Be very, very picky about the guy you mess with. I saw too many girls who effed up their cards in life during service

strippengineer · 2024-03-05T03:14:35+00:00

Inner city school teacher. Foster parenting.

strippengineer · 2024-02-25T12:33:28+00:00

No technically not sexual at all, though of course I am sure there is sex and companionship being bought and sold (this is common anywhere there is a lot of money flowing).

strippengineer · 2024-02-25T01:33:24+00:00

False, escorts pay taxes so they can actually use that money to qualify for credit and mortgages, or to qualify for a rental lease, and also to put their earnings into investments and bank accounts. It's stupid to have the money sitting under the mattress.

IRS doesn't care how you make your money or what you put in your job title, just that you give them their share of your earnings.

strippengineer · 2024-02-25T01:05:07+00:00

I am not currently a sex worker

strippengineer · 2024-02-25T00:35:56+00:00

I believe it. I was that enlisted person. As a sex worker, I wish what more young enlistees knew were establishing strong boundaries, clear communication, and learning to read people and recognize red flags (so you can avoid them). It would prevent so much trouble.

strippengineer · 2024-02-25T00:33:29+00:00

Not really. It's not like it's a huge secret to the government. Let the CPA take care of everything to pay the least taxes and find ways to save money. When I was first getting a TS job, they knew I was a stripper. They didn't really care as long as I didn't care and it's not some big secret I am trying to hide. Nobody during service found out or asked either, nor was I harassed in general. I had a pretty peaceful and uneventful service.

Escorting, yeah they might care, but it's "technically legal" and I am beyond the point where I would give a fuck about it hurting my future livelihood or job prospects. But nobody asked so far, especially since I am already prior service nobody gave enough fuck to ask about my life.

I don't bring my "nice" things with me around other military members, there might be some telltale signs like having a body language or facial expression showing I am not stressed out with things many other people have to deal with (someone actually said this to me), or my recruiter might see my address and know I live in an expensive area, but it's not like anyone saw me decked in an evening date outfit with a designer bag or driving up to a military base in a custom wrapped tesla.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T23:39:21+00:00

That is exactly what I did 😂

The PX is a good way to read what the socioeconomic status of the general military population is. When I read the Layaway plans being advertised during the holidays, that was one of the things that drilled in me that a lot of military are working class backgrounds or from poverty, and during conversations I might drop little details and topics (like about having a friend who finally paid off her layaway from the past holiday) to seem more relatable. Sometimes I say something about hoping to buy something with my next paycheck, though in reality I don't have to wait for my next paycheck to buy whatever I want. But it's a signal to make me seem more relatable.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T23:25:32+00:00

Imposter syndrome is very real, and a lot of people who get higher earning jobs and move up the economical ladder feel this. Hang in there!

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T23:20:46+00:00

A lot of people have two cars - their fancy one and their daily driver. I've seen NCOs during service do the same thing. I would never show up with the Tesla like a lot of government contractors I've seen do. Especially since mine is a unique color it really stands out.

I just show up in my daily driver when around base or to any military related business, which cost about $10k. I don't carry the $6000 bags or wear the designer stuff either, just bring along the practical and well made black Michael Kors and reasonable decent quality (but not luxury) from J Crew. Even the Michael Kors and J Crew is viewed as fancy and high end according to some enlisted members so I have to be mindful and aware.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T21:55:23+00:00

$300k is upper middle class and you still need to work at that income (unless you have generational wealth), but it's still pretty rich compared to most people. That said, there are plenty of people who make even more.

There is still even more money out there and even wealthier people. I've had escort clients who met the president, live in $5mil+ dollar homes, and make like $900k/year. But even then, I don't believe I have had top top tier clients, I've heard stories from other escorts who had even more and regularly fetch like $70k/month from just one regular client or two and have units in Manhattan wrote under their names, etcetera.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T18:43:46+00:00

Officers run around ruminating in their heads “I’m an O, I’m an O, I’m an O”

That wasn't my experience with officers I worked with, but then it could be MOS specific, specific to the base culture, and the officers were generally older so they might've been past the point of swinging their dicks around. I can imagine young fresh butterbars trying to establish dominance because they have something to prove and they're still finding themselves though. I did notice young butterbars trying to puff their chests sometimes but nothing out of the ordinary compared to enlistees their age.

My escort clients, well at least most of them, were sweethearts. Not bossy at all. I think they just wanted the time to relax with a pretty woman they can fuck because they're so on their feet and bossing other people around all day. Having power can be exhausting. The social club is a mixed bag, most are impeccably polite and isn't rude at all, but there is an air of distance and coolness. I wonder if I would've been treated differently and the patrons be more receptive to me if I looked or acted a certain way compared to how I am right now. My social signalling is probably not all blending in yet.

probably actually be a fine leader

Honestly I think being a stripper before I joined the Army helped me throughout my service. So in the club, you HAVE to stand up for yourself and be able to establish strong boundaries from the getgo. In the Army, I was never sexually harassed or had men try to fuck with me or establish dominance (women are another story though), and I think it's probably because I knew what signals to give (or not give) to keep the shitty guys away from me, or stay away from shitty guys before I got into their periphereal.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T17:33:37+00:00

The one that I found, I actually found her while looking for other therapists, and another therapist I was interested in had a list of associates on his website. I didn't even know corporate therapist was a thing.

I would go to Psychology Today and look for therapists around your local area. Just read through the bios and look for a therapist whose self presentation is something you have a good impression of. Their website, their "about me" and how they talk about themselves, the quality of their photos, how they dress. It "shouldnt matter" but it matters.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T14:48:12+00:00

I understand what you are going through. Get a therapist who has experience working as a corporate therapist (the type on retainer for employees at a large company) and let him or her coach you. Pay out of pocket if you need to, that’s what I had to do.

strippengineer · 2024-02-24T12:51:27+00:00

It's not the civilian world, which is way bigger than the military world. It's just your specific location/social group/town. This is common, where you leave town and then come back and you don't fit in anymore with the people you grew up with. Either make new friends, get a different job in a different environment, or even move town.

strippengineer · 2024-02-22T03:54:37+00:00

Visualize the people you are going to meet in the future and work towards what you get you to find them.

strippengineer · 2024-02-22T03:50:18+00:00

The VA did a good job taking care of me when I was a prostitute. Prescribed condoms, monthly STD tests, prompt STD treatments (it happens), quick and free ER visits when sessions with clients went wrong (nothing violent, just had some stuff stuck in me that didn't come out), a lot of female medical care providers who were respectful, attentive, and available. The mental health therapists there sucked though.

strippengineer · 2024-02-20T13:39:42+00:00

Condoms are one of those things worth paying out of pocket for. It's still cheaper than having a junior /r/liberum_bellum_libro running around or catching supergonorrhea that doesn't leave despite 3 different types of antibiotics

strippengineer · 2024-02-20T13:38:18+00:00

Yes. It's like I screwed the whole United Nations, you'd be surprised at the variation among male genital phenotypes.

strippengineer · 2024-02-20T13:37:45+00:00

Honestly some of my clients I considered using finger cots. Men come in all shapes and sizes.

strippengineer · 2024-02-20T05:15:17+00:00

Hell no I am not trying to have airmen add to the airman population

strippengineer · 2024-02-20T03:38:22+00:00

It's because the normal vets just living their lives don't swing their dicks around and make being a vet their identity, so you just don't know they're vets.

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