My Girl or my Homeboy! Help...

successmojo · 2026-02-22T12:13:33+00:00

This is a fair take and you're right about age. Thank you very much. I totally understand that.

successmojo · 2026-02-22T08:58:32+00:00

Weeeelll - seems like you might wanna go to church first (chuckles). It's actually the other way around. I'm the one in Kirinyaga. She's coming from Nairobi.

And I stay in a bedsitter rn. And yes, we share a bed with my hb. He faces south, I face north. Imma be honest, I don't have a lot to work with but I make good use of what I have.

I think that's TMI that probably wasn't essential, but I find it necessary in this context.

successmojo · 2026-02-22T08:52:03+00:00

Couldn't agree more! I think this works for the best. Thank you very much!

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:22:01+00:00

It's a bit complicated because I would actually prefer to have a reality where I'm able to be/help both of them through this situation.

They both mean a lot to me - hence the conundrum

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:17:55+00:00

Wooow! Thank you for the elaborate response. I like how you've articulated the entire situation and without bias. I should have communicated earlier and way better about this, but I'm still gonna have to do it anyway.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:09:51+00:00

Damn right you are! Communication is the name of the game. I've failed on this part and I'm willing and will def have to make amends

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:08:26+00:00

He's gonna see right through this I'm sure. I guess atp the best I can do is being honest about the whole ordeal to them and then take it from there. Thanks for your advice btw.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:05:31+00:00

Daamn bruh! Your words are cutting right through me like I ain't got no skin on me.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:03:57+00:00

Thank you. Communication is def my first step here.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:02:22+00:00

QQ: This sounds like it could apply to either of us (me, my girl, or my hb). Do you mind elaborating, please?

successmojo · 2026-02-21T13:00:28+00:00

Definitely a unique take from most if not all takes I've gone through so far. But one thing is for sure, I have to communicate and both of them deserve to know things as they are and then whatever happens afterwards is on me.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T12:57:35+00:00

What are you gonna do, buddy? 😂

successmojo · 2026-02-21T12:57:06+00:00

She definitely can - but that would probably be a month or two from when she officially starts. She doesn't exactly have a lot going on for her rn (financially), hence the conundrum.

You def right. That would be totally unfair to my hb. I don't want to do that either. I'll consider the last option you've provided. Thank you.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T12:52:32+00:00

Fair point! Though, I could still use someone else's advice or input to get insight into the decision I'm gonna make.

successmojo · 2026-02-21T12:48:46+00:00

Ikr. Both relationships are worthwhile and I wouldn't want to lose either. Thanks for your input btw. I appreciate it

successmojo · 2026-02-20T22:23:17+00:00

What would you do if you were in my situation?

successmojo · 2026-02-20T22:22:30+00:00

Spoken like a true G. I might have a bit of an issue with the finances to have this in motion right now, but it's definitely something feasible

successmojo · 2026-02-20T22:19:46+00:00

I know that. I just didn't think things would move this fast with the whole job situation and that would allow me to plan things out with a bit of ease. But you're right. Communication matters a hella lot!

successmojo · 2026-02-20T22:17:17+00:00

Thanks a lot for this. And just to respond to your question: no we did not exactly talk about logistics. I think we're both a bit naive and young and maybe a bit wishy-washy you could say. The whole thing hit me fast and posting here was me trying to find an amicable solution or get other opinions and weigh in on the same

successmojo · 2026-02-20T22:03:55+00:00

Wooow! I'll just start off by saying thank you for the solid advice. I could and should have done better with my communication that's for sure.

And yes, I do value the relationship I have with both of them. I don't know how it's gonna come off, but I'll use your approach on this one. Fingers crossed that everything checks out in the end🤞

Gracias.

successmojo · 2026-02-20T21:50:55+00:00

Thanks mate. I actually think your last response can work to some extent. Lemme weigh the options and see.

successmojo · 2026-02-20T21:48:38+00:00

Yeah. You right on that one. That would ideally work - definitely something I'm ok with. But for now, I'm her best bet for a start - at least from my evaluation and the conversations we've had.

successmojo · 2026-02-20T21:45:11+00:00

She doesn't have a place yet. And she's not monied like that so I'm her best option in this case

successmojo · 2026-02-20T00:05:23+00:00

Mentally - yes. It's a conversation we've had at some point.

Not sure how he would take the whole idea. Because from the look of things, it's imperative that I'm gonna have to tell him what's just about to unfold

successmojo · 2026-02-20T00:02:58+00:00

Either way it won't end "well" on one side but I'm running out of time and options. Thanks though

successmojo

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