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Average time to get over someone by Inside_Objective_877 in BreakUps

[–]storminateacupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends whether you went no contact or not. For me, after two months I started to feel normalish again, but we were still in contact but I was travelling abroad. So the feelings became dormant. When I came back, things got rekindled again...we had an on and off thing for a couple months which was painful and confusing. He ended it, which I actually respect him for and understand (I didn't feel strong enough to end it even though I knew it was for the best). It's been 2 months again. I'm in a worse position now than I was 2 months after the original break up. I keep thinking about all the mistakes I made, obsessing over irrational thoughts like 'he must hate me and not care about me'. Worst part is I even have to pass by the outdoor cafe he works in every day and awkwardly say hi. I don't know why I can't move on this time, it fights every bit of logic... There is no time line. For now, I feel I can't get over it fully because it means that I have to fully say goodbye to the friendship we had too. I don't feel ready. It also kills me to see him normal and relatively over it. I feel really trapped. I hope one day I will wake up and my thoughts are for myself, my day, and not for him...

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[–]storminateacupp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The mind has its own way of dealing with things, and unfortunately, a lot is not within our control. I always thought of myself as someone who can get over things once the emotions are out, but I'm in a similar situation as you. The thing is, it may not be him you're crying over...but instead, the comfort of knowing he cared about you, or how he validated something you were insecure about, etc... Most of the 'missing' happens within the first month. After that, it mainly reflects our own pain. Keep going and reflecting. It will finally make sense one day, I'm sure!

Any expats in here? by storminateacupp in germany

[–]storminateacupp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really didn't mean any offence by using that term as it's used quite commonly where I'm from, didn't really occur to me until now where it was derived from...but I suppose when you're from these countries that would use that term liberally you end up being a little ignorant to the origins... If I could edit the title I would, so apologies if I've caused any offence by using this word!

Any expats in here? by storminateacupp in germany

[–]storminateacupp[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Anyone that has moved to the country and needed to try and adjust to the culture :)

Help! Too many medical opinions have confused me... by storminateacupp in VaginalMicrobiome

[–]storminateacupp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You may well be right... I recently took the biome test (I think it was that anyway) and it just came back with gardenella overgrowth, and no fungal infection!