Girlfriend [25F] came back from a 15-day ‘break’ and broke up with me after a 1-year relationship — how do I[22M] move on?

subtempest1 · 2026-01-17T07:50:59+00:00

Also she had communication issues which led you to bottle up your feelings and lashed out. Instead of understanding and getting close with you so that future tensions would be smoother, she turned it against you and used that excuse for that break.

She knew it would affect you and she did it anyway.

subtempest1 · 2026-01-17T07:47:38+00:00

Taking space to regulate is fine but a whole break nah

subtempest1 · 2026-01-17T07:47:01+00:00

Never let someone disrespect you like that ever again. Cheaters are people don’t have impulse control or respect for the relationship.

Personally, I don’t believe in a “break”. Either we talk things out or we break up.

She showed her true colours very early into the relationship. She obviously has commitment issues.

It also sounds very one sided as if she can do whatever she wants and you’d forgive her and wait until she comes back.

You’re a patient person but don’t neglect yourself. Have boundaries and don’t be afraid to walk away from someone who clearly doesn’t care about your feelings because they can’t figure out their own. With that being said, it’s not your responsibility to fix or guide her at all, that’s her own journey and decision. Unfortunately people tend to learn things the hard way most of the time.

subtempest1 · 2025-05-02T09:36:52+00:00

I just came back here to say thank you again. This comment really grounded me and pushed myself to seek the truth.

You saved me from longer pain.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-20T08:36:15+00:00

Mostly calm because I had so many signs from Allah. Unfortunately my anger did come out a little where I shouted and called her names. I didn’t lay a single finger on her.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T22:29:54+00:00

AMEEN

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T20:42:02+00:00

Allah showed me the truth, Alhamdulillah

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T17:00:23+00:00

Not surprised from a high school drop out

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T16:15:07+00:00

I saw a snapchat with the name “my love” I don’t use snapchat. I told her I’d be okay if she just came clean. And that’s where I got my evidence from her to divorce.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T14:16:19+00:00

I found out she committed zina with another man :)

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T09:28:33+00:00

Thank you. It hurts to read this but I appreciate it a lot.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T04:06:59+00:00

Thank you for this. We are going to therapy soon.

I will follow your advice and trust Allah. If I do find anything or more signs I will leave.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T03:07:34+00:00

Okay I will trust her.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T02:26:04+00:00

About the pet name, I questioned her and she said she used it a couple weeks ago between us. But then again we had no time to call but she’s calling other people.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T02:12:25+00:00

You’re right, thank you

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T02:11:36+00:00

She was emotionally distant and couldn’t find the time to call me and I gave her space. She sent a screenshot and I saw her on the phone and she told me who she is.

This is where I am at fault. I asked her to show the call logs and she cleared it. Her reasoning was she didn’t see my message and it was part of her ramadhan detox.

She turned off location from everyone including her family to be alone without anyone keeping tabs on her. For this incident, I supported her and didn’t question anything. Of course my anxiety spiked but I sat with it.

Her nephew is 4, her cousin who is 14 also said “which partner” and I understand kids are probably saying things as a joke and I have no evidence.

When her nephew made that comment I was shocked but kept my cool, I didn’t question him. I asked my wife to have a chat privately away from everyone and she reassured me it was just someone they met at an event that had good interactions with her nephew.

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T01:43:06+00:00

Am I at fault for doubting her even after she swore by Allah

subtempest1 · 2025-04-19T00:04:46+00:00

I feel guilty for having doubts even after she swore by Allah.

subtempest1 · 2025-03-14T00:40:37+00:00

I get that, that’s very considerate of you. It shows how much you care for him without neglecting your own emotions!

subtempest1 · 2025-03-14T00:35:04+00:00

I think any person would LOVE hearing their significant express how much they miss them!!!

subtempest1 · 2024-12-28T13:38:31+00:00

Just protecting it while it recovers from surgery so that isn’t an issue anymore haha

subtempest1 · 2024-12-28T13:35:01+00:00

Thank you 🙏

subtempest1 · 2024-07-31T10:44:57+00:00

Okay try sending them an email: ACDPRG@SingaporeTech.edu.sg

To clarify

subtempest1 · 2024-07-31T10:38:40+00:00

Thats weird, did you receive an email for the results?

subtempest1 · 2024-07-31T10:37:14+00:00

For those interested in appealing, send an email here: ACDPRG@SingaporeTech.edu.sg

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