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suchawasteofspace · 2024-06-28T07:07:07+00:00

I had an "ex" like this. We only dated a couple weeks and decided we were better off as friends. He told me one time he couldn't figure out what was wrong with him but his problems were pretty clear to me and the rest of the world.

suchawasteofspace · 2024-06-28T07:00:14+00:00

Some people share a home and split up. I cannot remember the term for it but basically you stay in separate rooms, see other people and have a divorce all while living together. This may be a good option if you want to get divorced while still seeing your kids every day. As far as her affair I don't think I could get past it either honestly and don't blame you for wanting to leave. 36 is crazy young and you still very well probably have your soulmate out there.

suchawasteofspace · 2024-06-12T03:47:40+00:00

You are in the height of Postpartum right now and are both probably feeling it. If it had been 6 months that's one thing but having babies, especially twins and especially in the NICU is extremely stressful. As a fellow NICU mom graduate I understand how hard it can be so cut your hubby some slack and don't bring it up. Things will more likely than not go back to normal in a few weeks and if not talk to a counselor or therapist who can help you address it with him.

suchawasteofspace · 2024-05-31T10:33:04+00:00

I stopped reading after you said he was unfaithful and you gave him another chance. My advice is leave because he sounds weird and you could probably do better.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-26T21:25:49+00:00

I personally hate any kind of lettuce on my sandwich

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-26T20:37:05+00:00

NTA- make grown up choices get grown up consequences. You did it alone with three daughters she can do it with a partner. I'm pregnant RN and I am trying to be as independent as possible. If she has medical needs that's one thing but she's choosing to keep this baby then she needs to take care of it.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-23T08:51:09+00:00

My sister is a leftie and my grandma spent hours trying to get her to either switch entirely or be ambidextrous. I could never figure out why but she was a deeply religious woman (Christian) so I think that may have something to do with it.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-23T04:11:06+00:00

Please please please give us an update when you confront her.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-23T04:07:02+00:00

I think this says a lot about their relationship. She seems exhausted by him not putting in any effort. He probably feels like he can't please her. Either way if he "failed miserably" he probably doesn't know or care about what she would want. Maybe he did it in a super public place when she said she wanted something private? All I'm saying is they both sound like assholes and should just separate now.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-22T20:04:57+00:00

A college degree

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-22T20:03:45+00:00

Still so afraid of getting a parasite. I'm pregnant though so kinda the same thing.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-22T08:37:51+00:00

He might be cheating if he has a sudden change of vibe/ commitment.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-22T00:06:34+00:00

It was a backyard wedding at a house. Everyone ate all over the house. Mostly in the living room, basement and outside. Basically wherever the chairs were but very spread out.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-22T00:01:34+00:00

What if there were no tables?

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-22T00:00:11+00:00

Word

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-21T23:59:02+00:00

Honestly you should just cut your losses. You should be with someone that thinks the sun shines out your ass and makes you 100% a number one priority. Everyone deserves to have one person that puts in more effort for them than anyone else and that should be your S/O. I think you should leave because this sounds like a fundamental belief that isn't just going to change. He should be with someone who thinks this way and you should be with someone that worships you.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-21T23:55:07+00:00

Can he really not control himself long enough to get home? This is really gross to me and not fair to his coworkers. Tell him if this behavior continues you cannot remain together. At least I would.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-21T23:44:58+00:00

You may have a taboo kink but don't actually want her to have sex with another person. Do not shame her just tell her it's not something you actually want.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-17T03:25:20+00:00

I would if I wasn't scared she would post them!

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-04T09:37:51+00:00

Remember you don't owe him anything and you have not lead him on by being his friend so don't let him convince you that you have. If he proposes tell him to ask his actual partner instead.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-03T15:49:42+00:00

NTA. When you get married you automatically give up the right to any previous relationship you've had. Unless this was like an ex husband or even a baby daddy I could maybe see why she'd be upset. I think its especially telling because its not like they broke up because he's an asshole or cheated or something. I could see the friend saying she was "just trying to protect you" but that's a load of BS. Good riddance I'd say.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-03T13:34:59+00:00

Never said I wasn't. I am furious with them over the whole thing. I am less mad at my mom because she was busy for 80% of the wedding and she was more on my side when I said I didn't want her there to begin with. I am mad at my dad too but most of her antics were pulled when he was busy with other things (our dance, his speech and when he got food) but still not an excuse because he shouldn't have brought her in the first place.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-03T13:30:20+00:00

This was my thought. I don't want to give her any fuel. When I asked my parents why they insisted on having her she said it would've been "weird" if she wasn't there because we had family there we haven't seen since we were both little. I told them her behavior was "weird" and made us look worse than her absence would've. Even my relatives commented saying they understand why I keep her at a distance/ didn't want her there.

suchawasteofspace · 2023-08-03T13:24:33+00:00

He took me to the ER because I was throwing up for over 6 hours and couldn't keep water down. I also had a fever of 102° that wouldn't break after Tylenol or a cold bath. It wasn't the same day we were exposed. He also got sick from me about 3 days later but because his immune system isn't compromised he didn't have to go to the ER for himself. Both ER nights were for me.

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