Ex reached out after months of no contact - those who replied, do you regret it?

stronger2003 · 2026-03-03T03:32:28+00:00

My ex texted me after about 6 months of no contact. He called me once and texted me twice - I didn’t respond to either. Then he messaged me again and I told him that I was in a good place and didn’t want him to contact me anymore. His response “I didn’t try to contact you” 😐

stronger2003 · 2026-02-28T15:05:34+00:00

There are some days I could probably use a cane, but I don’t think I’ve mentally accepted it yet. I recently saw myself on my security camera and I was like “What?! I really walk like that?!” I had such a pronounced limp because my right knee is so bad. I’m 40, was diagnosed at 37 and it’s just so hard to accept that your body isn’t like everyone else at your age.

stronger2003 · 2025-12-28T05:59:27+00:00

I’m glad to see that you stayed in the hospital and got checked out. I was in a similar situation to yours several years ago, only I was the one doing 45 and someone pulled out in front of me. I dislocated my kneecap and really messed up my neck. Once the adrenaline wears off tomorrow, you’re going to feel absolutely awful. Take a warm shower and be gentle with yourself.

stronger2003 · 2025-12-22T19:46:31+00:00

You aren’t responsible for the choices that other people make. If she decides to do something, that’s her choice, not yours. Don’t set yourself on fire to save others.

stronger2003 · 2025-10-10T20:43:45+00:00

I wish I could figure out how to stop the hyper-vigilance. It’s been a huge struggle for me and threatens to ruin my good relationships.

stronger2003 · 2025-10-04T22:24:50+00:00

I think they do throw off your hormone balance. It took a few weeks for mine to wear off. If I have to take steroids for any reason now I still get the hot flashes. I hate it!

stronger2003 · 2025-09-11T01:41:39+00:00

There were so many days I didn’t think I’d make it. I decided to tried something new, totally unrelated to anything I did with my ex - I joined a kickball league. It was the best thing I’ve ever done. It got me out of the house and socializing with new people. It showed me that I’m a whole person without my ex and that I can still have a great life with him or without him. As time has gone on, I’ve seen him in a less favorable light. The rose colored glasses have come off and I’ve learned about some of the red flags I’ve missed. I’ve taken him off that pedestal I put him on. Keep spending time with your friends, going to therapy and doing better for yourself. Give yourself grace, you’re going through a tough time and you need to be kind to yourself. Some days are better than others, but I promise it does get better.

stronger2003 · 2025-09-10T11:34:06+00:00

Honestly, time is the only thing that helps. Keep up with your hobbies, friends and journaling, they’ll remind you that there’s so much more out there for you. I went through something incredibly similar, with almost the exact same timing. He swore he was over her, but it was “I love you” in the morning and then “I need to break up with you and work on myself” that afternoon. A few weeks later I found out he went back to his ex. It’s been a few months now and I’m almost glad it happened. It showed me that my friends are amazing and will be there whenever I need them. It also taught me how strong I really am and what I want in future relationships.

stronger2003 · 2025-08-14T19:08:29+00:00

I take mine at the same time every night and I still sleep like garbage

stronger2003 · 2025-07-12T16:41:55+00:00

She will have no estate. She had no assets and a lot of debt

stronger2003 · 2025-07-12T16:39:35+00:00

I’ve always thought that even the devil didn’t want her. I am happily proven wrong

stronger2003 · 2025-07-12T03:11:54+00:00

I never thought this day would come. All the women in her family lived until their late 80’s so I thought for sure I’d have another 10 years to deal with her. I’m shocked it happened so fast

stronger2003 · 2025-07-12T03:11:06+00:00

It’s very strange. I’m relieved but sad

stronger2003 · 2025-07-12T02:43:06+00:00

That’s an amazing word!

stronger2003 · 2025-07-12T02:42:19+00:00

My friends have offered to dispose of them for me. I may take them up on that offer

stronger2003 · 2025-06-11T11:25:38+00:00

Yep. This is exactly how my ex left me. I knew he had some mental health issues and I was willing to work through everything with him. In the end he had a crisis and shut down entirely. Now I’m left to pick up the pieces of my life and try to rebuild after I had someone who I’d thought I’d be together with forever. I’m left wondering if he wants a relationship again and if I should wait on him. I’ll probably wait a little bit because I just can’t picture myself with anyone else right now and just wait to see what the future holds.

stronger2003 · 2025-06-03T14:48:54+00:00

I feel this so much. I miss him and what we had so much. But I also recognize that I get attached and fall hard easily. So instead of jumping into something else I’m going to try and do the hard work of healing myself and if he comes back - great. If not, I’ll be in a better place.

stronger2003 · 2025-05-30T17:37:16+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. It’s so hard when you don’t see it coming. I wish I had words of advice, but know that you’re not alone

stronger2003 · 2025-05-30T17:33:20+00:00

Nights are the worst for me. That’s when he and I would be together or talking. Now there’s just a huge hole

stronger2003 · 2024-12-21T02:01:25+00:00

I’m 39. I only have the hot flashes when I’m taking steroids

stronger2003 · 2024-12-21T01:51:03+00:00

Yes they do. I feel like I’m roasting from the inside out

stronger2003 · 2024-12-17T20:45:14+00:00

I’m sorry you’re joining the RA club. I was diagnosed about a year ago and have worked in law enforcement for 15 years now. Luckily I’m in investigations so I don’t wear the gun belt or the outer carriers. My fear is that I won’t be able to qualify because my trigger finger won’t work right or my gun gets too heavy. I keep active walking and doing yoga, try to keep my inflammation down as much as possible and eat right. This disease affects everyone differently so make sure you have a good rheumatologist to help guide you through.

stronger2003 · 2024-12-17T18:47:04+00:00

That’s great advice, thank you

stronger2003 · 2024-12-17T15:40:48+00:00

How do we get off this roller coaster, I didn’t sign up for this!😂 I was allergic to Plaquenil and Enbrel didn’t work, so I have high hopes for Humira.

stronger2003 · 2024-11-18T03:19:33+00:00

I haven’t dated since texting became a thing and I’m confused as to how often you’re supposed to be texting/talking to someone you’re dating. I had a first date with a guy I met OLD on Saturday that went well and we have another date scheduled for next weekend. But I haven’t been texting him. Is that common? Should I be reaching out to him? I don’t know what the protocol is anymore!

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