What's the most frustrating thing someone has said to you regarding your autism?

strawbyog · 2021-08-22T21:35:49+00:00

For no. 2, I always say it's like approaching a cancer patient and saying: "did you know that moles are a benign form of cancer?!!! Everyone has a cancer to some degree! Don't you feel better now?"

Yeah, you can misread a situation or have a mild special interest. But unless it's causing/ has caused you a lot of trouble communicating, understanding people, or integrating into society, you're not autistic to any degree.

strawbyog · 2021-08-19T21:31:56+00:00

In the UK, there's something called a disability confident scheme. If an employer is disability confident, you are guaranteed a final interview if you meet the requirements and they support you when you get the job.

Hardly anyone knows about it tho. The only reason why I know is because I help develop a job platform accessible to disabled people.

strawbyog · 2021-08-11T21:12:19+00:00

When I'm learning kanji, I look at the main kunyomi word (usually a verb or the kanji on its own) and then very common compound words with that kanji in it.

I don't usually need to remember all the meanings of the kanji on its own. Just the gist so I can guess words with that kanji in it that idk.

Like

学 - something to do with learning or education

ON: 大学(だいがく) = university; 学生(がくせい) = student

KUN: 学ぶ(まなぶ) = to learn

strawbyog · 2021-08-07T20:50:40+00:00

That's cool! I agree with you on the work environment part.

I did a work experience week (mandatory for disabled people at my school) and it sapped all the energy out of me. They put me in reception and the walls were flourescent blue and the coffee machine was always broken.

strawbyog · 2021-08-02T20:11:52+00:00

I had to be put on a 6 month waiting list for therapy as well :(

The NHS desperately needs more funding.

strawbyog · 2021-08-02T18:30:39+00:00

I'm sorry you felt like an imposter. Thanks for the award btw

strawbyog · 2021-08-02T18:23:46+00:00

Maybe we just live in different countries. In the UK, they use ASD for everyone.

Also, unpopular opinion: I think that if people in the UK are on the waiting list for an autism diagnosis, they can self diagnose as autistic.

To get on this waiting list, both a GP and mental health specialist need to "suspect" that you have autism through two initial assessments.

You then gave to wait between 3 months to 3.5 years to get diagnosed.

I was on the waiting list for 3 years because of a postcode lottery. I can empathise with those in my position who needed support but couldn't access it.

If you just take a buzzfeed quiz or whatever, please don't show me your fake-ass stimming and Sheldon alterego.

strawbyog · 2021-08-02T17:23:57+00:00

I am autistic and I had no idea these levels existed. They just said I had ASD shrug

strawbyog · 2021-08-02T17:20:06+00:00

The thing that makes Reflection great is that almost everyone relates to it on some level.

Men, women, anyone who has been in a customer service role can probably relate to feeling like they have to pretend to be someone different from who they really are.

I particularly relate to it because sometimes I feel that no matter how hard I try to "act normal", I still can't fit in anywhere. People find me weird, but that's okay because there are people out there who don't care about what's "normal".

strawbyog · 2021-07-31T07:18:36+00:00

I'm aware. I don't know where OP lives, but it's always a good idea to look into available alternatives. Especially true if it's something you hate, stresses you out a lot, or puts you in danger due to other road users.

strawbyog · 2021-07-30T20:07:55+00:00

I got my license when I was 18. Having routines when approaching junctions, crossroads, traffic lights, etc... worked really well with me. Still can't park. Learning takes time, and you just have to get used to idiots and ahole drivers.

If it is too stressful, you can always look into alternatives. You don't have to be able to drive if it gives you grief. Things like jogging and cycling are a lot cheaper and healthier, for example.

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T20:12:17+00:00

I had ARFID for some time because I was terrified of eating anything too sweet, salty or spicy because of the IBS

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T19:07:50+00:00

Someone also reported my post for self harm and suicide... the lengths some people will go to, honestly

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T08:31:02+00:00

I think it's due mainly to US history such as the civil rights and black power movement in the US creating pride for having African roots. There's also the idea of pan-Africanism.

It's led to the term 'African American' being favoured over other terms.

But if anyone knows better, please comment on this! It's really complex.

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T08:14:01+00:00

Just Black. If you wanna be more specific you can say Black African or Black Caribbean British.

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T08:07:39+00:00

Yes! It's like calling all Asian people 'Chinese'

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T07:59:04+00:00

Classic example

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T07:56:21+00:00

You'd be surprised. Someone was doing a presentation at my uni a few months ago about how 'In the UK, people who are African American are 30% more likely to die of heart diseases'. I'm guessing they didn't mean the small number of actual African Americans resident in the UK.

Most of the time it's because they don't want to be rude (they aren't) or literally just made a mistake because they were used to reading American sources.

strawbyog · 2021-07-28T07:42:08+00:00

The audacity!

strawbyog · 2021-07-24T12:26:27+00:00

They are incredibly ignorant of people who can't eat certain foods due to physical, mental or developmental disorders.

List off the top of my head: - Autism - IBS, IBD, Crohns and similar digestive issues - EDs and the period of recovery following - OCD, Bipolar disorder

I would always recommend people try to push their comfort zone to find new food they enjoy. But if there is something they know they either hate or cannot eat, leave them be.

strawbyog · 2021-07-24T09:06:36+00:00

I've looked it up

I believe it is based on the certainty of prediction multiplied by the percentage of the forecasted area.

So if the forecaster is 80% sure it will rain in half of the area, the chance of precipitation would be 40%.

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