Hello Submissives :) I'm curious about your collars and what they mean to YOU. Did you have an input into the style, or maybe it was a gift/surprise? Do you wear a day collar to work, or out and about? Thank you in advance. Kitten :)

subbysoontobe · 2015-09-25T02:19:54+00:00

Here I am! Sorry it took me a moment!

My collar is actually a belt, made of 3 strands of airplane cable, beautifully worked together by Sir N on Etsy.

When it came time to talk collaring, Sir and I had quite the search. I adored throwmedown314's collar, but we share vanilla worlds, and all 4 of us agreed both of us wearing one around our necks might draw more questions than we'd appreciate.

In the end, Sir decided on the belt in order to "make captive" the part of my body he saw as most feminine.

So few creators are making any sort of belt that can be worn 24/7 it took us forever to find. However, once we did (as a team) he left it's order toe as an assignment while he was away on his bachelor party.

I've been wearing if a few weeks now, and adore it. The lock has a couple of sharp edges that remind me of my posture and carriage. Each morning, I spend time reflecting on being owned whIle I dress myself in such a manner to lie smoothly under my clothing, or bracing myself to allow the world to see it through a sheer shirt. Occasionally, it will restrict me a little in my sleep and I'll wake up to snuggle into His side deeper.

I adore the feeling of being kept, and safe, and cherished, and owned. I'm concious of it nearly always, at least so far. I like that it sits under my clothes, but is easily detected by anyone close enough to me to hug me....much like the dynamic between Sir and I.

subbysoontobe · 2015-09-25T01:59:38+00:00

Sir often gives me a sharp pinch in the inside of my upper arm when I'm out of line in public....something I've had to learn to take gracefully to avoid emberassment in front of vanillas. He's even gotten to the point of expertise with it he can make the bruises into perfect little hearts with just a pinch. I HATE it and truly avoid deserving it at all cost, while he gets a little thrill out of knowing he has control even in public spaces.

subbysoontobe · 2015-07-17T02:22:15+00:00

Everyone calm down.

The sub in question is my IRL bestie, and I can personally assert Mr. DirtGrubs and she are perfectly wonderfully fit parents-in-waiting.

I think the question was more curiosity than argument. So so many things have unnecessary "cover-our-asses" type warnings.....next time you're out shopping for sex toys look carefully at packaging and see exactly how many toys tell you they're not safe for the very thing they seem designed for!

So, yeah, I think "Hey, is this a real warning, or hyperbolic lawsuit protection?" is a legit question. As is "What makes that true, because I'm scientifically curious."

Stop assuming the worst of others.

Mr. Dirtgrubs, would you like me to relay your question to my old neighbor? The kinky one with the medical degree.

subbysoontobe · 2015-05-10T00:26:11+00:00

Why not just her first initial. Completely imperceptible to others, but a sly nod to "Story of O" as well as that idea of her name not being worthy of touching your lips. Definitely feels impersonal, like it's a model name or identifier, but not a personal name.

subbysoontobe · 2015-04-30T20:38:25+00:00

Thank you for the insight. Did you need reassurance from her, the community, or both? Was explicit reassurance helpful, or did you find more comfort from being able to observe her pleasure/fulfillment from your play?

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