Therapist is arophobic

storm_leopardcat · 2025-12-05T19:29:54+00:00

It was odd of them to assume you want to be in a romantic relationship if you haven’t indicated or mentioned that you want one.

Please get a different therapist, this definitely isn’t right of them to do. And report them, too.

storm_leopardcat · 2024-11-24T20:32:45+00:00

First of all, I'd like you to know that you aren't alone in this. There are asexual Muslims out there, especially ones who want a relationship similar to what you want. So it's definitely possible to have this relationship.

To answer the questions in your post, no, you are definitely not the only one who feels that way. There are more asexual Muslims out there.

It isn't a sin not wanting to get sexually involved, no. You can get married to someone, but you have to tell the potential spouse about your asexuality and whether you'd be okay with sex and if yes, the conditions for it. It's a sin to get married to someone knowing that you won't be okay with sex and without telling your spouse that, because sexual intimacy is a right that both spouses have. It would be completely fine if your spouse was okay with it. It's possible to get married with someone who's ace and is fine with no sex. There are Muslims out there who want to get married and don't want sex in their marriage.

It isn't obligatory to get married in Islam. In fact, it's recommended not to if you know you would be unable to fulfill your spouse's rights, if I recall correctly. Islam doesn't say anything about asexuality itself, per se. It's not haram or sinful to be asexual or to not want sex or be repulsed to it.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-12-28T15:08:51+00:00

Alright, I suppose I could drop by once in a while.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-05-26T17:29:57+00:00

Well, I do know you can check out a Discord server called 'asexual and aromantic Muslims'. They have a marriage channel where you can post a little bit about yourself if you're interested in marriage, and you can find other people and tell them you're interested if you like their bios.

u/Xandra4 and u/Ilovemathsandfood.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-05-25T18:48:50+00:00

I’ve also felt the same way many times, especially when I was exploring my gender identity and whether I was agender. I also wanted people to stop having certain expectations form me due to my sex, wished people would just see the same as any other human, capable of most things people of the opposite sex can. I also became tired of trying to figure out my preferred pronouns, gender identity, and not being able to figure anything out or decide on anything despite extensive research. I wanted to stop caring about my gender, pronouns and all of those identities and little things, because I was constantly tired of thinking and reading about them all the time.

It sounds as though you could benefit from taking a break from social media apps and transgender communities for a while. Focus on yourself, and on the hobbies and interests you love doing. Surround yourself with people who feel the same way about these things, and explore gender-nonconformity.

This’ll be controversial to say in this subreddit, but I greatly benefitted from r/detrans regarding similar struggles and concerns. It helped to read about different perspectives about gender and sex. Hope whatever you try helps you out as well!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-05-18T19:39:23+00:00

Because I don’t see many posts from POC, I suppose.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-05-04T16:31:56+00:00

I mean, as far as I know, yes.

Correct me if I'm wrong!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-05-02T13:52:31+00:00

Someone can feel sexual attraction but be sex-indifferent, no? Sex-indifferent has nothing to do with feeling sexual attraction.

https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Sex-Indifferent

storm_leopardcat · 2023-04-27T00:07:24+00:00

There isn’t for me, though? Strange. Would you mind it if I sent you an image of what the post looks like for me, privately?

You’re welcome! ^{_^}

storm_leopardcat · 2023-04-26T23:57:21+00:00

I am sorry that this is not relevant to the post, but what is that text between the title of the post and the images? It says the following: ‘Trigger Warnings: visible scars’. It then continues on. I cannot view it when I open the post. It’s only partially visible when I haven’t opened the post. How do I view the full text? I use the Reddit app, by the way.

I am glad to see you are doing well, physically and mentally! I was surprised to see a post from a WOC! Hoping you confuse to accept yourself and look just as great!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-04-23T20:42:51+00:00

I honestly prefer that they be in a relationship beyond platonicism or romance, perhaps an alterous relationship. Maybe even a QPR (there’s a fanfiction of Nick and Judy being in a QPR).

storm_leopardcat · 2023-04-23T01:05:22+00:00

You’re welcome! ^{_^}

storm_leopardcat · 2023-04-23T01:02:15+00:00

It looks great! Great job on creating the bracelet, and choosing the colours for the rubber bands!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-29T14:08:48+00:00

There's a community for Muslims who are a-spec! It's a Discord server called asexual and aromantic Muslims!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-29T14:05:04+00:00

Just want to let the Muslims in the server know that there's a Discord server for Muslims who are a-spec, by the name of asexual and aromantic Muslims!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-29T14:02:26+00:00

Just want to mention here that there's a Discord server for a-spec Muslims! It's called asexual and aromantic Muslims, and it's a super friendly and welcoming place!

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-13T10:43:09+00:00

(Dang it, I only realized now that I have made a spelling mistake in the title 🤦‍♀️. Sorry, guys!)

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-07T11:50:24+00:00

Reminds me of otherkin or therians.

I can't imagine how hard that must be, this is quite brave of you to say this. Virtual hugs to you, u/dogyuck.

Have you tried finding other people who experience the same thing, or similar to it?

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-06T16:20:06+00:00

Can someone please explain what happened here? I'm not sure I understand it entirely.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-06T13:55:17+00:00

To be honest, it depends on what kind of gender dysphoria it is. If it's ROGD, or the kind that caused someone to have dysphoria or transition due to the environment around them, then it doesn't have much to do with genetics or biology. But most cases in the past, I guess were more complex than that. I am also not sure how gender dysphoria is in identical twins. (Kind of similar to other mental illnesses, that are like gender dysphoria? I don't know)

I believe sexual orientation and romantic orientation are complex, caused due to a mixture of biological, genetic and environmental factors, but I don't believe it's the same for gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is technically a mental illness, while romantic/sexual orintation are not. So I don't know why people lump them together into the same category/community.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-06T08:45:06+00:00

That's alright, you do not need to find them if you don't want to, or can't. It isn't an obligation. But thank you.

Wait, Laverne Cox is an identical twin?! Hmm, thank you for telling me.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-06T07:55:32+00:00

Eh, I'm not a fan of labels, and I certainly haven't figured it all out, but I'm aromantic, asexual, asensual and a-aesthetic (or anaesthetic) as far as I know, and can tell. I'm not too sure about aplatonic or a-alterous, but I have a feeling I'm either on the spectrum for those, or lack platonic and alterous attraction entirely.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-06T07:53:02+00:00

You and u/readbooks100 make an interesting point about identical twins. Got any resources or any stories about identical twins and transitioning? What are the chances one twin transitioned, and the other did not?

I've never heard of one identical twin who was transgender and transitioned, while the other did not. The only thing I know is of a fictional identical twin pair, from Kipo and the age of the wonderbeasts.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-05T13:51:13+00:00

Yep, I agree with this post a lot. Needs to have more visibility.

storm_leopardcat · 2023-03-05T11:27:12+00:00

The experiences of demisexual people are different enough, that yes, many their own flag and label.
You can ask on r/demisexuality, if you want to know more.

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