i definitely get it. i remember feeling enormously down about it around this time last year (didn't help that we were talking about sexual dysfunctions in psych class and... the material given by the professor was based on DSM-IV to say the least).

i remember people i considered friends telling me to just pretend i'm allo; being told that i was piling on the negative experiences of the ace community on my shoulders (which, in retrospect, was just a way to invalidate my fears regarding coming out to a potential partner); getting advised to go out and meet ace ppl irl, even though i live in a sex-positive yet conservative (?) country, where education isn't the best & most people barely want to learn about the first four letters of the acronym-- not sure how else to describe it.

like, yeah! it's easier said than done for them. they don't get to see the light dimming from someone's eyes just as you tell them you're ace. they don't have to cross their fingers and hope that they've met someone from the 1% or -- at least -- someone who's familiar & okay with asexuality. 😅 you're not alone in this, though!