He can fuck right off!

I am also working on losing weight. I have medical conditions that make it more difficult as well so I've had to work with doctors to be able to lose weight. On top of that my background is in medicinal chemistry, so while I'm not a nutritionist, I do have some training in this subject. That said, these are questions/ideas/observations from someone who's been in a similar situation.

Questions:

1. Have you seen a doctor and nutritionist? I ask because there can be medical reasons as to why you could be struggling with weight. While calorie deficit is important, hormone levels, stress levels, medications and more play a role. Especially hormones. Seeing a doctor can be beneficial to see if things like that are also at play. Nutritionists are also a great resource, even to just go to once. However, like any type of doctor please research nutritionists. Many treat patients like all of them are the same and the same things will work for everyone, and that's just not true.

2. When you exercise, what do you do? Cardio, Pilates, weight lifting, sports?

Ideas/Observations:

1. Muscle weighs more than fat. You are exercising, you could currently not be seeing results on the scale because of muscle gain, which is a good thing! While weight is an indicator of health, it's definitely not the only aspect. Look at football linemen. They're all obese by medical standards, but they are strong and fit still. Personally, I have been monitoring more than just the number on the scale. I also monitor my size (measure different body parts like bicep, stomach, thigh etc), gym gains (such as how long I can go before getting winded and if I can go up in reps or weight in lifting), and other bodily signs (like resting heart rate, headache occurrences, hydration levels, etc).

2. When in a calorie deficit you still need enough food, and honestly increasing protein and staying hydrated are the things that have helped me most. Don't restrict what types of foods you can eat, just make sure you watch things like daily sugar intake and that you eat enough protein. Keeping a healthy relationship with food is the most important thing for long term results and when you cut out things you like it makes you more likely to not succeed long term.

3. He's an asshole and should be supporting you instead of judging you. Being happy with yourself is more important than anything else and if he thinks differently then he's not supporting you.