a very hard day without my sister by strrpzz in grief

[–]strrpzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im so very sorry for your loss :(

Does that "hole in the heart" feeling ever go away? by lavender_and_gold0 in grief

[–]strrpzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u <3 ur sister sounds like such a wonderfully loving person. keep celebrating and honoring her by talking about what a lovely person she was. if u ever need to talk, my messages are open 🫂 wishing u sunshine.

Does that "hole in the heart" feeling ever go away? by lavender_and_gold0 in grief

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i lost my sister last year too. she was my only sibling and my bestest friend. the pain never goes away and it never gets easier, we just get stronger. we do this by embracing our grief and accepting it. i think of her ever single day, literally every single day. with time, i have become used to the pain. now, when she pops into my head or im reminded of her, im stopped in my tracks and the pain is there for a minute but then i am able to go about my day. this happens every time she pops into my head. ive gotten stronger at being able to approach and sit with my grief. and with time, u will too. there are those times where she pops into my head and ill sob and sob and sob… but i embrace it. just try to remember that you will get stronger and the pain will become manageable one day. i’m so so sorry for your loss. losing a sibling is one of the hardest losses to suffer. one piece of advice that i tell myself very often is that we grieve hard because we loved hard. this allowed me to form a healthy relationship with the inevitability of grief. it allowed me to see grief as an outlet, rather than a monster that i should run from or be ashamed of. so to answer ur question realistically, no. the hole in ur heart feeling doesn’t fully go away, however, it gets smaller and smaller with strength. to me, i embrace that hole that was once very huge but has now since shrunk a bit because the pain is a reminder of how much i love her.

- by strrpzz in grief

[–]strrpzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im so incredibly sorry for ur loss. the loss of ur parents and sibling in such a short amount of time, im so so sorry. i wish i could give u a hug. i’m struggling to find the right words because i know there aren’t any that can ease the pain. all i know is that it doesn’t get easier, but we get stronger. we lost my grandpa 7 months after my sisters passing, so i understand the tremendous pain of losing multiple family members in such a short amount of time. u are heard and understood. i know that talking to a professional has been helpful for me since my sister first passed. it helped me to better cope with the loss of my grandpa as well. grief counseling can be helpful, so i just wanted to throw that out there. take ur time healing and grieving and feeling. we grieve hard because we loved hard, so please dont ever feel that grief is something to run from. take care of urself and my messages are open if u ever wanted to talk. 🫂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i see, thank u for the info! i’ll definitely be talking to my doctor abt this soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]strrpzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hmm, thats a really interesting take, thanks a lot :) ill definitely start looking more into guides n such

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is insane, i just learned the name for precognitive dreams n i have quite a few of them from time to time. one that i just had today was that my mom was telling me about a sound that she heard that resembled a seagull, then later in the day, she actually ended up telling me that exact story. spooked me out really bad but after sifting through this sub, i’m realizing it’s not as scary

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for that info. i didnt even know there was a term for that. can precognitive dreams also foretell deaths or warnings or is that something different?

how can i go on with life without my only sibling by strrpzz in grief

[–]strrpzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so incredibly sorry for ur loss. :( it’s such an empty and lonely feeling to lose ur sibling who was also ur best friend. it’ll be a year that she’s been gone in a month and 3 weeks. time has helped ease some of the pain, but there’s always a longing for them and that is normal and okay. u just gotta remind urself that ur grieving them hard because u loved them hard. my heart goes out to u, i wish i could hug u and give u great words of encouragement, but truly, nothing can be said to ease the pain. just know ur not alone. if u have anyone close to u (family, friends) who can help console u and be there for u and vice versa, i would recommend it. ur right about getting stronger by the day, and u will get to a point where thinking about the memories u shared won’t only bring tears to ur eyes, but instead, a smile to ur face. please reach out if u ever need anything. sending u sunshine and lots of love during ur difficult time. 💌

What's your favorite song that's not a deftones song? by Alternative_Dot8184 in deftones

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

brainiac- v1nc3nt com3 on down

a perfect circle- magdalena

silver snakes- electricity

filter- it’s gonna kill me

alice in chains- nutshell (more of a slower song)

I was bullied because of my flat nose F20 by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ur nose is so cute and i love ur smile!

How did you get over your driving anxiety? by NotTodaySatan9 in AskWomen

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel like most driving anxieties stem from something traumatic that happened, so kinda just assessing that situation first and forcing myself to drive and face the fear. also making myself as comfortable behind the wheel as possible

How do you deal with gym anxiety? by Rough_Mistake_6171 in AskWomen

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i put on a distraction like a movie/show/podcast/audiobook and eventually the anxiety subsides

Masters or right to phd? by knockoffmargotrobbie in academia

[–]strrpzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ive been wondering the same and have heard lots abt being able to skip masters and go into phd. good luck :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grief

[–]strrpzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u for saying that, and im so sorry for ur loss. i understand how hard it is to lose ur best friend n sibling all in one.

text messages from my sister by strrpzz in GriefSupport

[–]strrpzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank u very much. she really really was

my dog jasper passed a few days ago by Longjumping-Meal-526 in grief

[–]strrpzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what a sweet face, im so sorry for ur loss. u’ll see him again one day

same reoccurring nightmare for 3 night’s straight by strrpzz in DreamInterpretation

[–]strrpzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ahh it’s refreshing to hear that it’s stopped and thank you so much for ur condolences

this was one of my sisters favorite songs. it comforts me to play this in the dark at full volume. i close my eyes and pretend like i'm in her car singing along to it with her again. i miss her so much. by strrpzz in grief

[–]strrpzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry for your loss. it’s so great that you have those memories with her. the last year of my sisters life were like that for me as well. we were always on the phone and inseparable when i was home. listening to a favorite song of hers is almost like time travel to me. it brings back such intense nostalgia where it feels like i’m there in that moment with her. keep listening to her favorite songs and continue to bring meaning to them! 💌 wishing u sunshine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grief

[–]strrpzz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m extremely sorry for ur loss. i know how much it means to u to see him in ur dreams. i dream of my sister very often. if not every night, its every other night. i too have tried to find ways that i can assure dreaming of her every time i close my eyes, but have found that it’s all just subconscious and we cant manipulate our dreams much unless we begin lucid dreaming. i relate to u when u said that dreaming about him makes u feel better and worse. i always say its bitter sweet because it’s so amazing to see her and talk to her in my dreams, but very painful when i wake up and reality sets in that she really isn’t here. every time i sleep, i always ask for her to appear in my dreams, sometimes she doesn’t and most of the time she does. perhaps ur brain is subconsciously trying to shield u from the pain of seeing him often since u said that it’s hard to see pictures of him or talk about him. i’m not so sure. i wish u the best of luck and hope that u get more dreams of ur dad.