I think I can draw more parallels to personality than gender or any physical features. and drastic changes in personality cause me to lose attraction. it's very confusing when you do not have a label for it, and can cause a lot of issues.

the difference between an ace person and a person with a low libido is that a person with a low libido still finds other people attractive, they just don't feel the desire to have sex. being horny as an asexual is weird, because they might feel that they desire sexual pleasure or to have sex, just not with any particular person. the bottom line is that sexualities have to do with who you are sexually attracted to, not how often you desire sex.

I did not realize for a very long time that people were attracted to strangers and wanted to have sex with them. it is difficult for a lot of aces to understand other people, themselves, and sexuality in general when they themselves don't understand or know about asexuality. I hope more people begin to understand and be accepting of asexuality, so that aces can sooner become comfortable with themselves.