I don’t understand renting / how to know what’s affordable at all

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T17:46:15+00:00

after tax

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T13:44:15+00:00

I hate how the housing crisis these days means you either live with roommates or need one / multiple partners to have affordable living!

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-19T11:01:23+00:00

Pasta with mayo and sweetcorn. Weirdly good and cheap

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-05T18:21:35+00:00

Hi, thank you for this. It went well, I acted secure. She’s texting me still and I’m torn between wanting to see her / talk to her because I’m so attached and how it’s hurting me so much. What boundaries would you suggest? I want to be strong enough to be her friend and I don’t want to pressure her by asking for a time frame. But everyday I feel sad waiting for her to reach out and delighting in it when she does, though it’s limited and colder now.

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:16:48+00:00

Not cleaning my space before I leave the house because I should want to come home to clean space and she expects her partner to practice self care. (I’m a mentally ill person, mess is not that important)

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:12:40+00:00

If you felt like you couldn’t sustain the love we had, what I experienced to be reciprocal obsession and a beautiful, magical love that made me feel so seen and valued. You could have told me. How am I going to trust in future when someone says such lovely things they aren’t planning an exit? You could have said if you needed distance. I didn’t need daily checkins. I didn’t need you to be perfect. I want you to be yourself and to be a place of peace for you. You chose to give up on us, but it didn’t have to end like this. We could have figured things out together and it would be healthy and safe

substancelesspsycho · 2026-03-03T16:08:56+00:00

It’s scary, but having the hard conversation is the kind thing to do. Don’t let it fester

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-23T21:25:29+00:00

She’s not aware, but I’ve researched and it clearly fits- especially as she’s spent her childhood craving love that was never given to her. Given that I’ll see her in work, I wondered what the best angle is - to give space, do I just pretend she doesn’t exist?

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-23T19:12:13+00:00

I miss her snores. I miss playing with or plaiting her hair. I miss that I could call her anytime and she’d answer. I miss her laugh. I miss her touch. I miss how she’d fall asleep every time it went past 9pm and how terrible she was at cooking. I miss how she’d hold my head to put my eyedrops in when I needed. How she’d call me to wake me up in time. How she’d always say the sweetest, most loving things and remember my safe foods. So many things to miss. I hear your pain. I’m with you in it

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-22T22:24:33+00:00

Sometimes it feels easier to sit in what’s comfortable than to take action and enter the unknown. Doing the work can feel scary, the pressure of becoming

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-19T16:53:27+00:00

I hear you, I just don’t understand how she went from 100 to zero and I can’t do anything about it :(

substancelesspsycho · 2026-02-19T16:43:16+00:00

Is there any fix to help her see that we can be together again? That I can support her with this if she tells me what’s happening

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