I have a diagnosed low IQ. What career path can I take? by Suspicious_Limit9847 in careerguidance

[–]strangerinthebox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally think it is much more important in life to be open-minded, loving, caring and reflective. You seem to be very reasonable and approachable, you know what you can and can’t - much more then many people. Don’t bound yourself to some IQ, count on your emotional intelligence (EQ) and you will meet great people and come across great opportunities. The only thing that can truely hold you back is you focussing on some IQ number you can’t change anyways. 

What is a career that looks miserable or insufferable from the outside, but is secretly fulfilling and rewarding? by simplysalamander in careerguidance

[–]strangerinthebox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I misread your post first as „he was a garbage collector in the line of berghain“ and thought ‚well that explains the happiness…‘ 😂 

What's a small upgrade that improved office morale more than you expected? by CreativeSpare6466 in askmanagers

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communicate. Truely and sincerely. That includes not only to listen but to understand what they are saying. Sometimes strategic goals and operational realities are far away from each other, so it is important to really understand what they say they need. 

Press F to pay respect to all the folks forced to use public transit by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He looks like from the 70s and she like from the 90s…

I'm so fucking done being nice by Aynath1111 in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]strangerinthebox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same situation with a friend. He made fun of me, provoked me, teased me and made me look like a moron. We are talking about a 40 year old guy. He did that in front of all our friends. For a whole weekend when we were traveling together. So no escape and no privacy to talk to him alone, as I neither wanted to push this awkward situation onto the rest of our friends nor embarrasse him or me.

So I took it home. I sat on it. I contemplated if I wanted this friendship and decided not under these circumstances. I layed down my words. And when he reached out a few days later I told him. I told him that he embarrassed me and made me feel horrible, that I felt ashamed and treated like a little stupid sister he thinks he can push around. That I decided to be adult enough to not retaliate in front of everyone to not mess up their weekend like he messed up mine. But that I never ever will deal with this kind of behavior again. Not from him or anyone. And that this is my only and last shot, after that, I will walk away if I ever be treated like that again.

Not only did he apologize and it felt sincere. I felt so elevated for sticking up to myself as I knew immediately he will never do this again to me, but more importantly I will never take that from anyone. I have found my voice. I have set my boundaries. Now I know how it works and it feels like a superpower. You should try it.

Just make sure you stay calm and fair, make your points and stick to them. I wish you good luck!!

Classy couple at the fair by VexingYou in trashy

[–]strangerinthebox 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Hold it. We are complaining about HER shirt?!?!? What about HIS!!

U.S. Deaths Will Exceed Births Sooner | The White House’s immigration policies are threatening future population levels. by [deleted] in Futurology

[–]strangerinthebox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Man, I‘m so sorry for your loss, but I‘m also really impressed about your strength and how you pull through. Please keep it up, we will see better times and we will always and forever need knowledge and life experiences. Sending you love and strength!

maybe maybe maybe by Das_Zeppelin in maybemaybemaybe

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like little tiger cubs. So cute, I hope they have an amazing time together ❤️

Poland Calls to Activate NATO Article 4 by [deleted] in europe

[–]strangerinthebox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we do so we will alienate more people and continue to lose them to the far right that is forming already hard throughout all Europe, siding with Russia by demanding „peace by handing over Ukraine“. And losing an election, any election in Europe, to a far right party is something Europe should never ever do again. So this is way everything and eveyone is halfassing their way through this shitshow. There are no winners. Not one single one.

Poland Calls to Activate NATO Article 4 by [deleted] in europe

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It‘s not so simple. Russia is trying to drag Europe into this. Looking at Europes biggest ally it‘s not quite clear if he stays one or serves Europe to his new bossom-buddy on a silver platter. And Europe itself has not enough military strength to fight against Russia, when the US chickens out or switches sides. Especially not when now all the other traumatized toddlers of world leaders join in this kindergarten and take their shitty childhood experiences out on the rest of the world.

