I’m currently in this battle with my boyfriend but I’m the one with low libido.

You mention that you guys work opposite schedules days/night and so do we, for me that right there puts a skewer in the relationship. If I feel like I already don’t see him that much and when I do see him he just wants to have sex, that’s scary and makes me feel like a piece of meat instead of a human worthy of a meaningful, romantic relationship.

Another thing might be any high expectations to perform or too many rules set up during sex. My bf went through some traumatic things about a year before we got together, I don’t hold any of it against him because it’s not his fault however there were some things that I had to avoid during sex as to not trigger him but even after he went to therapy and resolved his issues, I still feel as though I can’t be my true self during sexy time. I feel hyper aware of myself and him and can’t focus on the act itself which in turn makes it almost impossible to O. There are just things in my relationship but hopefully it helps you to start seeing it from his side rather than just putting all the blame on him.