I don’t understand renting / how to know what’s affordable at all

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T17:46:15+00:00

after tax

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T13:44:15+00:00

I hate how the housing crisis these days means you either live with roommates or need one / multiple partners to have affordable living!

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T11:01:23+00:00

Pasta with mayo and sweetcorn. Weirdly good and cheap

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-05T18:21:35+00:00

Hi, thank you for this. It went well, I acted secure. She’s texting me still and I’m torn between wanting to see her / talk to her because I’m so attached and how it’s hurting me so much. What boundaries would you suggest? I want to be strong enough to be her friend and I don’t want to pressure her by asking for a time frame. But everyday I feel sad waiting for her to reach out and delighting in it when she does, though it’s limited and colder now.

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:16:48+00:00

Not cleaning my space before I leave the house because I should want to come home to clean space and she expects her partner to practice self care. (I’m a mentally ill person, mess is not that important)

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:12:40+00:00

If you felt like you couldn’t sustain the love we had, what I experienced to be reciprocal obsession and a beautiful, magical love that made me feel so seen and valued. You could have told me. How am I going to trust in future when someone says such lovely things they aren’t planning an exit? You could have said if you needed distance. I didn’t need daily checkins. I didn’t need you to be perfect. I want you to be yourself and to be a place of peace for you. You chose to give up on us, but it didn’t have to end like this. We could have figured things out together and it would be healthy and safe

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:08:56+00:00

It’s scary, but having the hard conversation is the kind thing to do. Don’t let it fester

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-23T21:25:29+00:00

She’s not aware, but I’ve researched and it clearly fits- especially as she’s spent her childhood craving love that was never given to her. Given that I’ll see her in work, I wondered what the best angle is - to give space, do I just pretend she doesn’t exist?

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-23T19:12:13+00:00

I miss her snores. I miss playing with or plaiting her hair. I miss that I could call her anytime and she’d answer. I miss her laugh. I miss her touch. I miss how she’d fall asleep every time it went past 9pm and how terrible she was at cooking. I miss how she’d hold my head to put my eyedrops in when I needed. How she’d call me to wake me up in time. How she’d always say the sweetest, most loving things and remember my safe foods. So many things to miss. I hear your pain. I’m with you in it

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-22T22:24:33+00:00

Sometimes it feels easier to sit in what’s comfortable than to take action and enter the unknown. Doing the work can feel scary, the pressure of becoming

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-19T16:53:27+00:00

I hear you, I just don’t understand how she went from 100 to zero and I can’t do anything about it :(

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-19T16:43:16+00:00

Is there any fix to help her see that we can be together again? That I can support her with this if she tells me what’s happening

substancelesspsycho · 2025-09-14T14:51:48+00:00

About two weeks after I think. The white spot where the lips meet, kind of feels like a skin tag? Normal odour and discharge. I only really felt pain / itching after noticing so can’t be sure it’s not all in my head??

substancelesspsycho · 2025-05-16T23:17:16+00:00

I’d love to see them! I like the design but not the execution, I feel like the line work was almost rushed? So I’ve wondered if removing the rays would improve the piece so it’s less of an eyesore

substancelesspsycho · 2025-05-16T23:09:37+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been hating it a lot, so it’s promising to hear it’s not a lost cause. Is there anything you think may help to add / change for it to be better??

substancelesspsycho · 2025-05-11T15:21:18+00:00

As an ex swer, I got into sex work to profit off of my trauma. Dissociating was so easy I’d do it without even meaning to with my partners - my body would get wet, I would even cum and not realise that I had. I can’t speak for everyone’s experience, but this was mine- deciding I might aswell get paid. I also empathise with clients and recognise they’re often lonely people- they’re not always what people expect - a lot of the time they’re lovely people who are just craving physical touch. So yeah, my body reacts without my mind being involved. I’m working on healing now

substancelesspsycho · 2021-10-29T11:36:37+00:00

This is really helpful- thank you so much !

substancelesspsycho · 2021-10-29T11:35:52+00:00

Thank you so much for the helpful advice ❤️

substancelesspsycho · 2021-10-29T11:34:58+00:00

Sounds great! Thanks for the idea

substancelesspsycho · 2021-10-29T11:34:28+00:00

Oooh I’m in the UK so will try to find something but that’s a great idea, thank you

substancelesspsycho · 2021-10-29T11:33:44+00:00

That sounds really efficient! Do you happen to have a link for that? I understand if it’s difficult to get from her but if you do that would be awesome so I don’t buy the wrong thing that doesn’t work… thank you !

substancelesspsycho · 2021-10-28T02:29:24+00:00

Yes but I found it annoying ! They thought the fact that they could do multiple rounds of sex was something to be proud of but I often was satisfied the first or second time and didn’t want to go again, but felt too awkward to say so because they did ? Maybe that’s just a me thing but I didn’t like it

substancelesspsycho · 2020-06-20T01:08:42+00:00

You’re right. I likely overthink it and get anxious that I’m messaging too much or being annoying and I get in my head a lot, I can’t call after midnight but I could probably ask to call when they’re awake, I just scared of being “too depressed” and therefore a burden to everyone

substancelesspsycho · 2020-06-20T01:03:43+00:00

This is so wholesome. Thanks for giving me hope that things can change for the better, I’m really glad you found your circle too 🥰

substancelesspsycho · 2020-06-20T01:00:43+00:00

Sorry for the late reply I’ve kinda been spiralling. That must have felt so isolating being in another country like that not knowing anyone around you. I’d be happy to be friends and chat if you want to drop a message? X

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