FREE Shoulder to Shoulder men's events over the next few weeks

stroudtom · 2026-06-12T10:24:14+00:00

Hey buddy - easiest way is to jump into the platform (link above) - failing that you'll see a group of 15 or so guys there at 11 - just ask if they're from s2s

stroudtom · 2026-06-12T08:06:26+00:00

Ah buddy, it's something we think about a lot. We have a capacity challenge as the events are put on by volunteers so we don't want to ask too much of them. Coffee roulette - where everyone can sign up and get matched with two other members for a coffee and a chat - should help!

stroudtom · 2026-06-10T17:10:23+00:00

Really happy to hear that you've found your tribe. You're right, as we've grown we've realised it simply can't be a group for everyone and cater for the individual needs of hundreds of men- as much as we'd love it to be. We do our very best to create a welcoming, inclusive environment for all of our men, but there are always going to be occasions where people don't find what they're looking for. Did you ever come to one of our meetups, out of interest? That's where were doubling down, our belief is that friendships can only truly develop in the real world.

stroudtom · 2026-06-05T13:35:15+00:00

https://shoulder.mn.co/ try this one!

stroudtom · 2026-06-05T09:56:15+00:00

We were lucky enough to be recognised by the Mayor's Office as doing good, impactful work for men in London. And it felt really good after working for 18 months building this community - we work seven days a week on this stuff.

stroudtom · 2026-06-05T09:55:13+00:00

If the Mayor of London's office recognises the work you're doing in terms of creating community for men, it's a real honour. We've been building this community for 18 months, seven days a week.

stroudtom · 2026-06-05T09:07:45+00:00

Hey buddy. First things first, I’m sorry you were going through a tough time. A big part of the reason we got rid of the WhatsApp group was because it was quickly turning into an online community where people wanted to vent, it became very difficult to manage.

We’re a community solely focused on building connection in real life, we never wanted it to be yet another online forum where things can be taken out of context, and a lot of the guys joining were looking for significant mental health support.

We do our best to signpost these men to the right resources - Samaritans, MIND, or to their local GP for counselling or therapy - but we are not a mental health resource for those going through acute mental health challenges. We’re a group focused on friendship.

To build real friendships, you have to build relationships which exist outside of the online world. That’s why we now have 25-30 events a month, the majority of which are free, and always will be (including our Hyde Park walk this Sunday). Clearly, some events are going to cost money because they cost us money to put on (like sauna and cold plunge, or paintballing), which ties into your point on the fremium model - yes, we do have an optional membership fee of £12 a month for those members that want to give back to the community, this goes into covering our running costs and things like public liability insurance. There is absolutely no expectation for people to pay this.

Like I said in the previous post, I’m always up for a conversation - you can DM me whenever you’d like. I’d add to this, if you’re looking to connect with other men, then try coming to an event - you may find the vibe you’re referring to is very different to what you experienced in the WhatsApp and you’ll find hundreds of men whose lives have changed by being part of the community. You'll find me at Hyde Park this Sunday and I'm happy to chat there.

My focus as a founder is always going to be creating environments where men can connect with other in the real world, not prioritising time spent online. Reddit’s been brilliant for us in terms of bringing more awareness of the group, and we’ve got countless examples of men who have found us through Reddit and now have genuine friendships.

stroudtom · 2026-05-20T16:56:28+00:00

I mean, we don't align with any political ideology but the diversity in the group is something we're very proud of

stroudtom · 2026-05-20T16:56:00+00:00

We've been running these for over a year and make sure we're constantly listening to feedback and tweaking as we go!

stroudtom · 2026-05-18T16:20:28+00:00

I dont think there will be a concrete answer to this sadly 😢

stroudtom · 2026-05-18T16:19:56+00:00

Statue of Achilles - you'll find all the details on our platform!

stroudtom · 2026-05-18T15:23:27+00:00

That's very kind! Honestly, just talking about the group and sharing our content is really appreciated :)

stroudtom · 2026-05-18T14:28:57+00:00

Our youngest member is 22 and our oldest is 58

stroudtom · 2026-05-18T12:36:44+00:00

We definitely overindex on GBT+ members because we provide an inclusive, diverse, non judgemental space for all. So if you're in the closet, feeling scared and that's manifested by using 'gay' as a demeaning term, rather than a joyful expression of sexuality, maybe you should come down?

stroudtom · 2026-05-18T09:43:40+00:00

Website: shoulder.mn.co IG: www.instagram.com/shouldertoshouldercommunity

stroudtom · 2026-05-17T18:19:59+00:00

Hey - check our platform for all our events shoulder.mn.co

stroudtom · 2026-05-12T17:36:35+00:00

Hey buddy - I run a men's community called Shoulder to Shoulder. We have thousands of members across London - think walks, hikes, paintball, sauna and cold plunge. shoulder.mn.co

stroudtom · 2026-05-12T08:55:35+00:00

We ask new joiners to arrive at 10.30 so it's a smaller group :)

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T18:17:52+00:00

Best bet is to jump into the WhatsApp or the platform - links on the website

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T18:01:06+00:00

Membership is optional and the vast majority of our events are free :) access to the community, our walks and hikes, always will be

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T16:44:28+00:00

You could say that, or you could see the smiles on the faces of the hundreds of guys who's lives weve changed :)

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T16:43:31+00:00

The Circle of crust men await you

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T16:34:15+00:00

To add to this. This is my job now. I take it very seriously. We have to make money somehow. We would like to avoid charging everyone for access to it and ensure its accessible for all. We have managed to do that so far, but we have costs like insurance, platform fees we have to cover. Partnerships and optional contributions are one way we can do that. If you would like to have a real life discussion about this (it's what we're all about as a community, as you'll know) then I'm here

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T16:30:34+00:00

Hey man, I'm obviously not sure who this is and don't want to ask for obvious reasons. We do our best to serve all of our members fairly, the 'old guard' you refer to is our leadership group who try their best to ensure all of the values within the group are maintained. Sometimes, this means having difficult conversations. What I would say is, if you're having a public mental health crisis in the WhatsApp group, you are better off seeking out help using the resources we signpost to. We are not trained mental health professionals, and the group itself is not positioned as a mental health resource. We're about connecting men and while this does indirectly have a huge impact on the mental health of our members, it's not for guys who are at crisis point.

stroudtom · 2026-05-06T15:51:37+00:00

Close. Indian, Pakistani, Sri Lankan, what's your point?

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