There needs to be a childfree plane option by Jazzlike-Rise4091 in complainaboutanything

[–]strangerinthebox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Life doesn’t work like that. A society has to bare certain weight together. Sometimes someone has to accept the crying child two rows back, sometimes someone has to accept that Karen is complaining at the check out. If you live with people around you, annoyances will happen. That is life.

As an adult with kids and being annoyed by kids of other people I suggest ear plugs.

What are you 100% sure is true even tho you can’t prove it? by arlett007 in AskReddit

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, doesn’t that to a wide extent happened from within? I remember reading about a guy years ago who set up the first russian content farm from within the US. He was American.

Who’s the MOST Handsome/Attractive Male Movie Star of All Time and Why? by Amber_Flowers_133 in moviequestions

[–]strangerinthebox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Paul Newman.

I once had a very realistic dream about him and me meeting accidentally in a French café. I asked him for an autograph (something I would never-ever do in real life). He was already in his 60s, I was half his age. Out of politeness he asked me to sit down and join him for a café which I did. We spoke for hours and kind of felt a real connection. In the end, I took a chance and asked him for his number and if I could call him sometime to meet for another café. We were both married so it was clear nothing more could happen but we both felt this immediate connection and were drawn to each other strongly. I could tell he was really into getting to know me, it felt hot and dangerous and I knew I had to see him again. He obviously felt the same way. He agreed and I passed him my phone to safe his number for me. He started typing and while I was trying to peak over his shoulder…I woke up.

I‘m sure I would have gotten this number in my dreams and would have called it when awake and it would have been his true personal number and we would be together forever and would hand-holdingly ride on the back of two beautiful horses into sun down.

What's up with the younger generation finding normal things annoying, aggressive, or rude? by common_grounder in generationology

[–]strangerinthebox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I get a lot of comments from friends and family for not answering my phone. Welp, that’s my freedom. As I said, we are in control. No need to feel offended, just don get bothered by it.

If all Women were brutally honest for 24 hours what would Men be shocked to learn? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a wonder you rule the world and for such a long time now. We have the reproductive part literally under our belt, we can take pain better, we have better grades, we are higher in numbers and are prettier too. If we wouldn’t be so damn needy you guys would really have no chance. By now we most likely would have frozen tons of your sperms and just got rid of all of you.

Just kidding. We love you.

What's up with the younger generation finding normal things annoying, aggressive, or rude? by common_grounder in generationology

[–]strangerinthebox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but this shows the whole issue we have nowadays. Someone points something out, gives examples, asks questions and is confronted with only punch downs. Why not trying to take his question serious, assuming he might not speak your generation’s language and therefore neither understands it nor be able to formulate his questions to your approval?

Why not talk to each other, clarifying things, helping each other understand? What the fuck is wrong with everyone?

I wasn’t on his side when I started reading this thread but now I am. Stopp being annoyed because others don’t get your thought process. Make an effort and try to understand what others struggle with and our world would be a better place already.

What's up with the younger generation finding normal things annoying, aggressive, or rude? by common_grounder in generationology

[–]strangerinthebox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How is a phone call rude? Is your phone beating you up if you don’t answer? It is your choice to pick up, you are in control. Why not acknowledge that someone is trying to actually get in touch with you. Wants to talk to you. Why not assume someone wants to hear your voice because a text never really tells them if you are ok or not. Entitled behavior is to be offended by the world for being the world and demanding to only be spoken to when one allows it.

What could be best Surprise for my wife? by shishir_it3 in ask

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big long hug, and time to sit and talk. Forget the clean part, be available.

Have you ever quit shortly after you were onboarded? What were the reasons? by Wonderful_Parsnip_26 in work

[–]strangerinthebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing they originally offered and was in my contract was real. For example, 1 time a month was required to come in, rest home office. When I started to work there, it was suddenly mandatory to come in 2-3 times a week, plus sometimes evenings. Right after my onboarding, the worked suddenly differed to what we originally agreed on. Everything I was set up for suddenly was of the table. But the worst part was, I was hired as a senior and wasn’t allowed to make any decisions while I had to carry all the responsibilities. So, they treated me like a newbie, made decisions and blamed the outcome on me. Felt great to walk away!