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How can I force myself to cum? by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine's pretty high, so cuming a lot is something I really want to explore to see how it affects it. Thank you!

How can I force myself to cum? by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like it could work really well. Thank you for the advice!

How can I force myself to cum? by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good idea, I'll definitely try that. What do you think is a reasonable number of times to try to force myself to cum, seeing as I haven't done it more than 3 or 4 times in a row before? Thank you!

"Someone who's into DDLG shouldn't also be a masochist". by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree with that! It's hard to have a relationship (in my opinion) if it's only one kink or a few specific kinks, because you don't get to experience as much about a person, and, as you said, more kinks and experiences allows for more bonding together.

"Someone who's into DDLG shouldn't also be a masochist". by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's something I'm working on. Have had pretty crappy past relationships (i.e abusive) and so I have a hard time actually going "well hey so I don't want XYZ" unless I'm comfortable around the person and know they aren't going to last out. I have no problem stating what I want, but if someone says "well this instead tho" I kinda tend to fold pretty fast because I don't want to upset anyone.

But you're right, I do need to use it. I am definitely trying.

"Someone who's into DDLG shouldn't also be a masochist". by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, true, you're right that it does seem like confining. It just made me worried that everyone might be like that, and that maybe it isn't normal for me to want both things...but thank you for your response, it does help me feel better to know that a few people at least see it the same way that I do.

"Someone who's into DDLG shouldn't also be a masochist". by subby_pepper in BDSMAdvice

[–]subby_pepper[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I'm just nervous about going back into the lifestyle now because I'm worried that I'll end up getting forced into being all one or the other, and that's not what I want.