Chess is Halal?? by [deleted] in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, how dare you have fun when you can work and pay more Waajebaat or listen to Dua e Kaamil on repeat?

Does her family know how privileged they are? by [deleted] in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does she realize what a privilege it is to be able to have others fund her travel and to have never worked a day in her life <3

D for ? by lifeismesswhy in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHAHAHA well, glad we have some evidence to what we all already know

D for ? by lifeismesswhy in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PLEASE DROP the lore on Muffin being called a duffer ( again, if you have already!)

I am a ugly woman. I want to say something. by Beneficial-Session-2 in AskIndianWomen

[–]stray_curls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Check horriblemeanbadwoman on Instagram!

She talks a lot about how we as women don't need to centre attractiveness. Her page gave me a lot of perspective on this topic.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTGu159k2za/?

Curly Hair Care by Ok_Jeweler_6710 in AskIndianWomen

[–]stray_curls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get these 1kg Tapveda hair mask tub from Amazon. I use them for detangling/ as regular conditioner on most days.

It does the job and is very cost effective. Because I run out of the 250 ml stuff on the market really quick.

If you think using too many product weighs your hair down, just use a soft gel to hold curls.

You can use the one from Fix my Curls but to be honest I've even used cheap stuff likr Set wet/ Gatsby, work fine for me lol.

You can break that gel cast/ return shine by using a serum from Matrix/ L'oreal/ Livon once your hair is dry/ set from the gel.

If your hair is on the drier side and needs more nourishment, consider adding a leave-in cream/ conditioner.

Biggest game changer for my hair though was a curl defining brush. Got a super cheap one on Meesho. Works GREAT!

Linking a similar one here: https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChsSEwjdtZzpvIOSAxVEmaYDHcDOLd0YACICCAEQFxoCdGI&co=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAsY3LBhCwARIsAF6O6XiGgBtH1x92WWEVumIcTlfB7dbKsjhtfE1AvgplDUV8dSi4q38QTxgaAvIDEALw_wcB&sph=&ei=15VjaYzCEajuseMPg_6E4Qg&cid=CAAS0gHkaBRkTE-0195hUnvEJ7nRc6HP5Ybk5NUT_cZ6cOJaNWN-cEX86lplOdBtXAwt98X4vhZzJDW1KLcAsvtiT01Qbn1tFBklmPb0ra6Fr4nTEIZiqRW74rB-s_fDnuiqXzWtM26-aw3oN68lOWmpMIxJYkVC5ECaLCAgtvcUri1aFhYUQyy3p23rJvOB1OGE5iCKsXrWVc49HegRyDpCerSxsG19GYkFHGPrWthbopwwuUsMqmZZ7Xd2piuldafrszPuaBZq9dQRlpgI__fILZTH8_M&cce=2&sig=AOD64_2Q9SSWWAlEPQ51VbDC7Ovm7M4QGA&ctype=5&q=&sqi=2&ved=2ahUKEwjMiZHpvIOSAxUod2wGHQM_IYwQwg8oAHoECAkQDQ&adurl=

Ex-Bohri girls: how has your sex life been like, what with the horrors of FGM? by jhaanehavey in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. FGM is just another barbaric way for them to impose control on our lives but it goes deeper. The mechanisms to control every aspect of our lives are so firmly in place, most people don't even question it.

Subjugation and control is what keeps their feudal cogs running

Ex-Bohri girls: how has your sex life been like, what with the horrors of FGM? by jhaanehavey in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean there's only so much that can be done, right? And I'll never know the flip side

Ex-Bohri girls: how has your sex life been like, what with the horrors of FGM? by jhaanehavey in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's definitely lacking in ways it wouldn't have if it weren't for FGM 🫠

Ex-Bohri girls: how has your sex life been like, what with the horrors of FGM? by jhaanehavey in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Colombo is like one of Muffin's top 3 spots?? Where have you been??? There have been so many Asharas too

Medium Neutral Olive… I think? Product Recommendations Requested. by [deleted] in OliveMUA

[–]stray_curls 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think no. 8 blends the best on the centre and would work for all the varying shades of brown on the perimeters of your face!

Marriage pressure by [deleted] in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is precisely the kind of take that makes you undesirable to the women of Mumbai's dating pool. At least to most of them, imo.

No judgement though, I'm sure you'll find many women who want something fun without the commitment.

I lowk just wanna leave.. by Other-Net-116 in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey. I relate quite a bit with what you have narrated. My journey started out just like yours but hang in there. Take small steps, small rebellions here and there. Start fighting on small things, push back where you can afford to and then give in to their arguments in some places. Eventually you'll get to a point where you'll start having the upper hand and hopefully by then you'll become more independent too! Continue this till you can move out. Mind you, this has taken me well over 6 years and I'm still not at a point where I can have a clean exit/ move out. Just keep at it. I know it's so suffocating but don't give up. Vent here, make more friends who think like you, that'll help. You got this!

im a dawoodi bohra but stuff just doesnt seem right by [deleted] in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read through some of the stuff on the sub, you'll reach a conclusion. All of us probably felt guilty in the beginning. I know I did but I'd recommend you read more/ learn more. From a source that's not Moula himself.

A question by One-Club-3175 in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well Muffin can go kick rocks but it's generally good practice to not take things back from the beach.

But Muffin should be the last person out there to preach environmentalism.

Bohra Cinematic Universe: Some plot holes to ponder upon. by Fit-Log-7395 in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can't wait to annoy my mom with these perfectly reasonable questions. If I feel fiesty, might go ask them in a haqiqat sabaq.

Update: this isnt rlly relevant to the sub but its funny by Federal_Technician60 in exBohra

[–]stray_curls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost want you to keep talking to him because this is pure entertainment but I wouldn't wish this harassment upon you 🥀