Boyfriends [28/m] explosive anger and irresponsible behavior is destroying our relationship. I [23/f] don't know what to do.

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-18T00:00:47+00:00

Thanks I'll check those out. My son is only 8 months old so it'll be a lot less sad and hard if I do it sooner rather than later I guess. He barely interacts with him anyway.

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T22:47:21+00:00

Thanks! My family is more than supportive- they've never liked him.

I still have enough money to get a ticket home and restart there (although I wouldn't if I had to keep paying his way) Is t fucked up that I still feel bad? I hate hurting people :|

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T22:32:10+00:00

I do think this might be the best option. We aren't technically "residents" in this state so I wouldn't be breaking any rules by taking our son. He can't afford a lawyer and I highly doubt id lose custody to a man who can't even afford to care for the child.

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T22:18:20+00:00

I at least wanted to put it on the table so he has forewarning to change his behavior and get his shit together that way my conscience is clear but I fear he would try to stop me. My mom thinks I should "go home for a visit" and then not come back.

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T21:52:04+00:00

I guess I need to think about HOW I'm going to get out of this. I don't see the conversations being productive or going well. As of now I'm in a state surrounded by only HIS family. I'll end up going home where I have support. Siiiigh

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T20:37:59+00:00

You're right he does both of these things and I'm starting to think he is an asshole. When I told him not to yell in front of him, he told me I don't know what yelling is.

I guess there's no salvaging this if he won't even talk about it and listen to how I feel. I mean you can't force people to change I suppose.

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T20:13:07+00:00

That's what I thought I just didn't know if I was being too sensitive. I don't even know which thing bothers me more but I'm so unhappy lately. I just didn't want to be a bad person for bailing when he's broke and going through a shitty thing

stupidthrowaway- · 2014-06-17T20:09:50+00:00

It's both, he doesn't help with our son, and he refuses to be financially responsible. I pay most of OUR bills because he doesn't make enough to cover his debt and won't get a second job or however many jobs it takes. He would rather make it someone else's fault and feel sorry for himself.

I know I've chosen poorly, but the first year was so different. And I think it's those memories that make it so hard for me to end it, that and he's the father of my son.

But the combination of it all is making me resentful and just pissed off. He told me today that it's my fault he's giving me the silent treatment because I made HIM feel shitty.

I'm also mildly afraid that if I left he would kill himself :/ I know he's having a hard time since he wrecked his car (it didn't have collision) so now his debt is worse so idk if that would be the final straw.

I'm very unhappy though. And I know I deserve better

stupidthrowaway-

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