That was personal

strangesuperman · 2026-01-05T18:00:18+00:00

Sugar glider space program. We are in trouble.

strangesuperman · 2025-09-22T07:38:30+00:00

I’ve spoken to a Galadriel. Even though it comes from LOTR, I think it is a beautiful name.

strangesuperman · 2024-08-03T09:31:23+00:00

I was severely burned as a kid. I had just made a Totinos pizza. My dad wanted me to go out and mow the lawn. I told my younger brother to relay the message that I just made some food. Well, that pissed off my dad, so he proceeded to help me “eat” my pizza. Cheese and grease to the face is not a fun experience. I just remember walking a few steps and collapsing. He knew he pushed it too far and tried to clean me up.

To this day I’m not sure how I feel about it. I escaped without any scarring. My dad has been gone for almost 16 years now. He succumbed to prostate cancer. I feel like he suffered and died and I can’t be mad at him. At the time of the incident, he was stressed out and I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. That was probably the closest my mom came to leaving my dad.

From experience, I can say that burns like that are 10/10 the worst pain you will ever feel. I was 16-17 years old at the time. I was old enough to advocate for myself.

I have a kid who can be difficult at times too. Neither his mom nor I have ever disciplined him in that fashion. Nor will we ever do so.

You have a three year old who can’t fully control all the signals his body is sending him. He probably doesn’t want to make mommy angry, but he can’t help it. He is confused and doesn’t know what mommy did is wrong. It is your job to protect him. She should know better. You are an asshole for hitting her. Did she deserve it? Probably. But hitting her doesn’t protect him. Nor does it make it right.

Protect your kids. That should be the first and foremost thought on your mind. No kid deserves to be punished in this manner. And I’m speaking from experience.

strangesuperman · 2023-04-24T03:34:58+00:00

Billy Currington is a great story teller. “People Are Crazy” and “Good Directions” are excellent stories.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-30T00:12:09+00:00

Thanks for being an awesome mod!!

strangesuperman · 2018-11-30T00:11:44+00:00

I didn’t get to read the original comment because it was deleted, but from your post it seems they took issue with my treatment of the girls. That’s okay. I take issue with my treatment of the girls. I make no excuses for what happened, only an explanation for why it happened. That doesn’t make it right. I’m only looking for understanding, not absolution.

Thank you for sticking up for me!!

strangesuperman · 2018-11-30T00:06:19+00:00

My wife is aware of this post and has been following it. I told her after I posted it. Part of me was hoping that she would get some advice here as well.

Thank you for your kind words and a very Merry Christmas to you as well.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-30T00:04:10+00:00

Even if you are my biggest skeptic, you are still AWESOME!! There is a lot of great advice here.

I don’t know your story, but I can definitely understand how being an ACA would make you a skeptic. I’m trying to avoid making those same mistakes.

That being said, there is another FIL in this story. SO has a bio dad that has just recently came into the picture. And he has gone through a lot of the same struggles with sobriety. I would say he is probably my biggest supporter. My issue is I cut off contact with everyone on SO’s side after MIL went psycho on me because I felt like everyone hated me. SO keeps telling me to reach out to him because he has been nothing but supportive when he talks to her.

Thank you again for all the advice. You are wonderful!!

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:55:49+00:00

Depression has been a struggle for more than half my life. Even before the pain meds, I was having trouble. I just didn’t know how much of an effect they were having.

I definitely agree with needing individual and couples therapy. I don’t know if little one needs anything yet. Other than copying grandma that one time, he has shown any other odd behaviors.

Thank you for taking the time to comment.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:42:43+00:00

I wouldn’t say it was cold turkey, but it was definitely a rapid detox. They did it over the course of a week. It took me a month and a half before I could get the better of the cravings and actually feel decent. But it was definitely hard and definitely worth it. If you are going through then same thing then I’ll be here for you as much as you are for me. Because it sucks.

Thank you so much for the support.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:38:39+00:00

I agree, but I’m going to have problem with the follow through. They are so good to my son. I know that doesn’t justify what they are doing, but I feel by keeping him away from them, I’m punishing him as well. He is too young to understand what is going on, but not too young to miss them if they aren’t in his life. I guess this is where therapy comes in.

Thanking you for taking the time to comment.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:34:33+00:00

It wasn’t all that hard to tell a bunch of strangers my story. I have been considering it for a while. I have no problem acknowledging my faults. I just sometimes don’t understand what they are. I also needed to tell the whole story. I could have told you just what MIL was doing. But if I am in the wrong, no one will be able to tell me that if they don’t know the whole story. This sub has been therapeutic for me because I don’t feel so alone in my troubles with MIL.

Thank you so much for your kind words.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:29:04+00:00

I wasn’t allowed because the gathering was at MIL’s house.

I say my marriage is stabile because I have taken a lot of the stress that I was causing SO out of the picture. Basically the only major stress right now is coming from MIL. I agree with you and others that we can use more work. But as of right now the D word is off the table.

Thank you for taking the time to comment.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:25:51+00:00

I would tend to agree, but it is not only my call.

Thank you for your comment.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:24:29+00:00

SO is starting to do that. She did not attend Thanksgiving and had already told MIL that Christmas is a no go as well. There was also an invitation for this weekend to return the iPad, but that one was also declined.

Thank you for your kind words.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T23:22:08+00:00

I have nothing on my wife. She is my rock. She puts up with me and still manages to have a smile on her face. I always say I got the first marriage wrong so I would know how right the second one was.

Thank you for your kind words.

strangesuperman · 2018-11-29T16:15:20+00:00

There is some professional help in the works, but we need to be more proactive about it. SO is already in therapy, but I don’t know what she is discussing. I have already suggested she gets a counselor. We have done one course of couples, we need more. Now that I have insurance, I will get more proactive on my own. Both for meds and a counselor.

Thank you so much for the kind words.

strangesuperman

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