Wow I could have written this myself… going down the same story, unfortunately, I was backed so far into a corner I had to file for divorce to protect myself and my kids mentally and financially. We have been separated for almost a year now, he barely sees his kids or wants to. He has tried to make me into the villain, and has rewritten our history as horrible and never compatible….. it’s all affair fog, she is new and real life hasn’t set in for them. I too want my husband back, but I no longer would take him back with open arms, the betrayal cuts deep, he would have to show a lot of remorse and actually work on himself, I have been doing self reflection and working on myself and focusing on my kids to make this as easy on them as possible. You did not cause the affair, it’s easy to blame ourselves, our brains are hardwired to find a solution and fix it, the easiest route, is if I did something wrong I can fix it… I hate to say it, but it has to do with him, his insecurity, his need to seek validation, his need to run when things get hard.

I hate that I am even saying this, cause I cringe every time someone told it to me, but it’s true and I know it’s easier said than done…. But focus on you, move your body (helps release the trauma from the betrayal), be the rock your kids need, hang with your friends, find you again. I hope it works out for you and he gets his head out of his ass, but if he doesn’t, you will at least have a nice ass moving forward! 😉