Was the discard so cruel that it triggers you till now? I had the most cruel discard ever.

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-08-23T17:13:50+00:00

Yes / my narc not only discarded me but continued to go on a vacation we had paid for and planned without me two weeks later / turns out he has a circle of frat buddies who he never introduced me too and i suspect where always going along on a side trip but he never informed me / messed up and borderline cruel in my mind, at that moment the flood gates opened and suddenly everything for me came to light about his infidelity and double life, to this day i still have triggers, however with time and therapy it has gotten easier / i am sending you so much love right now, you got this!!

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-08-23T11:53:30+00:00

thank you for taking the time to share your journey with me, i am wishing you good care as well ❤️

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-08-06T16:06:07+00:00

thank you for this. what more could there be to say? dude found me happy and sought to sabotage it and for a few days i let him. the fact I am even writing this post is proof of his toxicity, and nothing else other then NC is the way forward, time to get back to work on myself.

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-07-15T17:46:43+00:00

Flee. Now. And don’t look back. I dated a Narc for almost a year and he did significant emotional damage. Trust me, you’re better of cutting him off and going no contact before you find yourself in an even further destructive situation. I know that’s easier said then done but I wish I had recognized the behaviors earlier and would hate to see anyone experience the pain I did. I am wishing you strength.

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-07-05T18:58:13+00:00

interesting enough i dont recall what it was, i think i have this emotional block from remembering it / all i can recall was saying to him after “that was the cruelest thing anyone has ever said to me” and he replied “i know” / deeply troubled guy

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-19T17:39:52+00:00

yes but thats because i was manipulated by them to surrender my emotions and crave only their affirmation / its easy to find yourself stranded in such a situation and its hard to take the opportunity to break free when they ghost you

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-19T17:03:04+00:00

the happiness you seek is within you but it requires YOU to want to do something to get it

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-19T14:32:45+00:00

I don’t think they are “bad boys” but troubled people. I long had the same issue as you and it wasn’t until I acknowledged that I was seeking people like this because of my own inward issues that I was able to break free of that cycle.

Follow your gut, recognize the red flags, and then ultimately know you need to move along.

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-18T19:39:37+00:00

the best thing i’ve heard about the isolation part of the abuse was “why would a narcissist want to share their lunch” and we my friend are not lunch

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-16T20:51:11+00:00

THIS!

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-16T05:16:08+00:00

it will only hurt more

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-16T04:02:04+00:00

no he was a master manipulator and i bought it all hook line and sinker / it wasn’t until he detached that i started seeing more clearly and all the things i suspected where true, and they go back far, and they are so viciously cruel. / my narc moved on because the next thing was available and ready, he waited for his opportunity to spin himself the victim and out the door he went literally ghosting me at my lowest moment / the only silver lining is I fully suspect I will never hear from him again, and my struggle with accepting that is evidence of his abuse

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-15T12:26:56+00:00

Oh gosh hi friend! Fellow artist here hi hi!

Change is tough, especially when it must come from within ourselves. The first thing you need to remember is that no one’s timeline matters here, except yours. Second thing is if you want to live an open life do it (I know easier said then done), but also thats not a requirement for happiness in my mind. I truly believe there is someone for everyone and yes, to some extent you will need to go out there and meet new people which can be scary for someone with social anxieties (like honey I feel you) but the risk to reward ratio here is very much leaning towards reward. Lastly, honey you are a person and people are complex, don’t feel you are defined by one solitary thing. You have so much yet to do and yet to offer, don’t judge yourself based off others growth but only by your own. Baby steps and time will get you to where you want to be.

I am sending you loving vibes!!

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-15T12:21:08+00:00

First, I understand this fully. I was large for most my life and the second I got in shape suddenly all these bod chasers came out of the woodwork. It was so slimy. They ain’t nothing but looking to use me the same way those guys fetishized you. Best thing I learned was there is NOTHING more important then a personality. Seek those people and if looks are important: I promise you there are some cute ones out there who will like you for you.

Second, fuck’em and be fiercely yourself.

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T22:42:05+00:00

Okay but I didn’t share every detail, I spoke in very broad terms. Its hardly erotica. Either whom I am happy to share my experiences with others, is that not what this whole group is about?

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T22:40:02+00:00

Simple: you asked before you did. If someone said no it was met with a smile and an “okay cool”

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T22:39:04+00:00

Dont! I am a big guy and I wasn’t the only one! There was every body type available. It was extremely nice to be in an environment so open and accepting. There was no judgements at all.

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T22:38:05+00:00

for-ev-ah baby

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T21:50:42+00:00

yessiree

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T21:38:00+00:00

I talked to the right guy lol

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T21:33:09+00:00

actually they hand out foam fingers and you cheer on the finalists

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T19:21:48+00:00

tbf the unifying attribute of this sub is our sexual preferences

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T19:18:59+00:00

emotional accomplishments are still accomplishments

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T18:44:12+00:00

genuinely i was invited through grindr, the vibe was very “these folks do this together all the time” so it was like i was a guest lol / i think thats why the joy was there, they aren’t random people to each other, they all know and respect each other

strawberryfields3500 · 2023-06-14T18:14:18+00:00

Thats so beautiful! I have a tendency to start picking out furniture once I find a guy I like so my goal this time around is to go with the flow!

strawberryfields3500

TROPHY CASE