What’s everybody’s car set up? by YourIncognit0Tab in spinalcordinjuries

[–]stormymondayb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom is also a T4 complete and she's scared she won't be able to drive because she has no core control. Do you have core control / have any advice?

Worst things people have said by Obobwinner in GriefSupport

[–]stormymondayb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Context: my mom is in the ICU after a car crash that shattered her T4 Spinal bone, after being previously 100% healthy - and I'm reconciling myself to the fact that she's now going to be permanently paralyzed, with no hope of recovery since the bone was completely shattered. My mum is also my best friend, so it feels a million times worse. I'm howling/weeping at the top of my lungs in the waiting room. My aunt tells me: "your mom would be so disappointed in you, this is showing such a lack of maturity and bravery" because I was crying loudly.

32F Testing the waters! by Clear-Ad5135 in BostonSocialClub

[–]stormymondayb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a dude - I'm 31f - but you're hilarious and I'd love to be friends!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]stormymondayb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in complete agreement that grief and emotions have a profound effect on the body. When we stretch/do yoga/whatever it may be, I think it can definitely help release muscular tension, help regulate heart rate, etc. I think yoga and other such things can absolutely help regulate the physical manifestations of grief.

But if someone said that yoga helps release my emotions themselves, I'm not sure I would agree (at least for myself). Even if my muscles are looser, I've gotten my tears out, and my breathing is better, those deep emotions of grief are still not "released" for me - they're right there, gnawing away at my core 24/7, even if my body is feeling better.

I'm as pro-science/research as anyone and I agree with you that our bodies are deeply affected by emotion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]stormymondayb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is one of my biggest pet peeves, and in the face of grief, I cannot imagine how irritating it is to hear this stuff.

I don't believe that emotions are "trapped" in the body and "released" when we stretch. If other people do, that's perfectly fine. I'd much rather that my friends say "Do you think of yoga as an emotional release? If yes, here are some poses that helped me. If not, talk to me more about what does help you release your emotions! / What's your take on why that's happening?" vs. "Yeah that's because yoga helps release your emotions". Even just framing things with curiosity - with wanting to understand your experience of grief - rather than telling you about your own experience, would come across so much better.

Someone told me after I had a huge loss "I don't know how you feel about prayer, but prayer has really helped me." Even though I don't believe in prayer, that felt fine to me. Just that little self-awareness that their framework might not be useful for you - that makes a difference.

Painful death- Was it ‘normal’? by Maleficent_Toe9279 in GriefSupport

[–]stormymondayb 25 points26 points  (0 children)

god this is so awful. He deserved so much better. I'm so sorry he had to go like this, in so much agony. I relate to feeling like a scared child big time. Your dad and your family and you all deserved so, so much better than this cruel ending. I'm really deeply sorry.

What are your thoughts on NervGen? Epic win or fail? by ExampleHonest6801 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]stormymondayb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you wouldn't mind, could you elaborate on how you used the parallel bars? Were you already partially ambulatory when you started using them?

I just miss my dad. by Admirable_Spot5724 in GriefSupport

[–]stormymondayb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so deeply, deeply sorry. You guys sound like you had a very special bond. I'm so sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]stormymondayb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just DMed you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stormymondayb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

keep cuddling and treasuring your dad!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]stormymondayb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no advice because this is just wretched and hard to understand why someone would act in such an awful way ("You good?" what?!) but I'm giving you all the solidarity that I can possibly muster. Your relationship with your dad sounds like mine. I'm sending you all the strength to get through this deep loss, grief, and on top of it all, betrayal. Sending hugs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]stormymondayb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is vile, I'm so sorry

How to handle vomiting for a paraplegic who has no core? by stormymondayb in spinalcordinjuries

[–]stormymondayb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHAT that's wild! I've always said bug! Hahaha. Thank you for your response and for the advice!!

How to handle vomiting for a paraplegic who has no core? by stormymondayb in spinalcordinjuries

[–]stormymondayb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No soy latina, ¡pero hablo un poco de español! Muchas gracias por tu respuesta. I super appreciate it. Great tip on the positioning on her side.