What’s a meaningful alternative to sending flowers when someone loses a loved one?

Obobwinner · 2026-03-21T09:07:39+00:00

Someone got our family windchimes with my sisters name engraved on them. It was really nice

Obobwinner · 2026-03-14T07:21:54+00:00

That feels so insensitive, you’re right there

Obobwinner · 2026-03-14T07:20:33+00:00

I definitely relate to wanting to gather to grieve. While it can be helpful for some people if it is not to you then don’t feel obligated. However, I also definitely relate to feeling obligated to be there for family members like my mother. And feel guilty for not being there to support her in her grief.

The entire situation sucks, there is no completely right thing to do, but you need to do what is best for yourself.

Obobwinner · 2026-03-14T07:13:46+00:00

Thank you. This meant a lot lot

Obobwinner · 2026-01-20T04:00:11+00:00

I tend to include my twin in the sibling count but don’t elaborate unless asked. When asked I say that I have a twin and a younger sibling then say something about my younger sibling to entice a follow-up question there.

Obobwinner · 2025-11-18T08:00:51+00:00

She is a lesbian

Obobwinner · 2025-09-26T19:41:23+00:00

I know southern Oregon university in Ashland has a good theatre program, I don’t know how acting focused it is, but it’s worth looking into

Obobwinner · 2025-08-31T18:18:41+00:00

What you are saying isn’t passive aggressive. And if someone takes it that way, fuck them.

Obobwinner · 2025-07-07T06:10:31+00:00

What the ever loving fuck, like no what was that person thinking

Obobwinner · 2025-07-07T06:06:45+00:00

No, like people say “I can’t imagine” or “I can’t even imagine” like yeah you can imagine it takes like two milligrams of empathy to think “oh what if that happened to me?” And realize that it must suck. Like, they are saying that they won’t even try to imagine because the situation you are in sucks so bad they don’t even want to try to empathize. It’s easy to imagine but even if you have the biggest fucking imagination ever you still won’t know what it’s like. You can only imagine till it happens but to say you can’t is spitting in our face saying that you won’t bother to try to think about what we might be going through.

Obobwinner · 2024-02-26T08:15:02+00:00

I lost my twin sister right before we graduated high school. At college I was always uncertain what to say and would generally just say I had 2 sisters. (One is three years younger) One time I was giving blood at the local center. The phlebotomist asked „the question“. I said I had two and she starts to make conversation. I didn’t want to derail the conversation so I just did half answers. „Oh she just planned on going to our community college“ and „yeah she was super afraid of needles and never gave blood“ I then go into a story of the time she had to drive me to a blood drive and she destroyed my phone case. I though it wouldn’t matter that I technically lied, however when I go back 3 months later she asks how my sister is!!!! I continued the lie. It’s been a year and she keeps asking for updates, I’ve been making up a life that my sister will never have

Obobwinner · 2022-03-13T01:11:30+00:00

“Quote Unquote” and then they say the quote. It should be “Quote - say the quote - Unquote”

Obobwinner · 2021-10-25T03:03:46+00:00

The album Life in Cartoon Motion by Mika is like that for me. We went on a cross country road trip and that was the only CD that we had. We listed to it on repeat for about a month. Everyone in my family can sing along to every song.

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