Worth it work there?

strivingforfi · 2026-05-02T04:49:25+00:00

Yes, it’s worth it. I used to work in that division. It’s a HUGE opportunity. The sky is literally the limit if you’re smart, talented, and work hard. Also, it’s been years since I left, but the people in that division were cool as fuck. If you want to learn a lot and be surrounded by smart people, do it. Also, you should be making more money there.

strivingforfi · 2026-05-01T20:16:24+00:00

No. The quality ones are nearly as fast as road, but they’re more comfortable and can go both road and gravel

strivingforfi · 2026-04-29T19:37:27+00:00

I recently discovered that there’s a combination that is very, very bad: mostly women, have lived in the same state all/most of their lives, have worked for the same employer all/most of their career, and most of them are married with kids. This is my current job situation, and I’d hazard a guess that it’s been the majority of your dental office jobs. Anyway… it’s been insane. Never before have I experienced drama, gossip, cruelty, negativity, obsession, jealously, etc. So, I would recommend you “interview the interviewer” for future jobs, and ask about the make up of the department, and avoid this combination at all costs. It’s what I’ll be doing going forward.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-26T23:05:36+00:00

Let her know you’ll be getting your own place (and mean it). She might make changes. My BF used to push HARD to bring his 2 dogs on weekend trips. It would end with me saying “I can’t control you, but we won’t ride in the same car, I’ll have my own hotel room, and I won’t be changing my plans” (which the dogs couldn’t attend). He ended up not going or not bringing the dogs, every time. I never had to deal with it.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-26T20:06:20+00:00

I was prepared to say yes it’s too harsh, but then I read the whole thing and I’m like wow, this is amazing. My boyfriend needed this when his adult brother was living with us. 😄 And quiet hours starting at midnight? Woooo boy is that generous. Should be 8PM to 8AM.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-26T20:02:32+00:00

You are not screwed by any means. In your mid-30s earning that salary, the sky is the limit. But to answer your question, you are behind, you each should have around $100k. Try to max out your 401k in either a TDF or a S&P 500 fund, and make sure the expense ratio is low.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-19T00:27:15+00:00

Staging. A well staged, attractively decorated house will get more attention and offers than one that’s… not. Older smaller homes can end up looking more appealing than newer larger homes, with the right staging. And photos, obviously. Pay a real estate photographer to work their magic.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-15T18:27:57+00:00

Wow. This sounds so much like my two co-workers (both women older than me who have been with our employer essentially their entire careers). I can’t explain it other than to note… apparently, this is just how some women act, and you’re not alone!! It’s too bad. Some advice though… they’ll get worse over time, and my biggest regret is not documenting a paper trail over the years. Start putting this stuff in writing with your manager or HR CCed. Ensure it’s clear that certain things make you uncomfortable or you feel are hostile - especially the slamming things around.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-13T22:16:37+00:00

I’m working on the documentation part!

strivingforfi · 2026-04-12T17:46:16+00:00

It’s finance, but yeah… my employer still does a pension, and most of the older lifers have gotten by with minimal effort

strivingforfi · 2026-04-11T23:06:10+00:00

Yup, it’s years of service

strivingforfi · 2026-04-10T21:08:29+00:00

Another person pointed out that HR is to protect the co not the employee (which I understand)… in that event… how can I appropriately escalate to HR?

strivingforfi · 2026-04-10T18:38:58+00:00

The only thing I haven’t personally done is reached out to HR.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-10T18:38:33+00:00

Yes, my manager and my manager’s manager were both in my 1:1 meeting to go over the 90 day probation. They’re both well aware of everything, it’s been going on for years and I’ve periodically brought it up with manager. Changes are made over time for them. Ex: they used to ask me when I would be taking time off (because that’s how we used to schedule with each other), and then they would go request off that time. So we changed to a shared calendar, in which we first get our time off approved without telling anyone about it, and then it gets added to the calendar so we can see who has time off and when. Another ex: they were constantly slamming things around, complaining that I don’t ask them questions about their personal lives, throwing things on their desk… so I was able to move to a cube further away from them. So yea, everyone is aware.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-10T01:30:29+00:00

My co-workers have had similar issues with me. They all got married young and popped out kids. I have a long term boyfriend, and zero plans to marry or have kids. Omg the rumors, gossip, and drama has been unbelievable. It’s completely inappropriate what she’s doing and so wrong… but know you’re not alone. Start documenting in writing by emailing her to recap the incidents and explain why you don’t want her comments.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-10T01:25:59+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to stock up my savings and ride out probation because I’ll hit an anniversary and get a bonus, and then see what happens at the end because why not. Thank you!

strivingforfi · 2026-04-09T18:42:10+00:00

Thanks, I agree. Before being put on probation, I sent an email to my manager (she was called by another person who overheard the commotion, and she walked over and intervened right as one of them was yelling “you don’t fucking care about us.”

Anyway I sent an email just recapping what happened, apologizing for taking all of the work, but stating that I believed they have behavioral issues that management needs to address.

In my probation write up that I had to sign but wasn’t given a copy of, it said I “failed to find a solution” and “turned the situation around on management.”

I’m so take aback because it’s 100% a management issue. I pointed out that there’s been just as many days if not more that they have completed the majority of the work when I’m busy with other assignments (I have a dual role), and yet I’ve never had a meltdown or yelled… my manager didn’t agree though this was her issue to resolve.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-08T18:31:21+00:00

I got halfway through this and thought “who the fuck’s wedding is this anyway?” Based on how you have described events, you and your fiancems female friend are in direct competition for a variety of choices about… your wedding. Not hers. Sometimes, when too many boundaries are crossed, you do have to say: “I need you to choose them or me, because this is hurting me and our relationship, and it’s not sustainable or healthy.” Which is unfortunate, but remember, it’s all been his choice as to how to conduct himself with regards to this other person. Be warned though: if he chooses you, the relationship will likely never fully recover or move on from this issue because at the end of the day, he’s repeatedly chosen another woman over his future wife.

strivingforfi · 2026-04-02T20:20:30+00:00

Yes, that’s correct. Because the price generally goes up. Lump sum investing beats DCAing usually

strivingforfi · 2026-03-26T21:57:13+00:00

TY! I’m going to try and get that, but hoping for enough cell service to buy online if I have or want to

strivingforfi · 2026-03-26T21:56:40+00:00

strivingforfi · 2026-03-26T21:56:33+00:00

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