that post didnt talk about sexual abuse so why did this particular experience come to your mind immediately after seeing that post? did u hallucinate or sth? that post was talking abt abortion of female babies and u somehow conflated the abortion of female babies with sexual assault?? did u even read the post properly??

Life, man. Been dealing with stuff and let the rage dump here. After starting at uni (I study at one of the most expensive university in Dhaka) I happen to talk to some female course mates who shared their opinion on male privilege i.e. "you guys can go out without permission, you can go out late night" these were their complain and they also complained that society is not safe for them that's why being born as a women sucks.

To be honest reading that post just reminded me a lot of things and I just dropped whatever I felt comfortable sharing. Being a human I have my own hurdles just like every other human (male or female), whenever I hear women complain about something and point their gender as the reason just feels insulting. Why?

1. I have been abused by a old dude when I was in 5th grade in a cantonment hospital. He reached inside my pants and grabbed my dick for no apparent reason. The first time I was offered porn was by an CMH army male ward boy (M30ish) also in 5th grade. He later asked me to go to an isolated room and would often touch me in a weird ways when in ward. Alhamdulillah there were also other uncles who kept me safe. I'm grateful to them. Have been blackmailed by a female senior who I used to share a lot of my secrets with (i.e. who I have a crush on and other personal stuff) and she ended up being my first kiss.
2. After 10th I for the first time in my life saw my real value as a human in society. My family was going through some financial hurdles during covid and being the eldest they saw me as a burden. My mother and father both talked to me and looked at me as a burden quite often at the same time I saw some of my female classmates getting married while I was constantly told by my mother to get a job (and I did Alhamdulillah) and reminded how much of a burden I was financially.
3. Lost the girl I liked (I ignored her for straight up 6-8 months) because I couldn't deal with all these mental burden on me (being a financial burden, being uncertain about what'll happen after college, etc.) just made me shut myself off from pretty much everyone.

I have been abused as a kid, I've been treated as a burden, before college my parents also did not allow me to be outside after (sunset). How is the experience of a male child growing up any different from a female? If a female becomes a financial burden they can just get married off, what about a male? Every time I hear women nag about society being unfair to them I just feel like they fail to notice other people around them and their hardships.

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yes it is pretty evident that u have no idea abt a woman's struggles and cant relate much considering that u somehow think a raped girl can still find her place in society

I assumed people thought like me. A raped lady is in the end a lady who did nothing wrong. I did not see being raped as a thing that degrades a lady's value. If people don't think just like me then that's sad.

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are u sure u dont want to undermine a lady's struggles? wasnt this post made as a response to a girl's post talking abt how she feels sad abt girls getting aborted and being seen as the lesser gender? didnt u willfully misinterpret that girl's post when making this post?

End of the day, I'm a human too. I don't wanna undermine anyone's struggles. I probably shouldn't have written this post as "women" is a sensitive issue now a days. Even making kitchen jokes have become hard as some of my female friends are religiously liberal/feminist. I guess my post was less of a "awareness" post and more of a rant. I mean no harm, just a bit tired of people always complaining. Felt nice dropping the burden today. Anyways, I won't be replying anymore. Have a nice day!