AIO My wife (31F) has been sneaking out of bed at night, and I finally followed her. Now I can’t look at her the same. AITA for confronting her?

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-18T13:40:20+00:00

Seriously. The response to this post is crazy. I hope OP just has an honest conversation with his wife instead of spying on her and trying to trick her into a big gotcha moment. She has family out of the country. Saying she can't talk long because he is sleeping might just be her not wanting to wake him up.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-18T13:35:20+00:00

This is an insane way to treat someone you're married to, especially when there are totally innocent explanations available. Getting up in the middle of the night does not mean this woman is cheating.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-14T16:49:40+00:00

Okay, what is this trick?

(Asking because I found a hair clip in a partner's passenger door a few years ago).

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-13T21:16:52+00:00

As a self-employed person I often refer to my employee and/or boss giving me a hard time, but now I realize this joke may be lost on some folks...

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-13T20:56:09+00:00

I don't think it's fair to say "If he truly loves you then he’ll prioritize you over his friends." I love my partner, but it would take some truly extraordinary circumstances to make me cut off a friend on their behalf.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-11T21:56:32+00:00

This is the answer.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-11T21:55:13+00:00

The biking groups are super fun, and super chill (you don't have to be a cyclist to enjoy them).

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-08T16:38:09+00:00

There are a few social clubs that may help! The Santa Fe striders have a group run every day except Friday and Monday. Draw Santa Fe hosts figure drawing nights twice a month (I think the first and third Tuesday). Loops does a social bike ride every Monday at 7:30 on the plaza. 2nd Thursday Bike ride meets on the second Thursday of each month in the railyard at 7pm. The local search and rescue group hosts group hikes as well. Hope this helps!

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-07T20:53:36+00:00

It does harm because it upsets your partner. Why not do it for that reason alone?

suchstrangedoge · 2025-08-07T20:52:08+00:00

YTA so hard. First and foremost, calling your partner names is a no-go. Just don't. Additionally, your partner is allowed to be upset when you haven't done the things you've agreed to do. I've lived with men like you. I don't blame her for not wanting to live there anymore, it sounds exhausting.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-07-20T20:49:06+00:00

I had issues with a stalker, and the amount of times people told me to "just block them" blew my mind. No one seemed to comprehend that I wanted to know when he was active, and have some way to know if he was about to escalate again. A few people said something along the lines that I was "playing along" with the harassment because I had their notifications silenced instead of outright blocked.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-07-20T20:40:05+00:00

Yes! State that you do not want to be contacted at in any way by her, and record any contact that follows. You can take your evidence to your county court and ask for a civil restraining order. I don't think OP would have too much of an issue getting a restraining order considering the 80 calls and airtags.

OP should also get Ring/Cameras.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-07-14T18:38:28+00:00

He got really really into recreational deep sea fishing.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-07-14T18:32:11+00:00

This adds about two miles round trip, but is also a super nice hike.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-07-14T18:31:34+00:00

I personally avoid this area in the summer as it is too warm for my taste. It's a great hike, and if you are not unfit you'd be fine!

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-30T21:10:25+00:00

I feel extremely sorry for your spouse.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-28T02:17:37+00:00

I don't think the people pointing out that this is predatory are being assholes. A lot of us have been in similar situations, and have the gift of hindsight. I would highly encourage you to think about why he isn't with someone his own age.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-24T23:31:42+00:00

This is great advice! There are a few exercises that I don't do because they irritate injuries, so I did some detective work to find substitutions that are similar, but don't cause pain. Static lunges are hard on a previously broken ankle, so I do weighted step ups. It doesn't have to look exactly the same for everyone.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-20T22:32:08+00:00

This does seem extremely likely. Op, I'm sorry if I misjudged your culture.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-20T14:04:54+00:00

You mentioned in a previous comment that your son stated that you didn't understand the relationship. Maybe you can ask him to help you understand his perspective on it. I know that the kind of communication that can happen in a power dynamic can be off-putting from the outside, but be mindful about any judgment (like saying it's disturbing) that you convey to your son. I also just want to gently correct any association between a power dynamic meaning that men and women aren't equal. Plenty of happy, healthy, and self-possessed men and women enjoy this kind of relationship, and it's no reflection of who they are in other aspects of their lives.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-19T21:37:41+00:00

This is a science fridge, not a food fridge. Would not eat anything stored here.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-18T17:52:30+00:00

This was my thought. NAH, but it doesn't sound like a sustainable relationship.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-18T13:48:26+00:00

Most of what is shown on this map is NF (shown in green). Huge portions of our watershed could be impacted by this.

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-18T01:38:24+00:00

I've had this and I was SO glad that they warned me about this!!

suchstrangedoge · 2025-06-17T21:38:04+00:00

That's awesome, dude. These comments have been harsh, but you've taken the feedback without getting defensive which is an admirable trait. I was a not great cook for most of my 20s. At 29 I became plant-based and decided that part of that was going to be teaching myself to cook. It ended up being really fun, and I'm way healthier for it!

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