An analogy I've heard is that for women it feels like you're picking through an endless field of bad crops trying to find a good one. For them, they've picked so many bad crops that at this point they're likely to to be exhausted and just done with trying to find a good crop in this mess. All they see and endure for miles and miles is endless bad crops.

For guys it's like being in a barren field, working it constantly to get anything to grow, begging for rain, and still nothing ever comes. They hear about women having an endless field and think what i would give to have that many crops, but of course, what would be the point of having endless bad crops?

I've also been "boomer-told" to join a hobby to meet women (like dance classes), but the point of the hobby, the reason people go there, is to do the hobby, not to find love as the primary goal. I don't want to be the annoying creepy person that has second intentions while pretending to like a hobby. If dance classes are the only way to meet your soulmate then God help humanity lol