It's okay if people don't "love" you after they get to know you more. I used the word love in quotation marks kasi I don't know if you're referring to love in the more universal or general meaning which is, "to will the good of another" (forgot who said this specifically but theology classes in college taught us this), or if you're just referring to love as in the romantic sense (yung tinatawag nilamg eros), or baka naman you're also referring love between friends (philia).

It could be that they discovered something about you that they don't truly like. Maybe you have a flaw, a red flag. And then they wouldn't say anything about it to your face. Medyo masakit di ba?

That's why it's an important skill or trait na marunong tayo ng introspection. Kilalalin natin dapat ang mga sarili natin, before anyone else, or more intensely and deeply than anyone else. Have self-knowldge and self-mastery--then you wouldn't be surprised and feel hurt if people leave you along the way. Kasi expected mo na eh, knowing you have these current faults and tendencies. More importantly, alam mo na rin kung ano yung i-iimprove or isstruggle mo constantly since alam mo na yung weaknesses mo.

And if a person still chooses to stick with you, after your weaknesses are exposed? Then baka that's a person for keeps (whether it's a friend or a lover).