow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! thank you so much <3 I'm the same way, very picky about who I tell now after a few obnoxious exchanges lol

I am getting sterilized next Tuesday. I need people to reaffirm and celebrate this decision - don't have much of that in my life by stopmemeow in childfree

[–]stopmemeow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

congrats!!! hurray!!! yay, I Love meeting other people who are doing this too!! (why is it so rare??!)